To think these jokes from friends are getting old

[Makingplansfornigel1]

Several years ago I had a couple of habits/ways of doing things that my friends found amusing, which is fair enough.
I haven't done any of those things for at least 3 years now though but some friends still bring it up when we're all together. I laugh along but inside I just don't see the point and think it's getting old.
We were all together on Saturday for the first time in a few months and it was mentioned again. "Makingplansfornigel1" does X virtually every week." "Makingplansfornigel1 1 is constantly doing X, I can't keep up!" "I've lost count of how many times makingplansfornigel1 has done x".

It's been mentioned a few times now and as I said I haven't done it in over 3 years. It's not the end of the world just slightly irritating. We're in our early 30s too.
I did try to justify myself in a non confrontational way saying I hadn't done it, but they didn't really seem to take it on board.

Another thing is that I change things more often than they do, whether that be hairstyle, job, home, etc. It's just who I am, whereas most of these friends have been in the same role for over 5 years, same hairstyle since 20s etc. And that is also fine.
But it's commented on every time. I don't even change that often, but it's always comments about how "you always do that, I can't keep up with you and what job you do etc.
Am I too sensitive?

Throw it back… “Yeah… change is as good as a holiday. You should try it sometime… I mean, you’ve had the same hairdo since 1996. Isn’t it a bit tired? Just like your jokes about me moving.”

Are they bored and jealous?

"That joke was really funny three/ten years ago, it is wearing a bit thin now"

"To think I used to find these meet ups enjoyable...."

And if they don't take the hint.

"No one finds that funny anymore Wendy"

And still not stopping

Ditch and find some better friends and tell them why.

They are using the pretence of humour to keep you in your place.

You have outgrown them.

Thanks for all the support, I do appreciate it.
I wondered at school if I was dyspraxic and over the years I have had potential mild ADHD/ASD symptoms. This seems to be a theme on this thread.
I'll definitely take on board the advice.
They clearly don't understand me or find me amusing as I don't correspond to their ideas of how people 'should' live.

One also told me that they 'can't imagine me being a mother' and laughed.

‘This, again? God, it’s getting old.’

^ that should stop it.

Some groups have this dynamic. I dobt particularly like hanging out with my group of old school friends as they all regress and tease about stuff that happened so long ago it's just the same old. Its mainly one girl but she does do it to everyone equally and it doesn't bother me as such it's just a bit boring.

In your group though its not really nice if just one person is the butt of the 'jokes'. And if it makes you feel bad but you can't tell them. And saying they can't imagine you being a mother is weird and insensitive. I think you either need to decide to put up with it, give them the benefit of the doubt and tell them you dont like it and see if they stop, or distance yourself

I've retrospectively made a comment about it being old news, in a lighthearted way on our group chat, and it's been ignored by everyone but read. Probably shouldn't have done but whatever. Really not fussed.

"Ha ha ha Aren't you hilarious & original!
Last time I needed to change my number was 3 years ago. Yet you're still obsessing over it to the point of mentioning it every time you see me. What is it you are finding so funny, because I just can't see the joke?"

If they push back - repeat, repeat, repeat.
If they then don't STFU - or if they raise the tedious topic again - withdraw from the friendship, because this much smallmindedness is too exhausting to tolerate, surely?

YANBU. They are lousy friends if they mock you like this.

My DH used to have the habit of bringing up daft things I did in the past to try and get a laugh. I drove into the back of a tractor once (late 1990s) and smashed the front of my car in, and my car was a write off. (It was on a sharp 'blind' bend.) I was badly shaken, and jarred my back, and was quite traumatised. I wasn't going really fast so wasn't badly injured, but it was quite awful.

For about 3 or 4 years he kept making 'jokes' about me 'the tractor wrecker' and LOLd about how I had written off my car. People always looked a bit awkward, and could see my annoyance. NO-ONE found it funny.

After the 15th time in about 3 years, I blew my stack on him, in front of 7 people, and said I was fucked off with his constant fucking goading and ribbing about this. The room felt totally silent for about a minute, and then one person said 'well, you do tend to mention this a LOT for cheap laughs, it's time to drop it I think. Maybug was upset about it at the time, why do you keep mentioning it?' He went flame red and said 'I'm only having a laugh.' I said 'yeah at MY expense!' He never mentioned again, ever.

Jeeze. Don't worry - her lack of imagination isn't your problem.

Neither is the insular world of this old bunch of pals, who you have clearly outgrown:
They clearly don't understand me or find me amusing as I don't correspond to their ideas of how people 'should' live.
Do you think their entrenched parochial views are challenged by the fact that you have travelled, lived & worked abroad, & it makes them feel insecure?
Not sure I could be arsed to put up with it - so if you feel similar, don't feel bad about distancing yourself.
There are so many interesting, vibrant & open-minded people in the world, you don't need to keep being bored & insulted by this lot.

@Makingplansfornigel1 Makingplansfornigel1

One also told me that they 'can't imagine me being a mother' and laughed.

That is actually fucking mean and horrible and spiteful. I had several people say that to me when I was in my 20s. One was someone I knew from school who was jealous I was having a baby when she couldn't even get a man to stay with her. One was a neighbour, and one was a colleague. All cunts, and all out of my life now. I am a mother now btw (of 2,) and a fucking amazing one. (Like most people here.)

I would cut them out and find new friends. Or just enjoy your own company without having to deal with other peoples crap. They sound just plain nasty really the more you say.

@PrettyMaybug I’m impressed with your friend for weighing in as well! It obviously made them uncomfortable

My DH used to do this a bit, and I was probably over-sensitive about it because my father used to also do it. DH knew that the constant parental criticism got on my nerves - other parents would be saying how well their kids were doing and telling of their achievements and my father would be talking me down and finding fault with everything. One time I just said to DH “you know you sound like my dad when you say that, and everyone here can see it and they don’t think it’s funny”. He was completely horrified and never did it again. It pays to pull them up on it!

Still totally ignored.. they'll probably say I was 'harsh' or 'overreacting' or whatever.

They're probably just laughing at me though.

I’m not sure what they could say that would help? Just leave it - you’ve made your point and hopefully it will sink in.

I'll definitely leave it, just think total radio silence from them all is a bit odd

Yeah I know what you mean. I used to be a terrible drinker at any social occasion and had a rep for it.
I haven't drunk for years now and sorted myself out. But noooo that's not good enough. At any social occasion it's brought up about how I used to get so pissed, how awful it was for everyone else.

Yeah it wasn't great for me either you assholes. Makes me want to never go out again.

@Makingplansfornigel1 You deserve better friends.

They're just embarrassed.

I tick a lot of the adhd boxes and have had similar happen to me more than a few times. If you kick off it can make them worse so you laugh along, but a year later it wears really thin.

I think often it starts as good natured (or just something to say that binds you) but over time can becomes targeted, particularly if you are too nice or polite to say something back. It can become a real contempt thing if one person becomes scapegoated.

At best they’re not imaginative enough to think of something new to talk about. It might be a bit awkward for the next few times you see them but overall I think this is good for your backbone!

I agree with this. You should tell them and they should respect you. If they don’t then you need to think about the friendships, if it’a really annoying you