To ask you to give me a new surname?

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Marriages/divorces (my own and parents), deed poll and other circumstances mean that I am currently on my fourth surname.
Each surname has belonged to a different man, a father, a stepfather, a husband etc. Not having had a particularly good relationship with any of them, I have never felt that any of these names belonged to me.
I want to change my surname. I want a name that belongs to me.
Any suggestions?

Nooo not a common run of the mill one. The only reason I haven't changed from my ex-husbands surname is that it's so generic and common it doesn't intrinsically link me to him in peoples minds.

Devereaux after Blanche in the golden girls!

I love the name Wilde, I would go for that or Austen after my favourite author. Do you have a place or a person that's special to you op?

Any nice names from female relatives that you could borrow/adapt?

Quinn? I think it means fifth x

Banana-hammock

I think Guinness and Cadbury are supposed to be the most elite names in GB. Or maybe Windsor.

I like Phoenix too and am in love with Joaquin Phoenix...his family chose Phoenix (they were Bottom!) and changed en masse to symbolise a new beginning after being in a cult.

I'd love something 'de-' like de-Montford, or deNiro, or a -ski (ska) name but that could be straying into cultural appropriation. Or just sheer embarrassment when asked about heritage and you have to either lie or just admit you wanted to sound cool.

I didn't change my surname on marriage because I didn't want to but it isn't the easiest to spell which can have a serious impact with things like email addresses (my work email includes my surname) so I would definitely go for something with unambiguous spelling. But otherwise, what a wonderful thing to do :)

Zorana - means new beginning

Did/do you have a good relationship with your mother? If so, what about her maiden name?

Lavender is a lovely name.

I sold my house to a Mr and Mrs Snowflake

Juniper
Thyme
Thistle
Anemone
Dandelion
Cicely
Meadowsweet

Canopy
Leafy
Glade
Meadow
Mossy
Driftwood
Seamist
Deepsea
Boulder
Sandytoes
Twilight
Nightsky
Seamist
Cumulus
Cirrus

Falangee

Or Shacklady.

Crap Bag. First name Crap, last name Bag.

Love phoebe and mike.

🤣

I like Gillespie, but it means ''of the church' so that might put some off it. I like the sound though. Also like costella and Kinsella.

I quite like Beauregarde for the crack! like Violet
Joy is a sur name and I met somebody wiht that surname

Oh Summerbee is lovely

I had a teenage crush on a guy with the last name Blake. I imagined what our children would be called - and everything goes with it. Even the worst names sound good with Blake.

I'm laughing at the suggestion of the place where you were born. I mean, c'mon. Dundee... Nope, not very appealing is it.

Do you have a middle name? Change your surname to this - then you're entirely YOU!

Oooooo… I think I would go for something well posh 🙊 Astley, Alexander, Bankes, Berkeley, Cromwell, Holland, Portman, Ridley… 😬

Cholmondeley-Waner
Fotheringham-Thomas

Campbell-Black or Le Bon

Freedom.