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To worry we're raising an annoying child

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MolliciousIntent · 12/05/2022 19:00

I'm sleep deprived, hormonal and a little insane and somehow I think the birth of DD2 has made me even more PFB about DD1.

She's 2.5, pretty bright and very chatty. She's a tiny parrot and repeats every phrase she hears me and her dad say. It's left her with an (adorable to me) repertoire of very grown-up soundbites which she uses in context. Half the time she talks normal toddler nonsense and the other half she speaks like a 35yr old English teacher.

People have started commenting on it, and I'm concerned it's making her look overly precocious. I used to get bullied at school for stuff like this (looking back I was definitely insufferable) and I'm concerned about history repeating itself with my baby.

How do I handle this? My husband thinks it's a non-issue and I need a G&T and a good night's sleep.

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Pamlar · 12/05/2022 21:06

I think it becomes grating when if there's performance parenting ie you getting her to trot out these lines. But that isn't the case.
Hope you can get some decent kip

NeedToKnow101 · 12/05/2022 21:08

CarrieMoonbeams · 12/05/2022 20:09

I don't have DC myself but I absolutely love when little ones come out with things like that!

There's a wee boy who lives round the corner from us, he's 4, and he loves a chat (so do I!). However ... I was obviously boring him today because he cut me off in mid-conversation by saying "Anyway, mustn't keep you" and he walked off 😂.

Last week he spoke to me when I came back from the dentist, he put his hand on mine and said "Well done, brave girl". (I'm nearly 60!). Absolutely adorable, he just makes my day.

🤣🤣🤣

Sleepeatrepeat · 12/05/2022 21:08

@MolliciousIntent oh god I could have (and still could) write the same in regards to my dd (8).

God knows what she is gonna be when she grows up but it will definitely involve being in charge and not taking a single gram of bullshit from anyone.

I have always had very low self esteem and zero confidence. I vowed dd would grow up with both as well as a healthy dose of independence. I may have done too good a job.

She is the youngest in her school year so when they did their taster day she was still only 3.5 where as a lot of the other kids were already almost 5. Dd has a lot of allergies and at the time her consultant was investigating food allergies like milk. The school were briefed but in the chaos of learning names of kids they didn't know it got missed as they handed her milk and an orange.

I got called to the heads office...she hadn't even started officially and I was dying.

Apparently my precocious 3.5 year old took on 2 grown adults that she had never met before and argued strongly that she was not earing/drinking those as she was allergic. She was so adamant they called the office to be told she was right.

When the head stopped laughing at the look of utter horror on my face she congratulated dd on being brave enough to stand up for herself.

The head has never let me live it down!!

Being confident is a good thing.

The supermarket woman was a knob! Don't sweat it.

tootiredtoocare · 12/05/2022 21:09

At 2, it's really cute. At 5, maybe a bit pretentious! 😂Have your G&T, and enjoy her.

puddlesofmothers · 12/05/2022 21:10

I think the comment from the lady in the supermarket is hilarious and not bitchy at all.

narcdad · 12/05/2022 21:11

I think she sounds perfectly adorable!

Why would dad want a dented tin, congratulate her on her amazing observation skills, the lady was a bore 🤣

RaspberryChouxBuns · 12/05/2022 21:12

In the history of 2 year olds there's never been one who isn't annoying. Don't sweat it, your kid is just like the rest of them. I've got three for context 😁

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MolliciousIntent · 12/05/2022 21:14

HTH1 · 12/05/2022 20:54

YABVU (where is this gin??). But DD sounds cute, don’t worry about her.

The gin did not last long!

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Tillsforthrills · 12/05/2022 21:14

TopCatsTopHat · 12/05/2022 19:13

Loads of people are insufferable for all kinds of reasons when young until they develop enough social awareness to use a bit of discretion. Which most people realise and that's why we cut kids lots of slack and why stuff they do is cute not annoying because it's a sign of their innocence.
Maybe she'll get a bit of stick, maybe she won't, but you're not going to hinder her vocab to avoid it, and she's not you and will have her own life experiences so there isn't any point worrying about it. I'm with your dh - g+t and a good night's sleep and park it under pointless worries.
Everyone worries their kids may suffer what they did. But unless there is something helpful you can do by worrying, like making sure they're not the only kids who can't swim etc, there isn't any point.

Great advice.

OP she sounds like a lovely, bright little girl and I’m sure people will find it very cute and amusing.

Magnoliabuds · 12/05/2022 21:15

She sounds like great fun, and hilarious! Enjoy it!

Shedcity · 12/05/2022 21:19

Oh op i think she sounds adorable and I’d just think how lovely it is that she’s obviously being encouraged to do things and be indépendant at home
‘good scooping’ is clearly her used to being complimented for practicing motor skills!

the children I find annoying are the ones that cry and complain constantly, or the ones that are a bit rude, either no manners or being rude to other people (obviously all kids do sometimes, but the kids who everything that comes out of their mouths is a complaint or critique)

your lovely DD being encouraging to other people is sweet, if other people are ever unhappy with her it definitely says more about them

TulipCat · 12/05/2022 21:23

tootiredtoocare · 12/05/2022 21:09

At 2, it's really cute. At 5, maybe a bit pretentious! 😂Have your G&T, and enjoy her.

I was coming on to say similar. If she is being annoying, there is nothing so good as a peer group in Reception to let her know that! Until then enjoy her cuteness.

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 12/05/2022 21:25

At 2 or 3 it's cute...start worrying if she is 10 and still doing it!!

Fivecluckyhens · 12/05/2022 21:26

OP your little girl sounds adorable. I’d genuinely be cooing over her.

NannyGythaOgg · 12/05/2022 21:26

I visited a friend one morning who had her 2 year old Granddaughter staying there. I said hello to her and she didn't reply so I said 'Hello' again. She turned round, looked me up and down and firmly stated 'I don't talk to anyone until I've had my breakfast'.
Another (younger) friend's daughter was at nursery and they had a new story with 'props' read to them. One of the props was something she really liked and when the story was finished she went to the teacher and said 'Do you think it would be a good idea to say that little girls, with blonde curly hair and (looked round at the other kids) red trousers should play with the teddy (or whatever it was) first?' The teacher didn't take her up on it but found it hilarious when she told her mum later.

These both happened many years ago but I still think they are so cute and funny.

hippolyta · 12/05/2022 21:26

You describe my DS to a T at 2.5.
He's 23 now and grew out of it at 4.
Actually I wish he had kept some of the self confidence he had at 2.

BruceAndNosh · 12/05/2022 21:26

I have a fairly low tolerance for annoying children but your description of her made me laugh rather than roll my eyes

diddl · 12/05/2022 21:26

"Oooh you fucker"😂😂😂

Aria999 · 12/05/2022 21:29

Lol DD is 2 1/4 and also does this.

Very solemn '[DS1], you are not making good choices today'

'Guys, i need a little help here please?'

And similar.

It's cute, don't stress it.

StScholastica · 12/05/2022 21:35

You should worry, my DD announced to the Tumble tots class "I'm the best child here aren't I mummy".
Also told DH "Mummy's been playing with matches today Daddy 😯" when he came home from work.

89redballoons · 12/05/2022 21:36

Mine does this. They all do.

My favourite example is my friend's DD pretending to tidy her play kitchen and muttering "oh for God's sake must I do everything in this house" 😂

TheMullerLightOwl · 12/05/2022 21:42

I am dying at some of these stories 🤣
My personal favourite was a story my colleague told me - she told her DGD that she couldn't have pudding until she ate her vegetables, to which DGD sternly responded "Gran! I don't want that kind of talk at the table!" 🤣🤣🤣

ChilledScandi · 12/05/2022 21:43

Nursery teacher here, they copy everything that age..but they are all cute. But nothing unusual, it’s just a way of imitating to understand the world, they are playing. If you entertain it too much it is likely to becöme annoying though, when it’s not playing.

CoralPaperweight · 12/05/2022 21:44

Just wait until she is 8 and into harry potter and starts quoting Ron all the time - with his 'bloody hell harry' and 'geroff me' quotes

Spaghetti0 · 12/05/2022 21:45

I would be proud of my daughter if she went around complementing other childrens art. She is just copying you. It’s lovely!
shw sounds funny and bright. Nothing annoying at all