DH friends with the school mums

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I haven't done the school run for months as I had a horrible third trimester and I have been at home with the baby for 5 weeks. DH has become friends with some of the school mums. I'm not surprised as DH makes friends easily and loves a good natter. I am the opposite! I'm quite shy and will purposely get out off the car with 1 minute to go before the kids go in to avoid the playground mums.

I went with DH to collect DS and they was all congratulating DH on our baby and never spoke a word to me. I of course felt so awkward so I have stopped going and have to asked DH to start going again.

They've now arranged a play date and invited DS and DH.

AIBU to feel a bit odd about it? I always imagined when I had kids it would be me that would be talking to other mums but it's been the complete opposite and I feel a bit left out I guess.

Swayingpalmtrees well done for ruining the thread by projecting all over it. You justmped from the dh and the school mom's must be considering affairs to the dh and school mom's were all purposely disrespectful to op, despite the fact that she has made no effort to engage and purposely avoided all communication. Who would you invite to tbe playdate the person you have seen recently who engages or the woman who hid in her car and you havnt seen for months

@Swayingpalmtrees sounds like you’ve had some tough things happen to you for you to form your views and I’m sorry for that. But as person above says - don’t project. The poor dude has just made friends with his kids’ friends parents. Absolutely nothing to suggest anyone is considering an affair - sexual or emotional…..it’s just weird to keep saying it.

I would always invite the mother of the child to a playdate, and congratulate the mother on the birth of a newborn baby, not pointedly ignore her and talk to her husband thanks zellers and as we haven't had any kind of update to the questions on the thread.

I would never be rude to a school parent whether they were life and soul or hide away in the car ( I would assume they were nervous, socially or had personal reasons if they were hiding in the car) so unlike you, I would not be judging her for finding the school experience intimidating/stressful.

Our playdates here often include dinner and wine, especially at the weekend

what sort of crazy play dates are these

ounds like you’ve had some tough things happen to you for you to form your views and I’m sorry for that.
Nothing has happened to me, but I have witnessed many affairs over the years.

I am not suggesting for a minute that will happen to op, but it is worth considering why they invited dh and not her to the playdate

It's perfectly obvious why: because they know him and talk to him. They don't know or talk to OP, because she has gone out of her way to avoid them.

We don't need any of your paranoid nonsensical ramblings about affairs and such.

Who died and made you the thread police missuus 🙄

OP I get you're shy but you do have to make an effort if you want people to be friends with you. You purposefully avoided them, it was probably obvious, why would they talk to you over your husband who actually made the effort?

AIBU to feel a bit odd about it? I always imagined when I had kids it would be me that would be talking to other mums but it's been the complete opposite and I feel a bit left out I guess.

You can feel however you like about it, the only person who has the power to change what’s happening is you. You feel left out because you sent very strong messages that you want to be left out. You imagined you’d be the one chatting, but non-imaginary you hides in the car and stayed at home for months. If you want to be invited, you need to get to know them.

I understand your perspectives op, but your dh has made the effort and introductions ect. How did you expect you achieve what your dh has, when you leave it till the last minute to drop of dc ?