Have I limited DD's future with an unusual name?

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DD9 is called Raya. Her elder brothers both have traditional, biblical names and that was the plan for her, but DF died just before she was born and she ended up with a "tribute" name, which I also thought was lovely. Hormones.

She likes her name and no issues at school apart from the millions of other names ending with "aya" and "iya", but I have had a sense of dread that she'll be denied job opportunities or friendships because she's being as a chav - or at least someone of a lower class. What if everyone hiring is a Millie or a Hugo and they see Raya on her CV.

Of course there's not much we can do now apart from steer her to use her traditional middle name??

YABU - she's fine! No problem!
YANBU - uh oh ....

I think it’s a genuinely beautiful name.

You've not enabled voting, but imho YANBU, it's a lovely name, she'll be fine!

She's fine, no problem :-). I think it's a lovely name actually.

as a team leader in tescos we have a couple of rayas here, one on checkout and another in chilled. they got hired etc etc

I don't think Raya sounds 'chavvy' at all!

It's a normal enough sounding name, but I also know plenty of successful people with much more unusual names. My optician last week was Porsche and she seemed to be getting along just fine in life.

YABU - nothing wrong with the name Raya

YABU it's fine

Raya is lovely. It would only raise eyebrows if you'd gone for weird spelling like Rayaaa but Raya is perfect

Raya is a beautiful name! I don’t think it gives off “chav” vibes at all

Raya is a lovely name. I wouldn't worry.

Not at all "chavvy" sounding to me.

Quite a few Raya's in dd's High school. Not as unusual as you think it is, so don't worry.

Absolutely not. Having encountered someone in a very professional role by the name of Starbreeze your daughter will have no issues at all.

I think it’s lovely

It's a beautiful name, I don't think she'll have any issues with her future. I also think you're thinking wayyyy to much into this.

Stop worrying about other people's opinions, they don't matter.

You're being ridiculous, nothing wrong with Raya. I was expecting something really bizarre.

There are so many much more unusual/ ridiculous sounding names around these days that Raya seems very restrained and "normal" in comparison. I don't think you need worry.

It's a pretty name.

While its unusual I don't think it would be judged.

People tend to judge names where they are after alcoholic beverages (chardonnay etc), are spelled in a way considered (in the local culture) to be obviously incorrect (Jazzmyn etc), are named after fashion brands (Armani etc). Double barrel first names can get judged a bit too - stuff with - Mai/Mae added

With a name like Raya I might predict a child had parents from another country because it's not that usual in the UK, but would think it an otherwise normal name.

It’s fine. She is a Raya amongst a sea of other non-traditional names for her generation. It won’t stand out and I think it’s really lovely too

My optician last week was Porsche and she seemed to be getting along just fine in life.

Was it definitely Porsche? You didn't maybe mishear Portia?

It’s literally just a name. If she has good qualifications and experience then she’ll get a job. If her name is perceived as so ‘chavvy’ that she can’t possibly get any work no matter what she does then I’m sure she can change it.

I hate all this silliness on mumsnet about names apparently being ‘chavvy’ and how they’ll hold the person back from getting a job etc. And it’s always just plain normal names.

Raya is a lovely name so YANBU for that but YABU for using the term chav ( council house and violent) hate this term as it's so condescending to people who actually live in council houses.

Raya is a beautiful name.

You mention that it was a tribute name (assuming for Ray) and perhaps this is skewing your opinion towards naff/chav - is there an element of cringiness in your feelings?

It’s a beautiful name.