To just be a lazy person

[thewest]

I have always been lazy, never had any motivation and can't see why people have to do as much as they possibly can, it's exhausting.
What's so wrong with being lazy if you can't be bothered to spend your life being busy.

I wake up tired do the bare minimum which feels like so much effort and feel completely exhausted.
I'm not depressed or burnt out because I've always been like this as long as I can remember and in an ideal world I would be completely different, I would never chose to be lazy but being productive takes so much energy I can't see how others want to fill their day so much.
I don't enjoy being lazy in fact I don't enjoy anything I just want to sleep when I'm not at work feeling tired and bored.
I think the hardest part is fighting against being lazy because it's such a negative trait.

My best friend has had a thyroid problem over the last few years, and got back huge reserves of energy when on the right meds for it. Another friend has chronic fatigue syndrome - They were things that showed up in adulthood snd were noticed then, so maybe not quite the same. I have always been lazy, feckless, last minute bursts, completely baffled by other’s capacity for ambition and long term vision, knackered by social stuff, need time to myself despite coming across as extrovert, turns out : rampant inattentive ADHD

I have adhd too and am exactly the same. Adhd is literally mentally exhausting though, you have to put in 4 x as much effort as other people just to do basic tasks so no wonder we are tired and fed up.

I can be quite lazy. Like when I wfh I wake up at the latest possible time but I find if I motivate myself I feel really good. Like I felt fat and lethargic so I joined a gym. I got sick of doing a big tidy on a weekend so do a small one every evening. That kind of thing. Once you see the benefits it motivates you. Are you happy though?

I'm not sure I'm the happy type, but when I'm at home I'm content but I can't stay indoors all the time (lock down actually did me good) I tend to recharge a bit when I sit and do nothing on my own but being around people will drain me instantly and then I'm just running on empty and really struggle to keep going.

I'm lazy. I'm also highly effective, super efficient and organised. I get things done quickly and thoroughly because the idea of drawing them out or having to redo them is not for me!

I'm not overweight, my house is clean and tidy and I have a successful career.

Are you on medication for adhd?

Getting your bloods checked might be a good idea but unfortunately you can’t just take your gps word that everything is ok as they are notorious for not acting on thyroid and ferritin. You want optimum levels, not barely scraping above the minimum threshold.

I’m an introvert with adhd, easily get overwhelmed by peopley situations, and I struggle to stay on (boring) tasks, but also have a faulty starting motor. A lot of what you describe being content with resonates for me.

But starting hrt has helped with my energy (had to bypass the gp on that one too) and my next mission is to force their hand on my ridiculously low ferritin levels. If I can get around to it.

I think the busy, busy life we see as the norm is a socio-economic construct. You don’t have to go that far back in history to see a different ideal. So, no I don’t think a slower lifestyle is inherently wrong.

But I’m also aware that what works for NTs isn’t what works for me. And trying to live like an NT damaged my self esteem, and MH. So I think you should dump that NT term “lazy” and come in over to the neurodiverse board.

Have you ever researched the traits of ADHD in women?

Ignore me. I hadn't read all of your replies and see now that you've already confirmed ADHD.