Upset at her reaction to me?

[drivetosurvive]

Remained friends with a group from school, one of them fell out with one from the group and started distancing herself. I had my birthday and didn’t invite her as I thought it would be awkward and she got annoyed. We saw each other at a mutual friends wedding and neither of us spoke to each other. And that was it, happened about six years ago (ish) and not seen each other since.

I’m now the manager of a coffee shop and she happened to come in today and I saw her freeze in the door way looked panicked/worried and left.

i just feel hurt that someone would have that kind of reaction to seeing me.

You picked sides. And that hurt her. Justifiably so.

I don't think it's a reverse. I have lost count of the number of times I've heard people say, "oh, but Anne and Mary are on the outs so it will be awkward if I invite both" and I respond with, "if you are friends with both Anne and Mary you invite both and then leave t to them to sort out."

But apparently, responses to this thread notwithstanding, that is NOT the standard response.

You dumped her as a friend then expect her to react well to you? No, that’s not how it works.