Hi,
So I've had this friend for almost 5 years now. We're close (ish) and in all honesty, where as I used to admire her gutsy, go getter attitude, I'm now seeing it differently and wondering if actually she's a bit of a CF.
She told me a few months ago that they were cutting back on extras like eating out, cinema etc because they wanted to take their son to Disney World next year. Lovely, I thought and seems like a sensible plan to be cutting back on non essentials.
Anyway, she keeps asking if they can come over for dinner, as it's "still a treat for them and their ds, but without having to fork out to go to a restaurant!" I think she believes I will just be flattered, because she's complimenting my cooking and house ( don't live in a mansion or anything, but she's into interior design, so is interested in that sort of thing) I have been flattered, but now I'm wondering whether she was just trying to butter me up.
Don't get me wrong, I'd be happy to have them over more often and dp and I do enjoy cooking and hosting, but I don't want to have to change our plans or factor them in because I feel awkward or rude to say, actually....no. You wait to be invited don't you? You don't invite yourself!
Last weekend we were having a BBQ and I know she was trying to get an invite. Again, starting with the compliments about wanting to see the garden since we did it up, but I thought, no, why should I now go out and buy more food and drink, because you're saving for a hugely expensive holiday?! We just wanted a quiet afternoon BBQ, just our family.
This is rude, right? I'm hoping she just gets the message soon. I don't want our friendship to come to an end, but it's getting awkward.
How would you handle this?