DH wants to do everything together all the time

[justwantaliein]

Me and DH use to have lots of friends but I guess years deep and three kids we are all each other have. We do everything together and sometimes it's tricky as we want to do different things with different people.

Example I planned to go for dinner with mum tonight but he's working so I've had to cancel for tomorrow. Now his mum and dad have said they are coming to visit tomorrow so he wants me to cancel my mum again until Sunday.

I have said it's fine me and mum can go shopping tomorrow with the kids and go for lunch and you go see your family but he is saying no as he wants to go shopping aswell and why can't I just do it Sunday.

I love him to pieces but it's so frustrating sometimes I don't know how he would cope if I have lots of friends. I would love for him to start seeing his friends again but he says he doesn't have the time.

AIBU? I feel a bit trapped

before we actually decide what we are doing

This "we" seems to be the flaw in your thinking. Why does it have to be a we that decides what we are doing.
You exist as a separate person outside of being a couple. You can decide what you are doing. Then just tell him.

Perhaps it would be worth doing some deep reflection on where you got your ideas about how couples operate. Were your parents always a "we", never individuals?
What is making you feel like it should be "we" instead of "I" deciding trivial things and making everyday plans?

So it was the perfect time to see your mum? I really don't get why you cancelled.

I don’t understand why you’ve cancelled? Seems a very suffocating relationship.

I’d ignore the dithering completely and pretend I’d not noticed. If he directly requests you change your arrangements, keep your existing arrangement with family and instead pull your diary out and find a new date which works for him, even if it’s in a few weeks time

oP please text some of your old friends and ask how they are and if you get chatting ask if they want to catch up in person.