13 year old out till 22:30 at sleepover-ok or not?

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spicedemerald · 15/05/2022 08:16

Asking for advice because I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable or not so it would be good to have some outside perspective.

My (just) 13 year old went to a sleepover last night and was out wandering the streets until 22:30. He was with a group of 5 others of the same age.

Now, I would never let him be out that late and would definitely not allow his friends to if they were under my care but I’m not sure if I’m unreasonable or if this is actually a reasonable curfew for 13 year olds.

Sometimes I feel like I’m too strict. I’m contemplating speaking to the mum who’s house he was at but don’t want to if actually this is ok.

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Coasterfan · 15/05/2022 18:03

I think that’s too late. I m a really lax parent and my 12 year old DS (13 in September) has to be home for 7pm regardless of whether it is a Saturday or Sunday. Later is fine at someone’s house but on the park 7pm is the limit. I can’t see me extending it much past 8pm next year when he is 13.

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spicedemerald · 15/05/2022 19:43

I dropped him off at this friends house and collected him…saw all his other friends there and their parents. And it was his mum who invited my son (she texted me) so presumably she did the same for the other boys.

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spicedemerald · 15/05/2022 19:45

FarmGirl78 · 15/05/2022 12:52

Might be a daft question.....but how sure are you that the other parents knew in advance of the sleep over? It could be that each boy told their parents they were staying at a different friends house. Son tells you he's staying at Jamie's house. Jamie tells his parents he's sleeping over at Ben's. Ben tells his parents he's staying at yours. They hang out in the park, then at10.30pm head back to Jamie's, who's parents are already asleep, safely thinking all the boys are sleeping at Ben's.

My parents were very strict and I wasn't really allowed out. But plenty of my friends did this exact same thing. And now we're all in our 40's they are fully aware their kids will be doing exactly the same.

For all you know @spicedemerald , in several local homes the exact same conversation could be going on with parents fuming that you have let their children out unaccompanied at 10.30 at night.

My last reply was in response to this - I forgot to quote it though.

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FarmGirl78 · 15/05/2022 23:11

I figured it was in response to me. At least you know he's being honest with you. Must just be my friends who were devious with their sleepovers!

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