To be really annoyed with this woman

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Having a small party for DS2, 5 friends invited, plus DS1 and 2. One of the boys invited turns up with his brother (same age as Ds1) and says "mymum says I ahve to stay here and wait for my brother, then take him home". When i said the party was for Ds2 and his friends he said "Yes but she's a single parent". I don't see what that has to do with it
So now have 1 extra child in teh house, ahve got no extra food, no extra party bags (iknow I know) stuff for him and am really Pi$$ed off with this parent for doing this

It's very bad manners but I wouldn't let her see it had annoyed me. Rise above it.

Just cope with it as best you can. Children don't eat much at parties I've found. Share the contents of their bag between them and pad it out with a few more sweets perhaps.

SoupDragon he is there to take him home, I don't know their ages, but its pitch black here. In my head I see 2 little fellas walking home, on a cold night.

is this a wind up?

i'm totally shocked with some of the responses.
I'm with paloma on this.

So you are in your house with children ready to partaaaay, and an extra child arrives? Great I say. Welcome him (he's a child) encourage him to have fun. Open your heart, children are great

ok, a tad annoying that the mum didn't ask first (wish that was the only problem I've encountered recently) but the main thing is a child wasn't left at home while his brother went partying.
Hope the boy didn't pick up that he wasn't wanted

Okay. Thanks.

"I think unless this has happened to you, don't comment" - do you never have an opinion on a situation that you haven't exactly experienced then, wotz?

It is bad manners, but it's also a little sad and can be dealt with fairly easily I think.

Exactly monkeys.

your dc is 2!

Mine? Yes, and...?

I try to keep sane by only commenting on things I have had experiences of, you can all do what you like

I'm quite sane.

I think I'm sane.
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has she given the kid a buttie yet????

there are threads about snow now, they'll be walking home in the snow

Very rude - the mother should have asked if it was OK to send the elder one. No excuse for not warning you in advance.

I had an elder sibling turn up to ds's third birthday. Because he'd been excluded from school! Brat then proceeded to win several party games, being seven years old. (I know I should have thought of that one... but this had never happened before and the last six year old I'd been responsible for was too well brought up to try to beat three year olds.)

I would be a little bit annoyed that the mother hadn't aked but then I would welcome him. I would say something discreet to the mother when she turned up but I wouldn't be annoyed at an extra guest. I mean, I don't believe you cannot accommodate him at all.

Perhaps this is the only way the younger child could have come to the party. His mum may be working.

Oh, it wouldn't bother me, by the way. I'd send him into the kitchen to roll some fags for me

Desi

YANBU to get angry about this

it is just NOT A PROBLEM

leave the computer alone and enjoy the party :-)

I can't recall a party I've thrown that didn't end up with at least half a dozen 'extras'
never had a problem with it - in fact it's kinda nice that kids that don't even know us feel comfortable arriving and joining in.

parties are all about fun - hope that poor lad isn't feeling dreadful and watching the clock...waiting until he get just.get. out.

If its a home party, yes its rude, but one extra body isn't the end of the world.

If she'd turned up at a party at McDs or a restaurant/activity and left said extra child, i'd be peeved and having a word with her about it.

I must say I agree with Paloma on this.

However, I am slightly taken aback with some attitudes like "having 3 children and if one is invited I have 2 spare" What is that supposed to mean? Is a party a free childminding service? What would you do with all three children if none where invited to a party? You would surely do something with them, or have them at home and do nothing, why is it necessary to find something for the other two? I just dont get that, whether you are a married or a single mum, I dont get it.

If you'd read the rest of my post Qunit, I said I often work and so does my dh at weekends. Thats all.

Ok the mother could have phoned but why let her lack of manners annoy you? What's the point in getting pissed off about it?

The older boy doesn't need a party bag. And if you're having a party, and you've catered for 7 kids, you will easily be able to feed 8. There is always enough food to share.

YABU

oooh wait, maybe its because mine are all quite small - under 7 and I'm only just getting to the stage where the eldest can be left, so I'm used to staying. Obvioulsy if I could leave the eldest, I wouldn't choose to stay.