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AIBU to not want fizzy drinks at my kids party

276 replies

Anorthernlass · 23/05/2022 11:09

So to be clear I'd bought the diet, caffeine free varieties, plus other homemade fizzy stuff just so they're not missing out (yes I know about the sweetners but it's a one-off). So when a parent turns up with 40 cans of sugar loaded drinks and they all run to grab them before I've even noticed or had a chance to offer anything else... its very annoying! Cue spirited, cheeky kids turning into little vandals - tantrums and tummyaches galore... not an exaggeration.

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OneToThree · 23/05/2022 11:13

Shit happens, move on 🤷🏻‍♀️

Marblessolveeverything · 23/05/2022 11:13

I would not want my child drinking the caffeine /sugar free versions they destroy their stomach. For birthday parties kids would expect typical fizzy drinks - it's part of the party experience in my kids case it's one of the rare times they get the can of coke/orange etc.

violuhts · 23/05/2022 11:14

well, it would depend. did you mention beforehand you didn't want anyone to bring any fizzy pop? if so, then YANBU as they went against your wishes, but if you didn't, YABU and have to let it go, as they didn't know, even if it's annoying! x

SleeplessInEngland · 23/05/2022 11:15

"Diet" soft drinks are just as bad for different reasons, FYI.

Johnnysgirl · 23/05/2022 11:16

A random parent brought 40 cans of fizzy drink to your party? Can you give some context? It sounds so very unlikely.

Sisisimone · 23/05/2022 11:17

Are you in the UK? There is no such thing as sugar laden fizzy drinks any more post sugar tax, they are all full of artificial sweeteners (with the exception of original coca cola). As a one off I'd rather my dd had sugar than artificial sweeteners tbh. If you're talking really young kids though I'd just be supplying squash and water.

BringbackSecretchocolatebar · 23/05/2022 11:17

Yabu -I thought it was a party? The sugar free versions contain a lot more crap than the regular stuff, I'd be more worried about them. If they don't get fizzy drinks all the time what's the problem?

ElenaSt · 23/05/2022 11:17

You said yourself that it was a one off with the crappy drinks you bought so why is the generous parent in the wrong for providing equally as bad shitty drinks?

Honaloulou · 23/05/2022 11:18

you can’t have the moral high ground when you’re already giving children crap to drink.

NatriumChloride · 23/05/2022 11:18

Sugary drinks does not lead to kids acting like vandals and having tantrums.

ElenaSt · 23/05/2022 11:19

Tantrums and tummyaches? Maybe for some sensitive children but not every child has an adverse reaction to sugar.

Justcallmebebes · 23/05/2022 11:19

I wouldn't have any sugary (or additive laden sugar free) drinks of any description in my house let alone at a kids party but then I'm the sugar police and not very popular as a result. Especially at kids parties 🤣🤣

Furrbabymama87 · 23/05/2022 11:19

I only buy sugar free pop, the kids don't have loads of it because they normally drink no added sugar squash. But if it was a one off thing like a party, I wouldn't be bothered.

elizabethdraper · 23/05/2022 11:20

I don't know any kids parties that have fizzy drinks
It's all miwadi and water here

SheWoreYellow · 23/05/2022 11:20

As the host, it’s up to you what crap you do and don’t want to provide.

But I think the sugar rush has been disproven and so I don’t really see the difference. I don’t see how sugar would give a tummy ache?

ElenaSt · 23/05/2022 11:20

It's a bit like saying you provided Vapes for the kids but a parent turned up with nicotine patches.

nomistake · 23/05/2022 11:22

So you'd let kids drink cans of pure chemicals but not sugar? I wouldn't have either tbh. How old are the kids?

MangoMaddie · 23/05/2022 11:22

Why did a parent bring 40 cans to your party? This is odd and annoying whatever your views on fizzy drinks.

How old are the kids? I've never been to a party for kids under 10 with anything served other than water or weak squash, so YANBU to object to fizzy drinks, but YABU to give them the diet versions, which are just as bad.

HSKAT · 23/05/2022 11:22

Why did the parent turn up with a load of cans?

Username917778 · 23/05/2022 11:22

What age kids party? I'd have a different response to 3rd birthday to a 13th.

Johnnysgirl · 23/05/2022 11:26

Did you ask the invitees to bring a dish, rather than cater the party yourself, op?
It's the only possible explanation for someone to think they needed to cater the drinks side of things Confused
Bizarre of you if you did.
Bizarre of her if you didn't.

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/05/2022 11:29

It’s fizzy pop, not crack

Happyplace88 · 23/05/2022 11:30

No way was the pop responsible for tummy aches and tantrums 😂 YABU and dramatic,

ObjectionSustained · 23/05/2022 11:30

The drinks you provided were no better than the drinks brought by the parent. Why did they all have stomach aches and tantrums? Seems a very odd reaction to a singular fizzy drink?

I really wouldn't care tbh. Unless you were against your own child having one; but in that case you could've stopped them. Not really sure what the issue is?

ThettaReddast · 23/05/2022 11:30

On the oddness of the parent turning up with cans of drink. One of the parents of a child in my DS’s class has built up a reputation for this. For the past half a dozen or so parties she turns up with some sort of elaborate ‘treat’ for the kids that she unveils about halfway through the party with no warning or conversation with the host. Things like sweet cones, elaborately decorated cupcakes, bubble wands etc. nice in theory, but pretty rude behaviour, like she doesn’t think the host is doing/will do a good enough job.