We are pregnant - no WE are not!

[Irishfarmer]

This phrase really annoys me. When did it become a thing? A friend said to me, that's so great ye are pregnant. I've heard it in a few other contexts too. We are having a baby, I am pregnant. I know it's really not that important but it annoys me. Something else along those lines was bugging me too but I can't remember what is is!! Which is also annoying me😂

BTW I am 30 weeks pregnant. Strange things annoy me these days

Cancer?
Seriously?

Congratulations Mr and Mrs Smith, it's a 3lb 6oz tumour.

🤦

Completely agree with you.

Does/did this pregnancy not involve both partners invovled?
Did the pregnancy not happen after discussions between both parties about said pregnancy? (if it was planned ofcourse)
Will the baby not be parented by both partners?
Will the baby not be biologically formed with DNA from both partners, and formed from the acts of both partners?

"We are pregnant" - Refers to "we" as a couple, which is correct.
"We are having a baby" - Refers to "we" as a couple, which is correct.
"We had a baby" - Refers to "we" as a couple, which is correct.

Meh, it's no big deal. Given that everybody knows it's women who give birth, it's hardly as if the man is hoodwinking people into thinking he is the one actually giving birth now is it?

@andymary
Of course it's not factually correct for a heterosexual couple to say "we are pregnant". Dictionary definition: pregnant:(of a woman or female animal) having a child or young developing in the uterus.

Different to "we are expecting a baby" which is factually true.

Fair enough to say the inaccuracy doesn't bother you but don't deny it exists.

Personally I think language matters.

It really annoys me! And I always correct it when it is said.

It does sound very odd indeed, but although we all know what it commonly means, 'pregnant' as an adjective can simply mean 'expectant' - as in 'a pregnant pause' - so technically, it might not be strictly wrong - still weird, though.

Men who say "I've just had a little boy/girl"
No you haven't. Your WIFE has

I think this one is petty and just trying to find an argument where there is none. Just because we tend to use 'had' as shorthand for 'given birth to' doesn't stop it also applying to a man who has just become a father and thus has had, i.e. now has, a baby. Grandparents say that they've just had a new grandchild all the time, and that's entirely normal and correct - obviously, nobody thinks they're claiming to have given birth themselves, otherwise he/she wouldn't be a grandchild - just as a father manifestly isn't claiming to have given birth to the baby himself.

If a couple comprises a FT working husband and a SAHM wife, would you berate her for saying "we've just bought a house", just because it was technically the money that he earned that actually bought it?

People frequently say "we built our own house" when they mean they bought a plot of land and contracted an architect and building firm to do it but didn't lay a single brick themselves. People also routinely say "we drove here", even when only one of them was actually driving.

Our NDN had a baby a few weeks ago and her Mother popped her head over our fence to inform us except she didn’t say ‘my daughter had the baby!’ as you’d expect. Instead she said ‘did you know WE had a baby last night?’ .

She’s always at their house, practically moved in since the baby was born. I don’t really like my Mum so can’t relate to anyone who actively wants to spend lots of time with their Mum but I’d just find it totally overbearing if my Mum thought her grandchild was actually her baby like the woman next door seems to.