"Have a good eve"

[Newusername101]

NC

When friends end a message with "have a good evening" do you see this as them saying in not so many words "I don't want to message you anymore tonight" or do you read "have a good eve" differently.

It depends what time it's sent and how much chit chat went on before

I disagree - that tells you nothing about what's going on at their end. How do you know they aren't knee deep in chores, meeting a deadline, about to put their child to bed, have a bath, have sex etc. etc.

Is there a back story?

Yep, they're done. When someone phones me - and I have had enough of talking (usually after 35 to 45 minutes,), I say 'anyway, I'd better let you go.' That's my cue to leave. Sometimes they say, 'anyway I best go, I've got loads to be getting on with.' which is a cue for them to go. 9 times out of 10, I am ready to go by then too.

As for texting/whatsapping, yeah I will sometimes say 'have a good evening anyway.' and that does mean 'I want to go now.'

And of course it's not rude. As a previous poster said would you prefer they just started ignoring your messages instead and didn't even say goodbye? Now that is rude!

@DinoWoman

You're totally right OP. I personally prefer it when I'm told to bugger off and have a shit evening. When we these people get it?

@Newusername101 and @shebuildsquickmachines (the ONE poster who agrees with the OP,) can you explain why it's RUDE to say 'have a good evening,' to try to wrap up the conversation? Would you rather they say 'I am bored with you now, fuck off!'

Also, maybe you can answer THIS... how do YOU suggest the conversation ends then?

Sounds to me like you are wounded, and butt-hurt, because someone else has decided the conversation has ended, and you think you're too important and special to be shut down for the the evening, and YOU are the one who decides when the conversation stops! Like, how DARE someone stop speaking to MEEEEEE!

It's not rude. It's politely saying they're doing other stuff now so the conversation is at an end.

@orwellwasright

Telling someone you know well to do one because your want to watch telly is far more natural.

Maybe to you, but not to everyone. Everyone is different and everyone has their own way of dealing with things.

@Fink

What I see as a bit rude is me texting something along the lines of 'Ok, I'm off to bed now, [sleepy emoji], sleep tight!' and them still texting me back several times, I know quite a few people who do that. Not just an 'ok, night night' type reply, but actually carrying on the conversation.

Oh God I hate this too. So attention seeking and needy. 'Talk to me talk to me me, whyyyy won't you talk to me?! Pay me ATTENTION pleeeeeeeeeeze!' Also - as I said in the last post- it suggests that the person who thinks it's rude is probably butt hurt because they think their time is more important than yours, and THEY get to decide when the conversation ends. They don't like having someone else decide, because they're so special and important!

I don't get offended if someone else ends the conversation, because I'm not attention-seeking, precious, and needy.

Sometimes I get really fed up of people who are bored but keep texting you rubbish as they have nothing to do and want to keep a conversation going. I usually say something like.....oh well, supper is calling, enjoy your evening. After that I don't answer anymore. I don't think it is rude, to keep a conversation going regardless is rude in my opinion.

I'd read it as "I don't want to message you any more tonight", which is absolutely fine. Nobody is obliged to prioritise texting you over eating dinner, watching Eastenders or whatever it is they want to do with their evening.

No it isn’t rude.

Not rude at all

I think it's rather rude to start a thread, message " thanks for the replies " without engaging in the conversation and then wander off without so much as a by you leave!

If we're being picky about etiquette

Not rude, polite

No, it’s not rude. They have a life outside of their phone. It’s a polite way to say ‘I’m going to do something else now’, rather than just leaving your messages unread

Exactly this. Nothing rude about it at all.

Why on earth have you name changed for this? Bizarre.

I don’t think it’s rude. It’s just letting you know they’re not planning on sitting whatsapping all evening and are off to do something else.
If you’re having a “live” text conversation - I.e. messaging back and forth and replying immediately it would be ruder to just stop replying.

Does this happen to you a lot OP?

Unless you've asked them an important question and they've replied only with "Have a good evening", it's not rude. They're saying they're going to enjoy theirs, enjoy yours too

This is not a fuck off at all, polite or otherwise.

No, if they dont want to text any more they dont have to. They dont owe you anything

Agree with this. It’s a polite way of letting the other person know you won’t be carrying on the conversation.

Polite way to end a conversation.

It's not rude to need to end a conversation and do it by wishing someone well.

Are you going to come back and tell us how you THINK a conversation should be ended then @Newusername101 ?

It could be rude depending on the context:
‘I’m devastated, my cats just been knocked over’
’oh dear, have a good evening’
is rude.
9/10 it’s fine.

"Have a good eve" - not rude

Not responding to people when they have answered/asked you questions - rude