Would you continue seeing someone if they told you this...

[Inthenameofrose]

Would you continue the sexual (friends with benefits) relationship if the other person told you they wanted more but you didn't?

Just that really.

No

Nope

No. And I’ve been there from both sides and the ‘relationship’ ended both times.

yes

@DenholmElliot can you explain why please? (Genuine question)

How good is the sex?

I think it depends on if its "I'd happily have more and see where it goes but I'm also happy with this" or "I love you and have named our kids"

Yes if they knew I didnt and were happy to accept that. If they werent then I'd end it or expect them to

Valid question.

Why don't you want to know the reasons behind the 'no' replies?

Yes probably but morally it’s not fair on the other person but they have to be responsible for their own self.

If it's as straightforward as you've said then no, I wouldn't. It will end messily and the longer it goes on the harder for the one who wants more.

There's degrees though - if one person wants more, the other isn't sure then I think it's fine to continue (as you're not going to reach 'wanting more' stage at the same time) so long as both continue to be honest.

No.
It would be cruel and selfish of me to do that to them.

Depends. If the sex was really good, probably.
It really depends on the depth of feeling. If it’s I’d like us to date, maybe. Unrequited love can be painful and messy for everyone involved.

No. It's then messy, would be cruel and not worth it. Just no

I've been in this situation and we decided to end it. It wasn't what we agreed and the reasons were still there regarding why we didn't want a full time relationship with each other.

No. Its cruel and selfish.

Depend on why I don't want more but still want to continue.

Yes. Who am I to decide what is right for the other person. They should be free to make their own choices. So as long as they knew who I felt and were happy to continue, I would.

Everyone has to take responsibility for themselves. So yes, or at least maybe. I'd expect the other person to make their own decision about whether it was best for them. Obviously if they were being irritating about it, no.

It wouldn't be sensible, but I'd probably take take a wait & see approach (otherwise known as 'avoid doing something that might hurt')

no. I've been on the other end and it's death by a thousand cuts (and yes, I take responsibility for continuing as well). I wouldn't do that to someone else

No.

No it’s pretty unkind. The other person admitted feelings so they are only going to get more hurt as time goes on. Doesn’t matter how good the sex is, the one with feelings will always think the other cares for them.

No, they will always be hoping for more. It would feel like stringing them along even if you’ve been brutally honest.