Would you judge a friend who’s preschooler

[Isitjustmoi]

(NC)
had already had 3 fillings?

my son has terrible teeth, hes 4 in july, my daughter.. completely straight white teeth completely healthy, shes 3 in june... They eat the same, brush the same, have always been the same and yet when his teeth started growing they were just going black, dentist said something to do with the proteins and that once his older teeth grow in they should be better but could still be problem teeth.

I'm surprised by the amount of posters who think it's just neglect that can cause this. Teeth brushing being non negotiable also won't solve some kids' dental issues

No. There are loads of possible underlying causes.

dD needed 5 teeth out under general aged 5, felt horrifically guilty. I also have appallingly weak teeth. Now diagnosed with EDS which has dental issues as one of many symptoms and are likely cause of her and my poor teeth so YABU, it may be a health issue that you (and they!) know nothing about

My daughter brushes her teeth twice a day, eats healthily, rarely has juice / sugar and is about to have two teeth removed. Her teeth are malformed, not maltreated. Please don't judge

Absolutely not. Genetics has a huge role to play in dental health. I have perfect teeth, no fillings at 37, no issues ever, but am not great at dental hygiene. My sister, a dentist who is absolutely impeccable with her dental hygiene and sugar consumption has had multiple fillings at 28.

I one looked after a four year old who had a full mouth clearance. It should be classed as neglect. Though I heard my dentist receptionist telling a parent who'd missed 3 appointments, that they'd report to social care if they missed another.

All my 3DC have had dental checkups since before their teeth began to come in. I used to take them with me to my own dental appointments and they were more than happy to check them over at my request to check and get them used to seeing a dentist.. oldest two no fillings all three of them good brushing techniques. Youngest now an adulthas one permanent filling and is always needing a filling on her one front tooth ( it drops off between appointments).. Dentist says it is obviously due to something she suffered before her baby teeth came in. Hoping they can sort it once her braces come off.

So no I wouldn't judge as it could well be an medical issue.

Actually that's reminded me the same daughter had a friend at school who had to have 10 baby teeth removed.. definitely a medical issue

Depends...neglect then yes.
Genetics ..no.

Depends on the circumstances.
If they drink squash out of a baby bottle then yes.
If it was due to a medical issue than no.

Not necessarily. I have very poor teeth (as an adult) and there is a medical reason for this, so it could be something similar presumably. If it were poor diet/ care and I knew that for a fact then I'd feel sorry for the child, more than judge the parents, but if I'm honest I would judge them a bit.

I would maybe Google hypermineralised teeth and then shut the fuck up.

I'd be a bit shocked

No - it’s likely a genetic thing

unless friend had fed coke in bottles every day since birth

Well, while we’re being judgey you mean whose, not who’s.

Who’s is the contraction, as in “who is”. “Here is the poster, Isitjustmoi who’s the world expert on dental hygiene in preschoolers”, versus “The poster, Isitjustmoi, whose paper on the benefits of tooth brushing, will be speaking at the next Dental Association conference”.

No, because I tend not to shame other mothers for their children’s health conditions.

I think it’s called “being a decent human”.

No. NHS dentistry is a mess and there are parts of the country where children wait more than 3-4 years to get onto a dentist's books. We pay for private check-ups for our DC, but not everyone can afford that especially for multiple DC (and children only tend to be free if their parents are private patients). Prevention is key. Without regular check-ups, how can you know that you're brushing your children's teeth properly and if any trouble spots are developing? Children should have regular toothbrushing and check-ups in school (yes, it's the parents' job but the system isn't working).

I do raise an eyebrow at parents constantly giving their children juice to sip, but then my DC has never had a problem with milk and water (and actually prefers water to juice), so I don't face the difficulties some other parents do in getting their kids to drink sufficient fluids.

I would just assume there's a medical issue. Given how utterly impossible it's been to get routine dental treatment during covid, the fact that they've already had treatment as a pre schooler would make me assume that their dentist was already aware of the issues.

No, I wouldn't judge as its none of my business and tooth decay isn't necessarily down to neglect. One of my DC had very weak enamel on their baby teeth and some of their adult teeth have grown in with a pitted appearance due to the enamel on them not forming properly, this is down to essential medications used during infancy.

No, I wouldn't. There can be several reasons for fillings - ill health, use of antibiotics, naturally poor enamel / weak teeth, lack of knowledge about what impacts dental health etc.

No because you don’t know what caused it and you’re not here to judge people

No. Loads of reasons, & my first thought would be a medical thing over the parents just never brushing their kids teeth.

My friends son has an illness that makes his teeth break and fall out. He also has another condition that means he gradually will lose his hearing.
it’s hard enough for him (and her) without being judged.
Its nice to know that some people don’t.

That’s also very true. 4 year old have had little/no access to a dentist for half their lives!

No. DS has weak enamel from problems when he was in the womb. He's 12 and doesn't have fillings, but will almost certainly have some later in life. I'm sure there are babies and children with worse enamel weakness than him so wouldn't be surprised to see fillings.