How to tell someone their knickers are showing ?

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I really don't want to sound like a bitch 😩. There's a woman at work who started a couple of weeks ago. I'm on a secondment she keeps wearing see through leggings and you can see her top tucked into her knickers , we are in a patient facing role. I really don't want to hurt her feelings but I feel like it's just a matter of time before a patient or relative says something. How do you tell someone sensitively ?

Didn't see this but agreed. Don't make up any rules or anything else. Just tell her the truth. I've seen this on another thread on something else work related- 'just make up a rule'. No, don't! Just be straight with the person. Not every eventuality is covered by policy.

Her top tucked into her knickers?? How old is she, 2??

impossible to know what you should do without a lot more detail, but I'm sure you can decide for yourself.

All too often the shape on view is a hefty lardy arse and if the leggings are so thin as to be see through then it’s even more revolting.

So you too think if a bum is large it is revolting?!

Ok not ogling but they should stop looking at bums if they find the concept of a large bum revolting.

Ffs some of these suggestions! You don’t need to bring her line manager into it

Just give her a friendly heads-up at the end of her shift in a lighthearted way!

I would just mention in passing something about see through leggings..might get her to check.
I wear leggings for work but always make sure they are gym ones and not see through(plus I wear thongs to avoid vpl)if you wear leggings it's the only way to do it.
I work with a lady but it's in her own house so it doesn't matter...she had her knickers pulled up over her top which was tucked jnto her leggings.. I thought it funny but if we had been in public I would have told her! She would have laughed too.

If it were me I'd like someone to discretely tell me.

Her top tucked into her knickers?? How old is she, 2??

Doesn't everyone do this to get a nice smooth waistline in high waisted trousers?

After her shift say - Just noticed, your leggings are a little see through in this light. It doesn't offend me but just wanted you to know in case it bothers you.

Potted is correct. Leggings are not trousers. And, a bit like spandex and lycra, should be a privilege not a right.

Tell her you can read her innermost thoughts...

What do you mean by a privilege not a right?

The wearing of tight clothes is a privilege to be enjoyed only by slim women or those who wear them in accordance with the poster's ideas of taste presumably. I imagine they think they're being terribly witty.

Yes I thought this might be the case but was hoping poster could clarify as I couldn't believe someone would be that nasty!

What are your views on a white bra under a white shirt?

It's not exactly having your knickers on view is it? What a fuss!

If it was me - because I'm an absolute wimp - I would write her an anonymous note.

I thought you were going to say she had her skirt tucked into her knickers….I’m assuming she is young ie in her 20s.This seems trendy. I’ve seen it so often. If she’s allowed to wear leggings to work I doubt whether she cares if you can see her knickers…..most young people seem to want as much on show as possible. I’d just be grateful that she isn’t wearing the new style of leggings that are sculpted around one’s labia. I’d rather have to look at visible knickers than sculpted labia all day.
And as pp said if you are male do not say anything.

Tell her, but discretely where no one else can hear, also maybe leave it til the end of the day, no point telling her at 9 am when she can't do anything about it. See through leggings are something I am very paranoid about I bend over about 20 diff ways in front of a mirror to check. I WOULD want to be told. I'd be embarrassed but would want to know

@Buffyismyaltaego I once stopped a teenager going to school, the poor girl, her skirt had ridden up under her school bag, arse/ knickers all on show. She was still on a v quiet residential st but about to walk into the town centre. She went bright red but I think was happy some random in a car told her instead of half the school!

I think telling a woman she's got a tag on her clothes, her skirts tucked up or her zips down is very different from telling her her clothes are 'too revealing'. There is an assumption from some people that because they find the look of another woman in thin leggings abhorrent, the woman herself would be 'mortified'. Many women, particularly younger ones, are perfectly happy with this look. I'm sure if the woman was the type to be upset then a friend or family member would have alerted her by now, given she wears the leggings regularly, rather than needing a colleague of two weeks duration to involve themselves.

I’ve said to people. Quietly. When you bend over you can see you knickers.
I wish someone had told me when I had loo roll out the back of my leggings once.. I was walking up and for about 10 mins before someone said LOUDLY .. Kara you have a tissue tail.. they and a few others then pissed themselves..

I live in leggings after having a baby and I always bend over in front of a mirror to check. I also wear a long top.

How can she not know?!

@5128gap. Totally agree. I told my boss that she had period leak on her trousers…..I’d want someone to do the same for me- ditto loo roll hanging out, snot at the end of my nose, knickers tucked in my pants. That is entirely different to ‘you should wear different clothes because I don’t want to see your knickers/arse’ however nicely you choose to phrase it.

That could massively backfire and creep her out

It's really not appropriate to have your knickers / arse on show in most places though is it. Unless you're on the beach or at the pool.

Can you mention uniform guidelines/dress code?

See through leggings are not appropriate for anyone to wear in a patient facing role.

I agree, tell her towards the end of the day, discreetly. Just something like, don't know if you are aware but in the lighting your leggings can appear a little bit see-through. if you can't tell her late in the day before she leaves, can you have an old jumper ready or someting she can borrow to tie round her waist until she can change, as she probably just isn't aware and might be really embarrassed.