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Original poster

To just be a lazy person

59 replies

thewest · 12/05/2022 14:30

I have always been lazy, never had any motivation and can't see why people have to do as much as they possibly can, it's exhausting.
What's so wrong with being lazy if you can't be bothered to spend your life being busy.

I wake up tired do the bare minimum which feels like so much effort and feel completely exhausted.
I'm not depressed or burnt out because I've always been like this as long as I can remember and in an ideal world I would be completely different, I would never chose to be lazy but being productive takes so much energy I can't see how others want to fill their day so much.
I don't enjoy being lazy in fact I don't enjoy anything I just want to sleep when I'm not at work feeling tired and bored.
I think the hardest part is fighting against being lazy because it's such a negative trait.

OP posts:
MayorDusty · 12/05/2022 14:34

Do you get the essentials done?

amijustparanoidorjuststoned · 12/05/2022 14:34

Do you get any enjoyment out of life? Or is sleep your enjoyment?

FindingMeno · 12/05/2022 14:34

Do you not work or look after children?

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thewest · 12/05/2022 14:36

Yes I do what I have to do but if I didn't have to I would procrastinate for a very long time.

OP posts:
MidnightMeltdown · 12/05/2022 14:36

I tend to find that the less I do, the less I want to do. It's a negative spiral.

Don't mean to be rude but are you overweight? Would improving your fitness help?

runnerblade95 · 12/05/2022 14:38

If you’re a parent, being lazy is simply not an option imo. If you’re a single person without children, or even a couple without children, then I say do whatever you want. There’s nobody relying on you to do anything other than the bare minimum so you shouldn’t feel bad about that.

MayorDusty · 12/05/2022 14:40

If the essentials are covered don't stress about the rest.
People have different energy levels and I've found comparing myself to most people I do very little however it works for me so I've stopped worrying.
Perversely when I gave myself permission not to be busy I found I did more and I can confirm no one comes to inspect my cobwebs 😁

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 12/05/2022 14:41

Oh OP I completely understand. I am a very lazy person by default. I do find that when I do more exercise then I have more energy but the first few weeks it's very difficult to force myself to the gym and very easy to slip back into being lazy

Original poster
thewest · 12/05/2022 14:43

I'm not overweight I'm very tiny. I work P/T and have a dh and dc.
I can't seem to find motivation to do the housework until an hour before dh gets home then I blitz everything in a sudden burst of motivation at the last minute.

OP posts:
MayorDusty · 12/05/2022 14:45

Gym!?! Here I am considering microdosing LSD and someone throws gym in the mix.

Zemw · 12/05/2022 14:46

I can be very lazy. Day off today - tidied up the kitchen, ordered a take away for lunch and am going out for dinner today - rest of the many hours I have just layed in bed on line.

Other days I can be much more proactive.

Work full time and kids all grown up.

I treasure my lazy days.

PetersRabbitt · 12/05/2022 14:48

The more you sleep the more sleep you need I have found!!

Also not doing much Zapps your energy levels so if you started going gym for instance, even though that takes energy, you will find it also gives you energy…it’s a bit weird really but that’s how it works

Comedycook · 12/05/2022 14:48

I'm pretty last too..I think busyness is a silly modern concept which exists to make people feel important. I think laziness is a more natural human state...conserve calories when we were cavemen and store them up!

Mamai90 · 12/05/2022 14:49

I'm definitely lazy. It's a terrible trait to have unfortunately.

I was really lazy before having kids, but now I'm a mother I can't afford to be lazy, I'm lucky to have a lot of help but when someone else is watching the kids I spend my time cleaning or ironing. I'm still a lazy person inside, I just have too much to do now and maybe someone else would do what I do and then some.

I was born lazy, I've always been lazy. Even as a child. I wasn't overweight before having kids but I am now by around 1.5 stone. So even though I'm not outwardly lazy now there's definitely still a lazy person inside!

Comedycook · 12/05/2022 14:50

*pretty lazy that should read

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thewest · 12/05/2022 14:57

I see on fb my friends out and about and think how I'd rather be in bed and turn down so many social events even a family gathering with people I wanted to see because I just couldn't be bothered to go it's awful. I am quite introvert and so find things like that zap what little energy I have.
I think at work too it feels never ending and my colleagues have so much fun and are so chatty and I just think how have you got this much energy.

OP posts:
Comedycook · 12/05/2022 15:43

I'm happiest in bed watching TV. I totally understand op. I'm a bit of an introvert too. Some of the school mums I know are working full-time, always out in the evening, in gym gear etc etc, chatting away. I'm in awe!

Knittingchamp · 12/05/2022 15:47

OP no judgement from me, live however makes you happy! I'm no type A. However saying that, I think you've suffered your whole life with either a thyroid problem or nutrient deficiency of some kind (e.g., extremely low iron) or some other medical issue. I'm not convinced you've experienced the real you yet if that's the case. Might be like a whole new life with energy how it should be every day.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 12/05/2022 15:49

Op you sound like an introvert who thrives on a deadline. It’s not that you don’t have the energy or are lazy, you haven’t found the right job/passions in life that make the best use of what motivates you. So a job mismatch and a personal life which needs an injection of excitement.
Therw is no shame in finding aspects of life a drudge or boring, you just need to offset those with something that ignites a spark in you. Perhaps a change of job, start new training or a hobby - but something with time pressure built in. Something along the lines of running c25k - time pressure and can be done solo.

dreamingbohemian · 12/05/2022 15:52

I also think you should make sure you don't have a thyroid or vitamin deficiency

It's one thing to be lazy in the sense of 'can't be bothered' it's another if you feel like you have zero energy all the time

I remember feeling like this for a while because of a health issue, I finally got medication and it was like I was a completely different person

zingally · 12/05/2022 17:10

This sounds like me... I went through the better part of 10 years thinking I was lazy and just rubbish at life.

Turns out, I have ADHD.

Knowing that enabled me to accept that things were harder for me than other people. That I wasn't being a lazy troll because I hadn't quite got round to changing the bedding recently...etc And knowing has helped me put things in place to support.

Trivester · 12/05/2022 17:12

Is there anything that sparks your interest an energy? Do you ever deep dive into a subject at the expense of everything else?

Fullsomefrenchie · 12/05/2022 17:15

That sounds miserable. Can I ask do you eat properly? You say you are very tiny, do you mean low body weight? Lack of rhe right nutrients and lack of food can result in the feelings you describe.

garny · 12/05/2022 17:20

@zingally I too have innatentive ADHD I don't think that's why I'm so tired though I just don't have any enthusiasm and feel like I'm just trying to get through life.

garny · 12/05/2022 17:22

@Fullsomefrenchie I do eat very healthy, I'm not underweight for my height I'm at the lowest end of my bmi but still within healthy.