Page 11 | Best passive aggressive/petty moments..

LittleMissUnreasonable · 2022-05-11T15:49:00+00:00

The other day I was trying to park in one of those private run car parks where there are no designated spaces. There was only one quite awkward space left and there was another car behind me who was practically sat on my tail trying to get this awkward spot. I decided to reverse out and find another car park but this tailgating car was not letting me go go as they were so hell-bent on getting this space and were trying to go around me. I just thought screw it and drove into the spot as I had nowhere to go. You could practically see the red mist coming from the driver's ears as they had to reverse and find another car park 😤 Another consistent one is that we have a manager who will without fail walk up to a small group of colleagues with a query and direct it to the men, completely ignoring the women. So now, even if I know the answer and the male colleague doesn't, I will just get on with my work and not intervene. It's funny to see the manager flapping around trying to work out the answer when he could have just asked...you know...a woman😱

RachelGreeneGreep · 12/05/2022 13:58

Idrinklotsofcoffee · 12/05/2022 12:52

I have a name that can be spelt with a J or a G but my name actually starts with a J. When people spell it incorrectly in emails (my name is right there!) I always start their name with a G therefore David would be Gavid, Michael becomes Gichael, etc. They get the hint quickly.

I did that one time with a company who added a H into my name so my reply was to Dhavid or Mhark or whhatever 😉.

Indicatrice · 12/05/2022 13:59

IncompleteSenten · 12/05/2022 13:26

🤣 considering you're wrong, it's not really that helpful, sweetheart but thanks for the warm cosy feels. Just like a snuggly hug it was. The exact same sentiment does not mean the exact same wording. Two sentences, for example, could be worded very differently yet both clearly mean 'fuck you and the horse you rode in on'.

I should probably stop wasting time arguing my pov given I can see we aren't going to agree and it's just so annoying when someone decides to latch on to something and go on about it for pages, just arguing the toss over something so, so trivial.

Enjoy your afternoon, sweetpea. Nice chatting with you.

I didn’t say exact same wording, did I? You really need to pay attention.

I know you’re secretly fumming due to your use of emojis and copious use of endearments, it’s ok.

Have a nice cup of tea and a lie down!

Tryhard40 · 12/05/2022 13:59

My favourite is greeting the next door neighbours, who for some inexplicable reason don't want to be polite and say hello to us (we've done nothing to them - they are just nasty and unfriendly and probably think we're "not their type") with a cheery "good morning" and a heartfelt smile on the school run every day.

The uncomfortable and slightly confused look on their faces makes me laugh inwardly every time! They have now progressed to giving a slight half-smile - progress!

Another is dealing with horrid BIL and SIL - who for reasons of their own making don't want anything to do with us. We just carry on as normal, sending birthday/Christmas cards even though they don't, asking after them and showing an interest in what their dc's are up to even though they don't do the same and inviting them to all family gatherings we have (which they don't attend and don't rsvp to). It's become very embarrassing for them now as it's quite obvious to all that they are the ones with the problem (plain old jealousy - but of course they can't voice that as the reason) so the rest of the family now just think they're a bit pathetic and silly.

I like to kill people with kindness.

GettingStuffed · 12/05/2022 14:00

When DS1 was a baby we lived next door to students. Unfortunately they had a habit of playing the Beautiful South , they only seemed to have one single, on endless repeat until the early morning. Whilst DS1 slept through it, neither DH or myself could sleep through it. After a few days of this DS1 some up at about half past 5 and wouldn't stop crying so I went outside and let him cry in front of their window. The music stopped after that. Eventually DS1 burped and stopped crying

Onlyforcake · 12/05/2022 14:00

When I was a single parent dealing with a sleep dodging child and rapidly losing weight due to gallbladder disease (basically too scared to eat anything) I was followed around a supermarket. I get it a bit, I was wearing baggy clothes and taking ages to decide on items.

SAME Security guard did this on every visit for 3 weeks and twice wanted to check my shop against the receipt and asked me to move the baby sling (with baby in it). I was mortified by the constant attention, he was very rude and said i should look 'a bit less rough' when shopping. A year later I'd slept, was dressed for work, no longer in regular pain he seemed to not recognise me at all. He was running after some teenager and I positioned my trolley just across the travelator enough that he couldn't get past, i made a show of being too feeble to move it. He was complaining he'd seen the teen nick a bottle of coke. I just smiled sweetly and said it must be hard running after these shoplifters, he was looking a bit rough.

JudgeJ · 12/05/2022 14:02

My late MIL was quite proud of the fact that her husband wouldn't allow her to go out to work and she always referred to my 'little job'. She did this once too often, when there were a few of her friends round, and I made thebpoint of telling her, loudly, that I earned more than her son and that my job was considerably senior to his!
No point in telling her when there was no-one else there.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 12/05/2022 14:03

warofthemonstertrucks · 12/05/2022 11:15

Exh used to have a weird thing that he 'couldn't' have the volume on the TV on an uneven number on the volume scale thing. We he annoyed me I would put it on an Jensen number when he wasn't looking and then be secretly smug that he hadn't noticed.

Not at all petty but I just told my partner this as I thought it was funny. He's looked sheepishly at me and said he always sets it to a multiple of 5...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/05/2022 14:04

Hamster Poster and Cutlery Knobber are wonderful - thank you to the posters!

LorW · 12/05/2022 14:06

ifIwerenotanandroid · 12/05/2022 13:45

OP, I had a parking one like yours. Round here there are people who, on entering a full car park, just sit there waiting for someone to leave (even if no-one is about to). It means I'm stuck behind them when I want to go & find another car park. It occurs to me now that I could reverse out, but it's not always easy or safe.

One day this couple made me sit behind them right at the entrance to the car park. They refused to move their large Jaguar so I could be on my way. Then a space became available on the far side of the car park. They drove just past it, obviously intending to reverse into it & I thought, 'I'm going to be petty. They didn't care about ME,' so I drove into the space before they could reverse in.

It was a glorious moment. They were fuming, but in that British way the wife said to me as I walked past them to get a ticket, "Thank you very much!". I played dumb & said, "Sorry?". "We were going to have that space," she said. I didn't know what to say, then out of the corner of my eye I could see someone leaving from the next row of cars ahead of us, so I played dumb again & said, "Oh, I thought you were going for THAT space," & pointed at it. There was a fair chance she or her husband knew this was a lie because there hadn't been a space there, which made it even funnier.

What delights me about this is that I wouldn't normally have the guts to do this, but they'd annoyed me so much by selfishly blocking the way.

funny, I’d of been really childish and asked them if their name was on the parking space and said ‘you snooze, you lose’ 😁 I haven’t got into the situation but I can’t wait for the day it happens 😂

Babyvenusplant · 12/05/2022 14:06

I had one of those wankers who likes to weave in and out of traffic between two lanes, fitting into tiny gaps to try and get ahead of everyone this morning, I saw him in the mirror doing it behind me so I just stayed completely in line with the car next to me so he couldn't do it anymore, little things!

JesusSufferingFuck22 · 12/05/2022 14:08

DonnyBurrito · 12/05/2022 08:25

My ex used to leave used (bloody) dental floss and cores of rotting fruit everywhere like the arm of the sofa or on the side of the bath, or just anywhere like that he plonked it and left it for ages.

Eventually, when I realised asking him nicely wouldn't work, I just started putting it in his shoes.

Tbf the relationship was already dead, but this did start a chain of not so subtle passive aggressive behaviour that helped put the nail in the coffin.

Oh I love this! Made me chuckle. I have a dh who leaves his dental floss in the vicinity of the bin.

jackstini · 12/05/2022 14:09

Had a horrible boss who stitched me up when I left my first job

I had told him that I was thinking of leaving, made sure my interview was on my day off and gave him extra notice when I got the new job - which I had to fax from a hotel as I was on holiday (in the 90s!)

I got home to a letter from him telling me I was not allowed to work my notice, or have a leaving do or ever speak to my previous colleagues and I needed to call him to book an appointment to get my personal belongings out of hours as he had taken them out of my locker and put them in his office

I went straight into work to have it out with him and he was off but everyone else was really frosty with me. I then found out that he'd told them since I had a new job I felt I was too good for them and refused to work my notice, dropping them all in it

I photocopied the letter he had sent me, put a copy on everyone's desk and told them I would be in the pub opposite after work and asked his assistant (who was lovely) to please get my personal belongings out of his locked office

Had a lovely drink with everyone that evening, poached 4 of the staff for my new company and started my new job 3 weeks early, so overlapping notice pay and new pay 😁

Tryhard40 · 12/05/2022 14:16

I had one of those wankers who likes to weave in and out of traffic between two lanes, fitting into tiny gaps to try and get ahead of everyone this morning, I saw him in the mirror doing it behind me so I just stayed completely in line with the car next to me so he couldn't do it anymore, little things!

Ah yes, I enjoy doing this too - dh and I call it being a Lane Vigilante 😂

MerryMarigold · 12/05/2022 14:19

Lane vigilante 😂. I like to brake slightly and reduce my speed when someone tailgates me.

Cameleongirl · 12/05/2022 14:21

This isn't a great one, but it happened yesterday so I'll mention it.

I'd ordered a book from a local bookshop, simply because I'd rather support a local business than order online. I went to pick it up yesterday evening and I know I looked scruffy, hair scraped in a ponytail, jeans and sweatshirt. The woman behind the counter looked at me as if I were something on her shoe and went to find the book. Pre-ordered books are on a shelf behind the counter...well, she couldn't find it. Asked me in a snooty way whether I'd definitely placed the order (I'm also forrin so she may have thought I was incomprehensible on the phone ), looked it up in the computer and of course, I had.

It ended up being 10-15 minutes of her flapping around and she had to ask a colleague to find a copy for me. She was less snooty by the time I left! 😂

Newestname002 · 12/05/2022 14:21

@Terfydactyl

Please could you re-post as the last few words were chopped off...

I bloody love this. Proper made me chuckle. Mine is a small act. A boss of a small company asked the company I worked for to do a favour. I got lumbered with the favour which involved 45 minutes of my day every day until ??? A point in the future. I had to do this favour later on in the day because my own job. This one day, I went to do my 45 minutes. As I was leaving I pulled the bin out for the cleaner who was in the office. The boss of small company said something like "I have OCD and we dont leave bins

Thanks! 🌹

ifIwerenotanandroid · 12/05/2022 14:27

@LorW When your day comes, do whatever gives you the most satisfaction! There's no one way to play it, & I was winging it, TBH. I was just so grateful that the other space opened up, as I hate direct confrontation, & the sight of the other space made them scurry off before they lost it to someone else.

DifficultBloodyWoman · 12/05/2022 14:28

MerryMarigold · 12/05/2022 14:19

Lane vigilante 😂. I like to brake slightly and reduce my speed when someone tailgates me.

Yup, me too. My driving vastly improves when there are idiots on the road. It is amazing how simply following the rules of the road can piss some people off!

Georgeskitchen · 12/05/2022 14:28

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 12/05/2022 01:36

I did once give in to "shop rage" in Aldi.
I was putting a full shop on the conveyor belt, and the woman behind me started putting hera on without leaving any room for the rest of mine, tutting and rolling her eyes and obviously In A Hurry.
I just abandoned my own still half full trolley, sauntered down the line, said "sorry, but it's this or punch her" to the checkout person, and walked out.

Are you on of those irritating types that start loading up half way up the belt rather than from end? If so you are VERY unreasonable, as it can give the person behind you the wrong impression, because there is a massive gap on the belt, that you have loaded everything on. I have fallen victim to this is in the past and endured the death stare from the woman in front. Just load your fucking shopping from the END of the belt and give us all the break!!

Danikm151 · 12/05/2022 14:31

Everybody in the business calls me Dani instead of Danielle. My email signature says Dani and the name line on my gmail states Dani too.
Once person kept on calling me Danielle, despite others in the email thread stating Dani.
In response I started responding to emails with DANI in shouty capitals at the bottom. After the 3rd time they got it 😂

Not overly passive aggressive but felt good.

MzHz · 12/05/2022 14:35

Kat1953 · 12/05/2022 00:36

One part of my family are experts at passive aggression. They are so good at it, that it makes it really very difficult to have an open conversation about anything that needs go be addressed - from minor annoyances to big issues.

Very occasionally, when they've succeeded in winding me up to a sufficient degree and stifled any attempt to address whatever it is, and I am making tea, I deliberately make their tea very badly.

A terrible cup of tea is their just-desserts and it makes me feel marginally better.

😂 This is THE single most BRITISH of revenge methods. LOVe it!

Vicktorius · 12/05/2022 14:37

Danikm151 · 12/05/2022 14:31

Everybody in the business calls me Dani instead of Danielle. My email signature says Dani and the name line on my gmail states Dani too.
Once person kept on calling me Danielle, despite others in the email thread stating Dani.
In response I started responding to emails with DANI in shouty capitals at the bottom. After the 3rd time they got it 😂

Not overly passive aggressive but felt good.

I have a foreign surname but a very typical British first name. For some reason, people struggle with that concept and often get my first name wrong, making up a variation of my surname as my first name.

There was one person who kept calling me this made up name on email, despite me correcting him. I finally returned the favour in an email (took his surname and turned it into another word) and he miraculously got my name right going forward!

Indicatrice · 12/05/2022 14:37

Danikm151 · 12/05/2022 14:31

Everybody in the business calls me Dani instead of Danielle. My email signature says Dani and the name line on my gmail states Dani too.
Once person kept on calling me Danielle, despite others in the email thread stating Dani.
In response I started responding to emails with DANI in shouty capitals at the bottom. After the 3rd time they got it 😂

Not overly passive aggressive but felt good.

If your email address is [email protected] (for example) then yabu to be annoyed.

crowsfeet57 · 12/05/2022 14:41

The lady refused, she was reading a 1400 page book throughout the flight, just before landing she went to the toilet and my mum ripped out the last few pages of her book, which obviously contained the conclusion of the story she was reading

That's not passive aggressive it's just plain aggressive not to mention criminal damage. People don't have to swap seats on planes you know she was well within her rights to say no.

Thejoyfulstar · 12/05/2022 14:45

A few years ago I was living abroad and was absolutely skint. There was a well known coffee shop chain around the corner. I saw on a previous receipt from a coffee I'd ordered a few days before, that if you filled in a questionnaire on their website, you would get a free cappuccino. I checked the info on the receipt and the offer was due to end in a few weeks. Did the survey and off I popped over to the coffee shop.

Got in the queue and showed the email confirming that I had done the survey. Asked for my free cappuccino as per the previous receipt. The barista looked at me with a patronising and almost contemptuous smile. 'We're not doing that anymore', she said. I got a bit ruffled and said, 'but it says on the receipt that the offer is valid until x date'. She just gave me that tight lipped smile and stared at me as if to say 'go away'.

Off I sulked with my tail between my legs, feeling pretty humiliated. I was so mad that I had fulfilled my side of the bargain, spent my time doing the survey and gave my details and opinions and they didn't uphold their side because the barista obviously just decided she wasn't going to give me what I was entitled to.

I was furious and felt so affronted that I couldn't sleep that night. Her tight lipped smile kept haunting my thoughts all night. I felt like such a fool, thinking I could get a nice free coffee out but had to just go home and boil the kettle instead.

Next day, I emailed the company and they forwarded it onto the regional manager. I told them what happened and how betrayed I felt (I really took this to heart for some reason!). He agreed that I should have got my free coffee and asked me what my local branch was. He got back to me to say that he had emailed them with instructions to give me my free cappuccino when I was next in.

I went in and it was the same girl. 'I'm here for my free cappuccino', I said. 'Yes, we got the email' she replied, as she whipped up a frothy storm and charged me nothing, as she should have done the first time!

I didn't care if she thought I was petty as I knew I was leaving the country but for some reason, I felt like I was owed that coffee and I was going to get it. When I look back now, it was extremely petty and a bit sad. The whole thing took about a week of back and forth emails and the coffee wasn't even that good.