Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

Yeah sounds like piss taker

also forget about the atmosphere the birthday girl doesnt need to know whats happened as long as she gets her present

....bookmarked.

This is Olympic standard CFery.

Reading between the lines, it sounds like birthday girl is going through chemo or something.

Clearly they can afford £100 (or £112 at stretch), so why not…

I had a friend who would pull shit like this. Had.

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Tell you what, Anne, you keep your £700 coffee machine for yourself; and the others and I will sort out something else for our poorly birthday friend.

Or, if you care to capitulate, have your people talk to my people. I think you'll agree, the coffee pods are in our court on this one.

Anne gets the £112 as that's what was agreed.
Anne gets a box of cheap chocolates for her next birthday.

it’s not even a voucher, is it - it’s a discount code. She wants her contribution to the present to be a code she was sent in a marketing email. How lovely.

Shocking behaviour. I don't understand how anyone can think what Anne is suggesting is ok. I'd be annoyed at your friend who said they'll make up the shortfall for everyone from 112 too as that enables Asshole Anne also.

😲😲😲😲😲😲😲unbelievable!!!!!

omg this is scandalous! No no no do not pay the £140 what a CF, especially as it's just a generic discount it would be easy for anyone to do that - hopefully the power of the combined group can make her see she's wrong!

I would have sent her a laughing emoji & then another message saying £112 pounds transferred! If she said anything I'd say 'oh, we'd agreed before buying to £112 so I thought you were joking. I can't afford any more to cover your share. We can always return it & use X's voucher.'

I'd turn it back on Anne. "Look we all agreed to 112 pounds, so that's what we're paying. Please don't cause a big fall out when you know X is going through such a tough time"

omg - definitely CF

as an aside, I would be sitting her down and in a kind way explain exactly why her behavior is rude - I've come across this before and some folks (not all) are truly ignorant and need it explained to them and then they are mortified when they "get" it - some people are clueless (or socially stunted)

She didn't say she gt 20% off her portion, she said she used the value of the 20% voucher to cover the entire amount she was to put towards the gift so she no longer owed any cash and the rest of the group were to split the balance between them.

After thinking about this, don’t put anything in writing to Anne that you wouldn’t want Birthday Girl to read.
CFs have been known to be betrayers too. She just might show BG every message to get back at you four friends for balking at her CFery.
If you say anything at all, say it to Anne’s face or simply ghost her.
And, good luck.

How petty and cheap.

Anne isn't the good friend everyone seems to think she is.

I can't fathom spending £700 on a gift for a friend.

Honestly, I’d stop this deal right now. Tell her to return it then purchase it yourself according to the original agreement. The cheeky fuckery that goes on when money is involved is ridiculous. I’ve been the victim of CF’s many times when a group purchase is made because others always “forget” to reimburse me. The last time it was the purchase of flowers sent to a mutual friend who was in hospital. Only one of three friends sent me money! I’ve learned, and I’m done with CF’s and their money antics.

Hope your friend gets well soon

I wouldn’t trust her to give the gift once you’ve all paid the agreed upon amount. She may be resentful as if you cheated HER!

That is awful. Def do not pay. Refund or pay the £112.

Don’t be a mug. I think EVERYONE should refuse to pay. Anne the cow will be forced to return it. Someone else needs to buy the other, more affordable coffee machine and then you split the cost for that.

Birthday girl will find out sooner or later about the conflict revolving her birthday present ie Anne being a cf. Just get the other coffee machine.

Is it Anne from The Weakest Link?

So cheeky. She needs telling.

Just pay the £112.