To just be a lazy person

[thewest]

I have always been lazy, never had any motivation and can't see why people have to do as much as they possibly can, it's exhausting.
What's so wrong with being lazy if you can't be bothered to spend your life being busy.

I wake up tired do the bare minimum which feels like so much effort and feel completely exhausted.
I'm not depressed or burnt out because I've always been like this as long as I can remember and in an ideal world I would be completely different, I would never chose to be lazy but being productive takes so much energy I can't see how others want to fill their day so much.
I don't enjoy being lazy in fact I don't enjoy anything I just want to sleep when I'm not at work feeling tired and bored.
I think the hardest part is fighting against being lazy because it's such a negative trait.

Sorry nc

I don't think you are lazy, you have low energy, which is something very different

This really rings a bell with me....the low energy thing, since I had DS six years ago. I don't know how you fix it though.

(Strongly suspect I have ADD too but the low physical energy is what really gets me.)

This doesn't sound like laziness, it sounds like a lack of nutrients somewhere.

There's nothing at all wrong with living life at a slower pace. Many people do and lead happy and fulfilling lives.

But you don't really seem very happy or fulfilled. You are on here feeling the need to justify your low energy/ low motivation and get validation... whereas if you were happy with your chosen lifestyle then you wouldn't need to do that.

I'm getting the feeling that there might be more going on and maybe you are a bit depressed? Depression can cause low energy (and low energy can then cause low motivation, make us feel bad about ourselves, which feeds into depression... it's a vicious cycle).

Have you ever tried speaking to a counsellor?

I don't think you sound lazy, I think you sound either depressed or physically unwell, possibly due to a deficiency of some sort.

I would see a doctor if I were you.

have You been “too lazy” to go to the doctpr
sboit it? I’d be honestly going op, that doesn’t sound normal:

I'm not depressed or burnt out because I've always been like this as long as I can remember

Just to add... the fact that you've always been like this doesn't mean you're not depressed. People can spend most of their lives depressed before they realise.

From your posts it sounds like you have low mood (not a criticism so please don't take it that way), but life doesn't have to be that way.

I wonder if you would be up to reaching out for some support from a counsellor or even looking on the Mind website (mind.org.uk).

Are you happy? I mean are you happy with how you live or do you want to change things?

Sounds like me, I'm autistic and hypermobile which causes lethargy. Not the best combination but I do what I can. What's important though is are you content?

As long as you are happy.

I personally hate being lazy.

My OH will gravitate towards the chair or bed to sit down after every minor task it really wrecks my head.

If he was organised and then relaxed that wouldn't be an issue.

I don't believe it is always depression rather than personality.

I see it in DC some are motivated while others do the minimum require, you can see it when they're walking some are sluggish or brisk walking from the off.

I'm not happy at all no, I'm just trying to get through life. I do have constant brain fog too but I have everything I want in life.

Someone mentioned thyroid which I've looked up and ticked all the symptoms so I've ordered an online test from eBay (I know I should see a GP but in the west that's easier said than done) if it says it's that I'll make an appointment but I'd know one way or another.

Have you ruled out any medical causes? You sound like someone in my family. He has ADHD and has also just been to a sleep clinic and been diagnosed with hypopnea (basically he's not breathing properly in certain sleep positions).

Wow, I could have written this.

Recent ADHD diagnosis too and put it down to that, but might try thyroid too. It's very dissatisfying to be like this, and the extra pressure from busy people doesn't help.

I do wish it was ok to just do what you need to though.

Please google inattentive adhd

I do have innatentive ADHD yes, I put a reply answering that somewhere but I'd name changed so it probably got missed. I don't think that's the root of the tiredness though but I could be wrong I really don't know.

Thyroid problems can cause ADHD.

It's interesting because I used to be lazy. I could spend every evening or all weekend lounging around, doing the bare minimum - but then something changed. Part of it was motherhood (no time to be lazy) but also my DH is a really active person who always keeps himself busy. I think it rubbed off on me. I now find it hard to do nothing. I get very restless. I have this theory that when you're busy doing stuff it releases endorphins. This become addictive so the more you do, the more you WANT to do. That's my opinion anyway. If I do laze around now I become very lethargic but if I keep doing stuff I feel good.

I have to focus hard and use lists in order to keep on top of things.

I try to do things in 5's as an example before I goof off.

Put away 5 things before sitting, even if it is tiny things, I'm naturally disorganised and losing keys, cards, phone however the benefits of pushing myself outweigh the miserable feeling of being overwhelmed.

When my home is messy my mind is messy, time is wasted so much on the little things, thinking about them.

I do as much as I can in the evening to minimise a stressful morning.

Most of the time I'm like a headless chicken it feels good to have some brain control.

It's a battle I want to fight.

BTW your description isn't lazy, you're overwhelmed, small steps and challenging yourself definitely improves the mind.

When you say I don't enjoy anything I just want to sleep when I'm not at work feeling tired and bored you are not describing laziness but unhappiness IMO.

You've answered your own question really.

Are you unreasonable to just be a lazy person?

No, but you're not just a lazy person... you have low energy and are miserable.

You should probably go to the GP.

Don't fight it.

Do the bare minimum.

I'm lazy too but when I just let myself be lazy I become more productive, because I crumble under the weight of more than one major task per day.

I keep the house all day long and work, so I can't really be lazy but essentially I am because I don't desire to have everything nor do everything all the time.

When my daughter goes to bed I clock off, from life. I get in bed and cosy up and do my own thing, maybe glass of wine, TV show, game on phone, mindless internet scrolling.

I wake slowly each day and ease into my tasks. I like to have very little on. I have commitments to my daughter's education as she's home educated, like I say I keep the house, the cats, the garden, cook meals, and I have work tasks.

But I like to have only one work task a day so I can potter around and do all my other tasks around that. I don't like deadlines either. I like loose deadlines.

I've managed to get myself into a place where I can live this life, some of it is luck, but I worked for it, lazily. There was a lot of visualisation and putting feelers out before I went self-employed, and now, because of all my free time and lack of pressure, I can find work that pays really well for very little effort.

I say accept yourself, do NOT try to be how others are, they are usually not happy, they just got trapped by the idea that you're not worth anything if you aren't breaking your back via work.