Comments about red hair

[37anddone]

I have been getting a lot of comments about the ‘risk’ of my child having red hair (I’m currently pregnant).

The suggestion seems to be this would be a negative outcome, and something I need to brace myself for.

I personally think ridiculing my child’s appearance before they have actually been born is a bit much.

AIBU to tell them precisely what I think about their comments, irrespective of the fallout that may cause.

It's shocking though that in these woke times of acceptance its still OK to mock the gingers

I agree, it's indirectly xenophobic.

Mind you, I also find it even more weird that it's ok to mock height, as you can't change it. You can change your hair colour if you want to.

Isn’t it now considered a hate crime to joke about a man being bald (not women funnily enough - so those of us with alopecia, hard cheese!).

And as for ‘the gingers’ we aren’t fecking umpa lumpas for gods sake.

At work at the weekend a colleague said 'I love a ginger, never had a bad one. They're always grateful'

We were talking about biscuits at the time.
This guy is hideous btw.

Does this really happen?? I’ve had my ginger hair complemented my entire life and was extremely disappointed when none of my kids inherited it. I love my hair and absolutely crush on other gingers, I always turn my head in admiration. I can’t believe what I’m reading.

Hmm. Does it really happen or is everyone on this thread making it up?

I'm glad you've had a lovely life and lots of positive reinforcement about your appearance. That's how everyone's experience should be. But yes, it does happen and it's particularly horrible as a teenager.

It also can make it difficult to accept compliments about your hair colour. Honestly? I wish people would have just shut up about the colour of my hair - positive or negative. It's just hair and god knows plenty people dye their hair every colour under the sun - there's no talent to having a particular hair colour and I think really it's just best to not pass comment on people's physical features that they were born with.

We are the best though…

When my DD was born the first thing the midwife said was "shes a ginger"

Think of Stacy Dooley and her beautiful hair, eyes and ski. Classic redhead combination and she's lovely.

We are!

Yes it does. HTH

I have a redhead child and a blonde child and always feel sorry for my blonde child as the redhead is ALWAYS getting complements about their hair.

Unfortunately it has been my reality of having red hair that people are mean.

A lifetime of lovely compliments from adults ever since I was little, but always nastiness from other children and even now people of my own age make clumsy comments without thinking - for example exactly what you're talking about...'worried' their babies might have red hair etc.

It's horrible.

My best friend has beautiful thick red hair! She gets compliments constantly. People have asked her before now what colour her hairdresser has dyed it.

I don’t get the negativity surrounding red hair. I think it’s beautiful.

This is the thing though, I think most people actually like and appreciate it when they're older...I get so many compliments on mine now.

But unfortunately when you're younger, it's just such an easy thing to pick on and it's relentless. I'd say until I started uni it was constant.

My niece is a gingery blonde. But mum can't cope with anyone suggesting even strawberry blonde, she blonde 😂 other cousins are ginger/ brown so red hair. Can't call them ginger it's offensive. You can see why it's still a thing for bullying because it's still not great for parents accepting they have ginger kids

@bozna Strawberry blonde is an absolutely beautiful colour though 😮

@Maëlys it's absolutely gorgeous. But suggest she's strawberry blonde is so bad. You have to refer to her as blonde because any hit of suggesting slightly ginger is forbidden, so child grows up thinking her beautiful hair is an insult