Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

Good grief! She needs telling. What even begs belief is that someone thinks YABU.
She's no friend, she deceived you all. Pay £112.

This is perfect.

OP show your friends this thread and this post. It words it perfectly, direct but not arsey.

She either accepts £112 as agreed or sends it back and gets the cheaper version. Anne can choose. But absolutely no way should she get away with it.

Can’t understand how when Anne bought it she only got 20% off 1/5th of the price if it. It’s either 20% off all of it or pay full price. I’d demand to see the invoice - sounds like B/S to me

FWIW if I was the birthday girl. I’m WOULD LOVE this kind of gossip on a CFer like Anne. That would be the best gift of them all 🤣

I can't believe one of your friends is offering to cover the excess of everyone else! Whilst that is really sweet of them, so that noone else i out of pocket, it just enables Anne.

Anne is not a friend to any of you. Even the ill BG - as a PP said, Anne is literally just giving her sick friend a marketing promotional code for her birthday. In this instance, the thought does not count - not when others are having to cover her excess.

I'd live Anne to be on here, and have read this thread. If Anne is reading this - shame on you. This is CFery at its finest. And she knows that none of you will say anything, as noone wants to upset/stress sick friend (understandably). Therefore, she is using your friend's illness to pull one over on the rest of you.

Don’t be a mug.

exactly.

I would hope the birthday girl would say the same, no matter what is going on with her health. I’d be livid if you all laid down and let her screw you over if it was me.

She is beyond cheeky.

So all Anne has been shown from this thread is that you can shaft your friends financially and nobody will say anything. Great.

That's not what happened. Anne used a 20% off discount code when making the order and then claimed that the 20% saving counted as her contribution. So the other four friends would pay 20% each of the undiscounted price and she would pay nothing.

Anne is a massive cheeky fucker

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This! Honestly- Please don't let this cheeky fucker screw you all over! I'm bloody sure the birthday girl wouldn't want that, health issues or not!

I’d just send the £112 as agreed . I know some people are massively cf but get away with it sometimes by playing the innocent. This is so brazen and cf and actually quite disgusting to treat friends like this and so openly too . She is a bit thick too that no one is going to go hang on . Boils my blood this sort of thing just say no but if you do all agree begrudgingly to pay to keep the peace you need to tell her how out of order she is being and I’d keep my distance from her going forward.

Send a group message
Say youve wired 112$ as previously discussed. Leave it there. What a c *nt

I had slightly similar last year but there was no duping/dishonesty like in your situation. The person buying the gift simply wanted to keep going bigger and bigger. In the end we set up a payment page, everyone paid what they could afford and then whatever the total was on X day was what we had to work with. Anne has definitely taken the piss and I'd only transfer the amount you agreed to, no more. If she whines then sucks to be her, to be honest.

Whoa. Anne is CFer of the highest order.

I do love it when people make these decisions (her generosity of spirit is unbelievable not) unilaterally. I'd leave her with Item B to return for a refund and crack on with purchasing Item A.

Of course, it's quite possible she may decide to duck out of contributing to Item A now though, in which case you'll be paying £125 each rather than £100.

Apart from the drama, What lovely generous friends you all are!

£700 - 20% = £560
£560 / 5 = £112 per person
Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Just thinking this through, Anne claims the thumbs up was a mistake and she didn't see the message above it, but then surely (if that were true, which it clearly isn't) then that means she didn't see that you had all agreed to the £700 gift, so she shouldn't have gone through with the purchase. She just doesn't have a leg to stand on.

The friend who wants everyone else to pay £112 and she'll pay the difference, I really hope she doesn't actually do this. But if she does then you should put the issue aside until the birthday is over and then afterwards message Anne to tell her you know exactly what she did and you're not going to put up with it again.

Let Ann with an E do it her way, you all pay the extra amount but miss her name from the card...that'll learn her

Or just send a laughing emoji on the group chat with something along the lines of "lol, so we all pay extra so you don't have to pay anything....good one, almost had us there, we'll transfer the xxx as discussed when you've bought the agreed one".

She's a very cheeky fucker

This

😂😂

There is no way on earth anyone would think YABU about this, Anne is nuts to think that it ok for her to pay nothing - using a discount doesn;t work like that! I could understand if she had vouchers and wanted to use that particular shop/site but to duck out of contributing altogether just by supplying a discount code (that presumably anyone could get) is CFery of the highest order!!
Even if she got it as staff discount I think any reasonable friend would share the discount, as previously agreed.
I think at this point I would tell her sending it back is the only option and someone else will order the cheaper version.

So Anne sounds pretty bonkers, I can’t wrap my head around her thinking here at all. The fact she thinks her 20% new customer discount anyone could get is her contribution is honestly hilarious.

Send the agreed amount and not a penny more.

So Anne sounds pretty bonkers, I can’t wrap my head around her thinking here at all. The fact she thinks her 20% new customer discount anyone could get is her contribution is honestly hilarious.

Send the agreed amount and not a penny more.