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Neighbour knocking to find parcel

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Dotdotdot21 · 17/05/2022 23:24

Just had an unknown man knock at my door claiming his parcel had been delivered to my house .
He lives in the road behind . He was looking at his phone and claims app said parcel was delivered to here.
when I asked what the parcel was he said furniture.
I was polite but after he had gone I am
thinking why would I take furniture in for a house in the next street for someone I don’t know? Have I just been accused of stealing ? The app clearly never said a number but the map on it directed it to our house.
Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed.

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Original poster
Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 00:38

I’m awake feeding a baby , so good to have conversation on here . Lots of angry people tonight . There’s a range of emotions and being annoyed is very low key in my book. The man I’m not annoyed with he was looking for his parcel . The app saying I had stole it , because no honest person would not accept a parcel for a house in next street. If the parcel had an address on it an honest person would say that’s not my address . People take parcels in for neighbours not someone in next street . These apps are obviously cause confusion.

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Cluelessmouse · 18/05/2022 00:39

it’s weird that you’re annoyed about a parcel

have asked if you’re BU to be annoyed about it

then when people say yes YABU

you accuse them of being offended and annoyed themselves and tell them to calm down
because you are allowed to be annoyed

Original poster
Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 00:48

ok i accept the consensus is I shouldn’t be annoyed .
it’s quite reasonable for a company to tell someone I have stolen their parcel🙄

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thevanilla · 18/05/2022 01:02

Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 00:48

ok i accept the consensus is I shouldn’t be annoyed .
it’s quite reasonable for a company to tell someone I have stolen their parcel🙄

i’m glad you’re slowly learning the point of AIBU 🙂

DailySheetWasher · 18/05/2022 01:09

Oh for goodness sake, the pin on a satellite map being out by 50m or whatever it is, does not equate to them accusing you of stealing!

Original poster
Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 01:10

it’s only been two hours so not long for a for a poll and not everyone agrees that’ it’s unreasonable to be annoyed . Allowing for the trolls , I think it’s pretty even to be honest .

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Original poster
Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 01:13

Where do you get the figure of 50 ms from? can you post a link to the info about these apps thanks

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TastefulRainbowUnicorn · 18/05/2022 01:15

I got a parcel delivery notification that showed a little map and a location somewhere along our street which could have been any of several houses or businesses.

Was really annoyed, especially as I was in, and we have a parcel box! I had written and sent a complaint before I realised that there was a link to click which eventually gives you the actual address it was left at. IIRC the address wasn’t even at the dot on the map!

It’s a ridiculous system, I bet your visitor had a parcel from the same company and didn’t realise there is a hidden webpage with the secret delivery address written on it.

Annoyance is completely reasonable IMO.

Original poster
Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 01:16

Anyway baby asleep 💤 night all .

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Suzi888 · 18/05/2022 01:19

DailySheetWasher · 18/05/2022 01:09

Oh for goodness sake, the pin on a satellite map being out by 50m or whatever it is, does not equate to them accusing you of stealing!

^ This
The apps don’t accuse people of stealing, they advise the approximate location of a parcel. YABU
I would go looking /enquiring about my parcel too. 🤷🏼‍♀️

DailySheetWasher · 18/05/2022 01:26

Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 01:13

Where do you get the figure of 50 ms from? can you post a link to the info about these apps thanks

I said 50m or whatever it is because I was guesstimating. The point being, they are not always accurate down to the exact location of someone's front door.

The map on the app is trying to pinpoint the delivery driver's location from space. It's pretty amazing technology that allows these apps to get as close as they do.

NoThanksThough · 18/05/2022 01:32

Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 00:48

ok i accept the consensus is I shouldn’t be annoyed .
it’s quite reasonable for a company to tell someone I have stolen their parcel🙄

Did the app actually say you'd stolen his parcel though? Or was it a case the app showed the location as yours in error because those are two different things.

I don't know what it is but for some reason my phone location is almost always shown and the next street at some strangers house, so maybe it's just something like that with this blokes app, I don't think my app isn't accusing me of cheating by putting my location at a different house, just like the man's app wasn't accusing you of stealing. It's an error probably.

I've just checked "find my .... and it currently has me in the next street at that house. I've even once had a courier take my parcel back despite me being home and answering the door because his handheld thing wasn't putting him at my address and he couldn't scan it or something.

Peoniesandpeaches · 18/05/2022 01:39

if I was him I’d be wondering why you asked what was in it, either you took in a parcel or you didn’t. Plenty of people will take in parcels that don’t belong to them and chance it that nobody will ever come to claim it back.

avamiah · 18/05/2022 02:12

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My neighbours have often taken in a Amazon parcel for me and I have been able to track it and was updated as to its location so no problem . However I wouldn’t go knocking at their door late at night to pick it up .

WhatNoRaisins · 18/05/2022 02:25

It is annoying. I once got told my parcel had been left with a specific person. Went round and it wasn't and I then found it in my recycling bin. I didn't get why it didn't just say in my recycling bin, surely that info would have been just as quick to input into the app.

Missusmiddleage · 18/05/2022 02:50

My son (20) has recently got himself a girlfriend or is seeing someone, she's 27 and has 2 kids, by all accounts a nutty ex, who's been living with her until my son has been on the scene. He's been out at the pub most nights, with her (apparently her step dad loves with her and has the kid swhile she's in the pub) and has been staying over with her. Tonight, well yesterday now as it 2.30am, he calls at 10.30 to say he's staying there again, 8 l pointed out he had work and that I was concerned that this relationship was becoming a bit much too soon and I was worried that it was going to start impacting his work, he's self employed and we got into a row, I hung up on him and he ane back, grabbed somethings and went to hers. I'm really struggling with him not coming home and as much as I want him to be happy, I'm feeling like I am losing him and he's treating the family disrespectfully, he doesn't eat properly, he doesn't call to say he's straying out, he treats our home and his room like a trash pit. Do all mums feel like this as their kids get older? I feel so weird and pushed away from him when we were really close

Topseyt123 · 18/05/2022 02:55

It is a bit of a stretch to claim that you have been accused of stealing. You haven't. It is just a fairly inaccurate app and the man knocked on your door. I would have too.

Missusmiddleage · 18/05/2022 02:57

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Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 00:48

ok i accept the consensus is I shouldn’t be annoyed .
it’s quite reasonable for a company to tell someone I have stolen their parcel🙄

The app advises it's been stolen?

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 18/05/2022 04:03

We had a parcel a few weeks back which Evri (aka Hermes) just abandoned outside a random house. Our only clue was a picture of a front door. DH did go looking to see if he could find it, and would have knocked on the door if he found the right house... its the couriers messing up, not accusing a random person of stealing.

(Especially since it was part of a tent, so useless unless you had that particular tent.)

CorsicaDreaming · 18/05/2022 04:30

I had similar with a missing garden pergola. And the app said it had been delivered to a nursing home up the road! In fact the truck had broken down and it hadn't been delivered at all 🙄

RedWingBoots · 18/05/2022 04:58

OP the reason he knocked at night is because he asked for a PM or evening delivery and the app said it was delivered to your door.

In fact the delivery wasn't done at all.

However he has to go around and ask you to confirm the courier is lying. It helps the parcel is an odd size and not something someone would automatically want to steal.

Happened to me on many occasions

LoveSpringDaffs · 18/05/2022 05:06

Dotdotdot21 · 18/05/2022 00:04

He didn’t look dodgy , looked a nice guy . He apologised and said he would ring the company.

He's not that nice, or sane, if he's knocking at almost midnight!!!

TigerLilyTail · 18/05/2022 05:15

I agree that the couriers are at fault. I’ve actually given up ordering stuff to be sent directly to my parent’s house because it never arrives.

Mother’s Day flowers ordered with Bloom & Wild were delivered to a neighbor’s house and had the wrong card inside. Luckily, the neighbor was kind enough to bring them over. The card was embarrassing though.

Easter eggs never arrived. I got refunded in the end.

Dad’s birthday present from Amazon didn’t arrive after 3 weeks, so they sent a replacement.

Its crap!

I don’t think it’s that weird to take in a parcel for the wrong house though. If I’m at work and my son is home, he’ll take parcels in but often doesn’t check the address.

Joessaysthankyou · 18/05/2022 05:29

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