Being unreasonable in wanting teenagers to come on holiday with us.

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I have two DD’s 17 and 18. I have two weeks off in the summer. The first week the youngest has a sporting event so that’s a no go for booking a holiday.
looking at a cottage with hot tub and somewhere where there are lots of things to do. Told youngest last night and they were like absolutely not, and they would rather stay at home.
i have offered to pay for a couple of days in London but they don’t want to do the underground by themselves.
so the options are leave them at home or bring them with us to have them moaning the whole holiday. I am open to any ideas they have of where they want to go. However They are just not bothered. We can’t really afford to go out of the country so it would have to be uk.
i would feel a bit mean leaving them at home. Most of my friends who have children the same age still go away with them.
So shall I just leave them at home, or any suggestions of where the moaning Myrtles would approve of.

*they don't want to go with us

This is one where it’s really up to the kids. My eldest stopped coming away at 16. He and his girlfriend sort their own trips. My youngest is likely to always shout yes if she’s offered a holiday 😆

I’d 100% leave them if they don’t want to come. My almost 18yr old is coming to the US with us this summer but it could be the last. My 28yr old still comes on holiday with me and goes with his Nanna. But all kids are different and most at 18 want to go with their mates not mum & dad

I'd leave them - it used to annoy me when my mum and dad wouldn't do anything without me. Even when I did go away with them, I didn't even get an evening alone at the cottage/whatever while they went out for dinner because if I said I didn't fancy it they just would change the plans and not go!!

If they actively would rather stay home then I don't think it's a problem. You could always do a weekend with them somewhere at another time.

Eldest doesn't like holidays and would stay with his Dad from age 15 onwards.
Youngest liked holidays and came with me up until about 18 both abroad and U.K.
Does his own thing now, which leaves me free to do likewise.

Maybe ask them what they would want to do for a week and see if you can reach a compromise.

I understand the tube thing if they're not from an area that has one.

Mine would have chosen to stay home too..