Thank you! How many times are people defending AH going to reference the UK case when a good portion of what she said has now been proven to be a lie, and when there were various pieces of evidence not accepted? Some of the evidence that was submitted has now been credibly disputed or even debunked.
I'd go as far as to say any findings in the UK case are now essentially irrelevant.
It's staggering, how willing some people are to automatically believe women. I was painted as an abusive, narcissistic gaslighter. People believed this and often threatened physical violence against me. Meanwhile, I was letting this woman live in my house for free (after her "friends" basically turfed her out), letting her 18 year old autistic son live with us for free (who she never ever took out or spent any time with, despite me attempting to encourage her), taking her on holidays, all paid for by me, having to work from home while she stood in the background, drunk at 8am and making belittling comments while I was on work calls, separating me from my family and friends, starting arguments with me about female friends until I cut them off etc.
I've been there. I've been made out to be the abuser. I've been refused a restraining order despite months of harassment via email and social media after finally getting her out of my house, I've reported numerous incidents to the police and then found out via their online portal they've concluded their investigations without anyone informing me or her even being interviewed and no action being taken and I've had to take myself to therapy because of the defensive mess she turned me into which ruined the relationship that followed. All the while, I've never lifted a finger against a woman. I've never gaslighted a person. I've never abused anyone. But there are still people out there who think I have. It's horrendous, having to just accept that people think that way about you, despite everything you've been put through.
So yes, I am over the moon that a man has finally stood up and brought an abusive woman to account. I am reassured that people will believe the truth. I am encouraged that a falsely damaged reputation can be salvaged.
But that doesn't mean I want to see genuine female victims put off coming forward. It doesn't mean that I don't have an issue with the low rate of rape convictions. It doesn't make me a mysoginist. I stand by ALL victims of abuse, male or female. I'd encourage some of you to do the same.