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Is this unacceptable

58 replies

cubangal · 10/05/2022 08:07

The three children over the road are allowed to play out each morning from 7.30am. They are out there noisily playing on the road now, riding their bikes and shouting.

OP posts:
Coldnoseandtoes · 10/05/2022 08:10

What age are they, they play out before school? Not to mention it sounds dangerous to be playing on a road.

coffeecupsandfairylights · 10/05/2022 08:15

I don't think 7.30am on a weekday is too early for playing, but they shouldn't be shouting.

cubangal · 10/05/2022 08:46

I guess about 7/8.

OP posts:
WildCoasts · 10/05/2022 08:48

On a weekday I think anything from 7am is okay. But the children should be taught to be considerate, not shout and be quiet. Stay in their own back yard is ideal. Is it safe to be on the road? That would concern me.

Shoxfordian · 10/05/2022 08:50

Yeah it’s annoying
As soon as it’s nice enough to sit outside, people let their horrible kids out screaming and making a noise

user1471457751 · 10/05/2022 09:21

Unfortunately, as you can see from other posters on this thread, some people are just incredibly selfish. They like to kick the kids out early in the morning so they can have a peaceful morning not caring that their children are disturbing others.

These children shouldn't be playing in the road at anytime due to the risk to themselves. They also shouldn't be playing out at 7.30 causing a noise disturbance to neighbours. I think some parents get desensitised to the noise their children make and don't realise that even their idea of quiet play can still be bloody irritating.

Fairisleflora · 10/05/2022 09:25

Correct me if I’m wrong but the unicef rights of a child let them play. Telling them to keep quiet etc breaches that right. It’s normal for kids to get up at 7-ish, not bad parenting. They are allowed to play within normal children’s waking time. If it was 11 at night then that would be a welfare concern, but anytime between 7am to 8pm suck it up!

Fairisleflora · 10/05/2022 09:26

If you find the noise of kids being kids irritating, go buy a house in the country.

WildCoasts · 10/05/2022 09:30

Most people start noisy work days around the streets at 7am, if not earlier. A lot of people are on their way to work, or kids to school, at that time. So therefore, I say life is okay to start outside from 7am on a week day.

weekendninja · 10/05/2022 09:32

Weekdays I'd have no problem with it.

Weekends, anything after 9am is fine.

Discovereads · 10/05/2022 09:34

Yes it’s acceptable.

Retrievemysanity · 10/05/2022 09:36

Weekdays after 7 is ok I’d say. Mine wouldn’t play in the road but in the garden after that time. Weekends, later.

Chaoslatte · 10/05/2022 09:39

They shouldn’t be making enough noise to disturb neighbours at any time of day - there could be shift workers trying to sleep. Playing out that early is fine as long as they don’t disturb others.

Chaoslatte · 10/05/2022 09:41

Fairisleflora · 10/05/2022 09:25

Correct me if I’m wrong but the unicef rights of a child let them play. Telling them to keep quiet etc breaches that right. It’s normal for kids to get up at 7-ish, not bad parenting. They are allowed to play within normal children’s waking time. If it was 11 at night then that would be a welfare concern, but anytime between 7am to 8pm suck it up!

Teaching kids not to shout and screech does not violate their rights! It’s teaching them how to be decent members of society which is kind of the point of parenting.

Shoxfordian · 10/05/2022 09:42

@Fairisleflora

Kids live in the country too; I’ve checked

WildCoasts · 10/05/2022 09:45

Normal kid noises is more tolerable than worker radios, motorbikes, jack hammers or whatever works are going on, hammers, sirens, dogs barking constantly, cats fighting, couples arguing, or so many other noises you get in the morning.

WildCoasts · 10/05/2022 09:47

Shoxfordian · 10/05/2022 09:42

@Fairisleflora

Kids live in the country too; I’ve checked

They tend to be further away. If you don't hear them you'll have to hear cows and sheep and tractors and all other things you get in the country. It wasn't until I was in the country I realised how individual the maa of a sheep is. They started up at 5am.

LeevMarie · 10/05/2022 10:19

I think this is out of order on a number of different levels, to be fair.

Roads tend not to be the best places to play. The parents should get a grip of this. Generally, the type of parent who allows their child to run around on roads are exactly the type of person who would berate you as a motorist for failing to have eyes in the back of your head if there was an accident.

Kids playing early on a morning is fine, in my opinion. Excessive noise at any time of the day is not. I don't think you're being unreasonable for wanting some peace first thing on a morning.

Fairisleflora · 10/05/2022 14:12

Kids can screech all they like. It’s part of being a child.

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 10/05/2022 14:29

I miss the days when children playing outside was normal and one of the sounds of summer. Now you are a social outcast if you allow them out.

Chaoslatte · 10/05/2022 14:40

Fairisleflora · 10/05/2022 14:12

Kids can screech all they like. It’s part of being a child.

No. They have to learn when it’s appropriate to screech and when it isn’t. For example - classroom, cinema, restaurant, late at night, early in the morning (where it would disturb sleeping neighbours) are not appropriate. Soft play, park,
playground fine.

Tryhard40 · 10/05/2022 14:51

They shouldn’t be making enough noise to disturb neighbours at any time of day - there could be shift workers trying to sleep.

Oh fgs. By that rule shift workers would most likely be working...shifts though. So it wouldn't matter what time of day or night it was - there may well be someone trying to sleep. Should we all stop our children from playing outdoors at any time in case they disturb someone?

The children, and their parents have every right to be outside playing at 7.30 in the morning. I'm assuming it's a cul-de-sac or the like and not a dual carriageway you live on?
You OP, would be within your rights to politely ask the parents if they could tell the children to keep the noise down if they are indeed being unreasonably noisy.

As another poster said, if you want total peace and quiet you could buy a remote cottage in the country. But then again, cockerels / wildlife noise etc.

Anonymous48 · 10/05/2022 14:55

Why do you think it's unacceptable? I think it's much better that kids are out playing rather than stuck inside on screens.

Kat1953 · 10/05/2022 15:04

Fairisleflora · 10/05/2022 09:25

Correct me if I’m wrong but the unicef rights of a child let them play. Telling them to keep quiet etc breaches that right. It’s normal for kids to get up at 7-ish, not bad parenting. They are allowed to play within normal children’s waking time. If it was 11 at night then that would be a welfare concern, but anytime between 7am to 8pm suck it up!

It's not an infringement of a child's right to set boundaries on their play for their safety or the consideration of others though. Fgs.

Another thread probably still running had a debate about what time its appropriate at the weekend to let children out to play. Op decided not to before 9am.

Whatever time you let them out, it's absolutely right (and ought to be encouraged) that you discourage excessive noise - especially either of the day.

Kat1953 · 10/05/2022 15:04

*Either end