Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

I wonder what Annie will give the other friend as a gift? The voucher? She’s kind of shot herself in the foot, won’t be part of the wonderful present and will have to put her hand deep in her pocket to buy her solo present now. We need an update just for that!

When is the birthday so we can find out what happened

Anne has seen this thread, as 1% voted YABU.

Anne, you tight so and so, you should be ashamed .

Anne is a proper little stinker isn't she!

Thanks for the update and what a shame that a great present has been ruined by one person's utterly baffling CF behaviour. Never heard the likes.

The OP has been back and updated to say what has happened.

Oh this would have been PERFECT. Evil, but perfect 😂

Anne is definitely the Queen of CFuckery. I am glad she ended up calling it on herself. What a stunned beotch.

I hope the birthday girl enjoys her gift. In all honesty, to be spiteful, I would find another 20% off and purchase the more expensive one. Ask everyone of the 4 if anyone can contribute a bit more to make it happen. Relish in Anne’s reaction and the surprise and delight of the birthday girl.

Well done for standing your ground and Anne shot herself in the foot calling you all out for not paying.

What do we bet Anne buys Birthday Girl some coffee grounds/pods to get ‘in’ on the group’s coffee machine without having to pay for it?

It sounds like an urban myth, though.

The skeptics me wonders - if only the two CFs were present at the dinner (which clearly they were, if no other mug was around to pick up the bill), which one of them then came onto MN to share the story of their very own CFness…..?

It may well be a myth; but iirc, it was a MNer at the next table who witnessed it happening live!

What do we bet Anne buys Birthday Girl some coffee grounds/pods to get ‘in’ on the group’s coffee machine without having to pay for it?

Don't be mean - I'm sure Anne will get her a lovely present.

It's amazing what some generous people give away on FreeCycle these days....

I sincerely wish your ill friend the best.
I hope she loves her gift.

While you are at it, gift yourself ditching the truly awful Anne.

Life is really too short to have dross like her cluttering up your life.

1. send it back
2. get £500 option
3. make plans to cut Anne out in future

You should all send her £112.

What is she like! Send £112. Then put on group chat that you just sent £112. Leave it at that.

If there was ever a Classics thread dedicated to CF's, this should be at the top.

I can quite envisage Anne cutting out those 2-for-1 theme park coupons on the sides of cereal boxes and giving them as though they were valuable standalone presents!

I've just remembered another thread from a while back, about a DSD (iirc) who booked a table at a fancy restaurant for her DSM's birthday and genuinely believed it was an amazingly generous present. The present was not a meal at, or vouchers for, the restaurant - she had literally just phoned the restaurant and booked a table for two, for her DF and DSM, tying them to a specific place, date and time, and committing them to spending a lot of money on whatever they ordered when there! She was a fully grown woman, with no SEN - not a little girl with her heart in the right place.

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The most annoying thing in that thread was the OP's indulgence of her SD foolish behaviour!! She was enabled into believing her behaviour was appealing and no one appeared to tell her to grow up 🙄

Whilst other posters have said it all, I wanted to commend you on your exceptionally clear explanations of the situation and subsequent clarifications. Exemplary!

Tell her to send it back and get a refund and then go back to plan B so it costs you £100. What is it with people spending a small fortune on friends whilst they are struggling financially especially today. £500 is expensive enough she should be grateful she has lovely friends who can afford to get her a nice present at all in the first place. Let us know how you get on.