Let down after buying ed sheeran tickets for family

[lonelylou09]

Aibu to be massively annoyed at being let down just 2 weeks before the concert when i booked and paid for the tickets in September last year?
Basically i live 200 miles away from all my family and normally only see any of them 2/3 a year when i visit. I always stay with a certain relative that im very close with and last year she had a horrible time when her abusive husband left her for someone else which i did my best to help her through.
So as a treat and to cheer us both up i booked the tickets near her so we could have a really nice girls day out and something to look forward to. I booked time off work (unpaid) so i could travel up and spend time with her and her 2 dds, as well as catch up with other family.

She was working when i booked the tickets so i checked with her first and said Book it off work now.
She then got the sack and has been out of work since.
We spoke last week and discussed plans and the concert ect..all good.

Today she messaged me shes got her old job back, starts this weekend and wont be able to get the night off... Can i take someone else with me?

I said just tell them you cant work that day.... But shes just saying she probably cant as thats why she got the sack before.
It also means ive now got no where to stay as if shes working she will have to have her sister stay over to have the 2dd so no room for me.

So im now not sure what to do now.
Probably try to sell the tickets and cancel my holiday as well

Am i being unreasonable or is she being ungrateful?

@catandcoffee ....thank you for that... I shall try to remember that saying in future

Sorry. That really sucks. I really feel for you. I hope she was at least very apologetic and offered to pay you etc. etc.

YABU to expect someone to place a concert above their employment.

@MunchMunch yes ive seen him before.. And i actually called her while i was there as she was excited for me going and i said wish you were here and she said me too. So thats why i tried to make a special day for her.
I just felt like she wasnt that bothered as she didnt seem willing to try to sort it out and to let me know over a message when we were planning it over the phone a few days ago really hurt

That’s rubbish. I think she should have at least tried to get the night off but maybe she just wanted to secure the job. Still shot for you though. As for having nowhere to stay, could you not just sleep on her sofa or something if you could find someone else to go with?

I’ve seen Ed in concert a few time’s and will be seeing him next month, I wouldn’t miss it, I’d find a way to go. He’s definitely worth a night on a sofa for. 😉

@toastedbagiel its not just that.. She also left me with no where to stay if shes not going and not even mentioned that. I was travelling 200 miles to take her.. Its not like i can just take someone else.
I guess id just like her to say.. Im going to do my best to get the night off as this was booked 10 months ago.. Rather than.. Oh i might ask but i know they will say no

If it’s London and you sell them… I’ll buy 😄😁

AND he pays tax in this country, unlike a to of other shysters who scarper to cheaper tax regimes the minute they amass a fortune. Yes he contributes and gives back in other ways working with lesser known talent😇

@VickyGervais i could stay with my dad but long story short i only met him a few years ago and living 200 miles away hasnt helped.. He also has 3 of my younger siblings living with him so although I have stayed there before ive literally always stayed with this other family member as we've been like best friends.
Shes not even mentioned anything about me staying with her or not.. But if shes working then her sister will have to stay over to have the dds so no room for me.
So i might not have minded so much if she had said you can still come and stay here tho which ive done in the past when shes worked and ive looked after the dds for her and taken her to work ect and ive even taken them out for the day so she can sleep.
So shes just left me in limbo at short notice

@Calmmedownn sorry my nearest is Cardiff but i bought for Manchester.. At least someone on here is a fsn 🤣🤣

YANBU.

Surely when someone starts a job, one of the questions is 'do you have any time booked off' - and the answer should be 'yes I have plans for this singular Saturday'?

I agree her job is important, but why wasn't this important to her as well?!

I started a new job on the 19th September. On the 21st I went away to Lanzarote for a fortnight. Told them at the interview I had prebooked holiday.

Yep. He’s a good egg. I never understand the hate he receives, if people don’t like his music, fine, but Ive seen some very personal attacks on him on here over the years. Nasty fuckers.

Thats shit that’s she’s not offered for you to even sleep on the floor OP, it’s one thing letting you down for work, but to not be really apologetic and try to help you out is really bad.

'I started a new job on the 19th September. On the 21st I went away to Lanzarote for a fortnight. Told them at the interview I had prebooked holiday.'

Guessing you hadn't already been sacked from that job for not turning up to work though.

@ChiefWiggumsBoy thank you for just getting it. I even asked her if she would just day if she didnt want to go and she said of course she does but she obviously doesnt want to ask/ say she needs the time off. She only applied on Saturday she said so it was short notice them getting her to start so quickly but i dont know the process behind it. I dont think she was interviewed.. Just applied online and was accepted.
She lost the job previously for being unreliable while she was on probation but we've had plenty of people start work with us and honoured any prebooked holidays as its on the employment forms. So i dont know if she was asked about that.
Bad timing for sure.. Just would of liked some reassurance that she would try considering how much she knew it would upset me.

@VickyGervais i know... She did say she would pay me back for her ticket but i bought it for her as she hasnt got the money for it and i was trying to give us both something to look forward to and enjoy together.
The fact that shes not even mentioned me still staying there when shes fully aware that's what was planned has just dropped me right in it as i cant afford to drive a 400 mile trip, give someone else the ticket for free and pay to stay somewhere... And then do i just go round for a cup of tea like nothings happened or not even see her?
Awkward

If you were going on Saturday night in Manchester the travelodges seem to be sold out. Hope you manage to sort something out though .

I'd list the tickets now and hope for the best, while working on a plan b, plan c etc. His gigs must be sold out, so not a terrible one to try to resell for.
And if they do sell, be thinking of a different lovely treat for yourself for that time off, that doesn't involve a long trip to sleep on a sofa!

Is it Manchester, 10th June, I may have someone interested in buying them if it is.

Given they've already sacked her for being unreliable I can understand why she hasn't asked. It would be different if it was a truly new job.

You are both BU and NBU.

You are right to be annoyed, especially about accommodation, but put yourself in her shoes. A single mum who has a crappy job & is too frightened of losing it again by asking to attend a concert. Hopefully she's still looking for a new job, but looking after her children come first. I'm sure she's not rejoicing, either.

I'd try to sell them, even at a small loss & if not, go anyway & book a cheap hotel driving distance away from the concert that won't have inflated prices/booked out.

This is why my rule is to only ever do what suits me & always have a contingency plan, expecting people will stuff you around, especially if it doesn't cost them.

Well she could have told them she'd start after the concert date. They must be pretty desperate to have decided to take her back!

AND he pays tax in this country, unlike a to of other shysters who scarper to cheaper tax regimes the minute they amass a fortune.

lovely to hear that. I'm sure he's no angel, but he seems like a genuinely nice fellow. And i absolutely loved what he did with Bring Me The Horizon at the Brits.

Understandable that you are upset and frustrated, but FFS, she needs to start on the right foot if she was sacked before!

Do whatever you can to mitigate costs / save the trip but stop guilt tripping your sister.

Maybe she could get an evening babysitter and then you take over when you get back, so you have a place to stay?