SIL is getting married overseas and we are invited. It is a minimum no. of nights stay in a large villa. We will need airport car park or 2-way taxi to airport, flights, 2 dogs in kennel and a cattery, car hire (as its in the middle of nowhere) and 2 rooms as there are 5 of us. Then there are the other costs on top of that. It is going to cost loads.
SIL and DH are not close, and she has very little to do with our family. One of the reasons why I have little to do with her is because she throws her toys out the pram when she doesn't get what she wants - this is the AIBU to follow.
Initially we said we were not going to go due to the cost, versus the very little relationship we have with her. However, this caused a lot of upset with PIL and a lot of emotional blackmail to my DH. Also, when I sought counsel from friends and family their overwhelming view was "it's his sister".
The issue is, I have said that I (we) will go, but I am not staying at this accommodation. I don't want to be cooped up with people I don't know, or my DH's extended family who are rude to me and my DC. I am happy to go to the wedding day, but the rest of the time I am there we are doing our own thing. Also, this means I can reduce the no. of days we are there. I don't want to spend more holiday days on this than I have to. SIL has kicked off as the villa needs a certain no. of people to stay there (although I am sure others will stay there) and she wants all her family to have meals out together, days out all in the run up to the wedding and make it a 5 day wedding. This is my idea of hell. Plus I feel like I am enabling her behaviour, which I am heartily sick of.
Who IBU here?