Apparently I'm a wimp for not liking horror.

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DH all excited for stranger things today. I watched the first 3 series because he kept going on at me to watch it. Didn't like the gore side of things and closed my eyes but some bits really did make me feel sick/unsettled (the rats in particular and I really don't like the monsters! Oh and particularly bobs death really got me)

Today, I'm feeding baby and dh puts on stranger things and I said I'd rather the baby (5 months) didn't see it. I know it probably won't traumatise her so I took her into another room and we're playing with her toys with baby tv on.

Dh then makes the statement that I'm such a wimp when it comes to scary movies etc.

Simple fact is I don't like them. Never have. Never will. I don't like blood/violence/gore or scary things. I'm not a fan of stranger things - can't help that.

He says He's joking but he does it all the time if something violent/scary comes on.

He's now not watching it but he's clearly annoyed even though I've told him to watch it!!

So my question is:

YABU - stop being a wimp
YANBU - you can't help what you don't like! DH needs to stop with the jibes.

YANBU. I used to watch horror films when I was younger but then realised that I just didn't like them, so stopped. It's perfectly fine to do that. My DH watches ST, the Walking Dead etc. by himself while I go to bed with a book and no nightmares.

I agree. I love films like Insidious and The Conjuring but hate films like Saw. There's no way they're the same category. Strangely I've worked in quite a gory job in the past dealing with dead bodies which I was able to deal with, but I can't watch gore in films.

YANBU. I hate horror too, can’t stand anything remotely gory or jumpy. No one has the right to tell you what is or is not horror as it’s all subjective.

I am a total wuss and proud of it! I don’t feel I’m missing out on anything by not watching these films/programmes. Everyone has their own tolerance levels.

YANBU.

Nothing wrong with not liking horror same as any other genre, but Stranger Things really is tame, it's pretty much a kids show, or early teens maybe. My friend did her middle of the night breastfeeding in front of Squid Game😀

@CaveMum of course it's somewhat subjective but I reserve the right to tell you that Countryfile isn't horror.

@Thatswhyimacat ah but what if you’re a vegan watching an article on dairy farming 😜

I genuinely thought stranger things was a teen thing, it’s a horror?

I'm the same. Spooky, tense, jumpy is fine. Excessive gore and extreme violence I can't watch. I'm also really scared of zombies.

I don't mind mind gore but a lot of horror is cheaply made crap. Stranger things started off good but soon descended into nonsense. You like what you like, he is being a dick.

Well I’m a wimp too!
Always hated horror.
Had a big row with my DH once because he tried to force me to watch the walking dead. Had a big old tantrum when I refused.
We had words and he’s not done it since!

I could have written this. One of my favourite films is The Woman in Black because it's so spooky but not gory in any way. I don't watch gangster films much either because I can't bear to watch torture scenes or brutal, gratuitous fights.

I think I'm the sort of person that over-empathises to be fair. I cry easily at films too.

I just find them boring. I'm not scared of them. Just can't be bothered/not interested in violence and fear as drama.

‘Us’ was an experience, wasn’t it? I still don’t even know if I liked it. Bonkers film!

OP, I’ve never heard ST described as horror, before. I suppose it is, but it’s TV-14, so hardly terrifying gore. However, that’s really beside the point. You get to like what you like, and there’s no call for him to mock your preferences.

I do think taking a 5 month old out of the room was a bit much, though.

I am a massive horror fan. It’s easily my favourite genre and it was the subject of my dissertation at university.

However, absolutely YANBU not to like it! It’s totally understandable. Also, it’s not as if you can ignore a horror film. If someone puts on a film that’s boring or unfunny or just plain crap, you can just kind of tolerate it, but it’s pretty impossible to ignore something that actually scares you.

My DP hates horror and finds it stressful. (He also hates rollercoasters, which I love.) I don’t see it as a weakness and I would never expect him to sit through something that makes him stressed or uncomfortable.

PPs are obviously right that your baby wouldn’t be remotely affected by Stranger Things, and I would have said that was a bit OTT of you but then I saw your update about your brother making you watch horror when you were little, which must have been truly traumatic for you at such a young age. With that in mind I can see why you felt you wanted to take your daughter out of the room. You obviously knew she wasn’t really at risk but your childhood experiences have understandably affected you and I can absolutely see why you had such a strong protective urge to remove her from a situation that brought back those memories.

Stranger things is pretty scary, you wouldn't let a young child watch it

I'm trying to watch stranger things... please don't laugh at me and I'm really avoiding spoilers.... but if I talk about a previous movie you'll know what I mean with the latest episodes of ST.....

So when I was 7 or 8, the original mummy came out. It terrified me. Mum said I used to have bad nightmares that the mummy was in my room. I know it's looked at a comedy these days but at that age, it terrified me...

Anyway, I'm trying with stranger things tonight..... the new demon reminds me of the mummy so I'm very unsettled and back as that scared little girl. My heart is pounding and I feel so anxious.

That's all I'm saying.

I love horror, and I love gratuitous blood and guts.
It is romance films that have me recoiling.

Are you generally an anxious person, OP?

YANBU
I've never been able to stomach horror, or anything gory. I don't give a shit how much people laugh and call me a wuss, I still won't do it.

Stranger things is pretty scary, you wouldn't let a young child watch it

Yes, the then 12 year old determined to watch it, even with it being a 13 recommendation (I think?) so I gave in as nearly recommended age.
He found it a bit disturbing though and hasn't watched any further past the first series!

TBH it's a bit pathetic of him to call you a wimp, he sounds 11 years old.
I don't like horror or gore either and my family knows it and accepts it. No one has ever called me a wimp!
( And if I'm a wimp - happy to be one).

I dont like horror either

Yes 😔

I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. It sounds very stressful and your husband should be more supportive.

Please stop watching things that affect you in this way. There’s really no reason to.