To worry we're raising an annoying child

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I'm sleep deprived, hormonal and a little insane and somehow I think the birth of DD2 has made me even more PFB about DD1.

She's 2.5, pretty bright and very chatty. She's a tiny parrot and repeats every phrase she hears me and her dad say. It's left her with an (adorable to me) repertoire of very grown-up soundbites which she uses in context. Half the time she talks normal toddler nonsense and the other half she speaks like a 35yr old English teacher.

People have started commenting on it, and I'm concerned it's making her look overly precocious. I used to get bullied at school for stuff like this (looking back I was definitely insufferable) and I'm concerned about history repeating itself with my baby.

How do I handle this? My husband thinks it's a non-issue and I need a G&T and a good night's sleep.

What are the comments people have made?

can you give an example of what your daughter says/a conversation she’s had with someone?

It’s pretty normal for them to pick up and repeat random phrases OP. My 2 year comes out with some wonderful things she’s picked up. They grow up and it’s not so apparent.

That sounds adorable. I agree with your husband 🙂

You need a g&t and a good night's sleep. She's 2 and adorable. You will be worrying about something else soon because that is the way of motherhood.

Sounds cute, we need examples

Nursery said "she'll be running the room next" this afternoon as apparently she was going round the table and patting the other children's drawings, saying "that's beautiful, really good drawing, I'm proud of you." To me that's super cute, but does it come across to other adults as patronising/pretentious?

In the supermarket the other day she said "don't get that one daddy, it's dented" about a tin of beans, and a woman said "is she going to ask to see the manager?" To me that's just this woman being bitchy, buttttt then comes the overthinking.

I think I do need the G&T.

It doesn’t sound unusual to be honest OP. My niece says things that it’s clear she’s copying from an adult all the time. She says in context and it’s funny. I’d not give it any more thought!

Sounds cute rather than annoying and the comments made don’t come across as being made because they find her annoying. I would think she was sweet/funny if I encountered her not think she was annoying or pretentious!

Loads of people are insufferable for all kinds of reasons when young until they develop enough social awareness to use a bit of discretion. Which most people realise and that's why we cut kids lots of slack and why stuff they do is cute not annoying because it's a sign of their innocence.
Maybe she'll get a bit of stick, maybe she won't, but you're not going to hinder her vocab to avoid it, and she's not you and will have her own life experiences so there isn't any point worrying about it. I'm with your dh - g+t and a good night's sleep and park it under pointless worries.
Everyone worries their kids may suffer what they did. But unless there is something helpful you can do by worrying, like making sure they're not the only kids who can't swim etc, there isn't any point.

I don’t think anyone is gojng to think a 2 year old is being patronising or pretentious. It’s just one of those cute things little kids do don’t worry about it

Those adults sound amused by your daughter. I don’t think anyone is being bitchy. You’re perhaps a little over sensitive and taking things too literally and seriously. Give yourself and your little one a break. Have a gin and watch something good on the telly!

She sounds cute

I think this hits the nail on the head. Oversensitive and literal are my middle names. G&T and TV it is. Unfortunately the good night's sleep might need to wait til DD2 isn't breastfeeding.

DH is doing a little "I told you so" dance and pouring me a drink. Thanks guys.

Hahaha are you me? This has honestly made me laugh and check I haven't NCd and posted this in the depths of sleep deprivation.
I thought exactly the same when my same age DD said to my (adult) friend "excellent, well done for saying thank you!" 😅

I think I'm going to go with your husbands advice too though!

Yeah this sort of thing is EXACTLY what I mean! DD said "really good scooping, well done!" to me yesterday, while I was eating porridge.

The gin is imminent.

I hope he’s making it a double OP! It’s lovely that the comments she’s hearing from others and repeating are so positive and encouraging.
Wishing you more sleep soon!

Sounds like pretty normal 2 year old behaviour. I remember DS saying to me
Are you OK sweetheart?
When I bumped into something 😂

She sounds a lot like my 2.5 year old, and I haven't thought to worry about it being an issue. I think she's adorable (if a bit of a handful), nursery think she's funny. I expect she'll grow out of it - I was a very shy child, as is my oldest, probably some of that will kick in - but at the moment I'm just enjoying how confident and full of personality she is.

Relax and enjoy your DD, she sounds lovely and they change and grow up so quickly.

At the end of a restaurant meal DD said ‘Well done, Mummy and Daddy, for keeping your clothes clean!’
☹️

From my DS: oh mummy you're coming down the stairs all by yourself, well done!

It's fine, kids learn by copying! Enjoy your drink 🍾

It’s fine, but what would really turn people against your poor dd would be her adoring parents posting every cute thing she says and does on social media, now that would really wind people up. Enjoy her funny little remarks and quirks, share them with her proud daddy and her gps, but protect the rest of your social circle from them.

Ha she's going to be ruling the world when she grows up! Love it OP.

My little boy was similar at that age.

A personal favourite was from when he was about 2.5 as well, and we had a local mum and her little girl round for a playdate in the garden.
My DS comes tottering out the house, marches up to the mum and little girl, puts his hands on his hips, looks around, and goes, "Oh what a lovely sunny day!"
That's a solid "me-ism"!

We just laughed it off, and it's still one of our favourite DS moments from when he was very little.
He's 5.5 now, and as far as I can tell, completely normal!

Ahhh she's just mirroring back what she hears, as you know.
Unless your DH is a certain terribly upper-class double-barreled Tory politician, she will likely be ok.