We are pregnant - no WE are not!

[Irishfarmer]

This phrase really annoys me. When did it become a thing? A friend said to me, that's so great ye are pregnant. I've heard it in a few other contexts too. We are having a baby, I am pregnant. I know it's really not that important but it annoys me. Something else along those lines was bugging me too but I can't remember what is is!! Which is also annoying me😂

BTW I am 30 weeks pregnant. Strange things annoy me these days

^this

I actually think it’s quite sweet, although I appreciate I’m in the minority here (seems only people who agree with you are posting 😄)

You have articulated why it annoys me so much!

I find it annoying but it's better than the father not giving a shit I guess.

I agree. This bollocks drives me up the wall.

Men cannot get pregnant and do not give birth, much to the probable relief of most of them!

It reduces pregnancy to a mere act of passively waiting on a baby to magically grow for 9 months until it is magically born
it completely dismisses the fact that the mother is quite literally growing every mg, g and kg of that baby form her own resources - form her bloodstream into via the plancenta into the very cells of the baby as they develop. Every atom of calcium needed for the babies bones comes from the mothers bloodstream. Every lipid, protein, mineral . Everything. The mother goes through significant biological changes as a result of this including depleting calcium and other mineral from her body . The mother is also experiencing profound changes in her body to be able to accommodate that 8lb baby and then birth it- collagen weakens, lungs get pushed up, womb massively enlarges etc, and milk duct prepare for the act of lacation.

every calorie of energy that the baby needs to consume to grow from a few mg to 7-8lbs is energy taken form the mother.

it is a physical endurance act- and the reason why women need maternity leave to recover from that properly.

so exactly what is the father doing in this activities. He contributed a single cell. That’s it. If he’s attentive and thoughtful he might just ensure he does a little bit more than his fair share of chores round the house so the pregnant woman can rest a bit more. More typically with blokes like this they are sat on their arse smugly congratulating themselves that they have magically created a baby and believe they are responsible for 50% of that magic - and sadly society encourages this belief by expression like pregnant women “carrying” a baby- we don’t bloody carry it…we are growing it. Single handedly

@EmilyBolton spot on. I would like to add the massive risk, (excruciating) pain and long term (often life debilitating) consequences involved in actually getting the baby out, whether vaginally or surgically. Hubby's gonna do that for you, is he?

Yes indeed.
A long time ago but I did say "we are expecting...."

Hardly the end of the world how other people choose to talk about their pregnancies/babies 🤷‍♀️ yes I'm the one that has carried and birthed both my DC, and now pregnant with our 3rd, and even though my husband is hardly thrilled excited about this one, I really couldn't get this worked up over him telling people ' we're pregnant!' 😂
Must be nice to not have anything else in life to worry about!

@briancormorant I think that's fine to say. Everyone is expecting the baby born: that's more a mental state of knowing the woman is pregnant and expecting her to deliver a baby. But pregnancy is a physiological state where the mother grows the baby in her body and only she can be pregnant with that baby. There is a huge difference. I've no issue with 'we're expecting a baby'.

haha this made me laugh!! x

@Mommabear20 language and truth are important too. I can value these while also having lots of other things going on in my life.

In my antenatal class there was an absolute tosser who said, "we won't be having any pain relief, humans are the only animals that feel pain when giving birth." His (pregnant) partner sat there silently. Fuck, it was well over a decade ago and I am still filled with rage about it!

Omg we’re 30 weeks pregnant wow!

Hate it, it makes me cringe.
As does signing off correspondance with 'Sally, John & Bump'
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This winds me up. My DH used to say it all the time when I was pregnant, I got so fed up I started saying 'I didn't know you were pregnant too'. I was swollen, tired and in a lot of pain. He was fine

Although according to my toddler it is 😂
“I eat your booby milk mummy” was her phrase (we did extended BF to past 2).

”We are pregnant” also winds me up. It’s horribly smug. Urrghh

If you don't know the wife or she's not present there's no issue with him saying I in this situation.

I wouldn't have thought it's any one else's business how someone else refers to their pregnancy. People can do their thing however they want in their reproductive adventures without me getting offended by it.

@EmilyBolton if I could give you a Wembley stadium sized standing ovation for that, I would.

@Mommabear20 Must be nice to not have anything else in life to worry about!

Really hoped we had left dickish,reductive, shallow and brain dead comments like this in the Trump era but apparently not ... people are allowed to hold more than one thought in their brain, you know.

If you’re BU, then so am I when I see reports of a couple having ‘welcomed’ their child, and ‘sharing ‘ said offspring. Usually in relation to celebrities to be fair, I’ve never seen a real life person saying anything so naff.

I internally roll my eyes when men say that but I got the absolute RAGE at a bloke I know saying 'We don't want to be offered any pain relief' when discussing his wife impending labour.

Absolute liberties!

Good for Ye, glad he could put Kim and the weirdo behind him

I had my first 12 days ago, throughout the whole pregnancy I said 'we are pregnant', and when discussing labour I say when 'we were giving birth'.

My husband refers to when I (me) was pregnant and in labour.

I say we as I much as I carried, grew and birthed our Son, my husband was my absolute rock throughout, I would not of coped at all without his support and help and want him to be acknowledged for that support. Also we are a team and as such we are a 'we'.

However I'm not sure how I'd feel If someone else congratulated him on the labour.