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Would you let DC stay over?

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lancsgirl85 · 07/05/2022 20:34

NC because I'm probably going to be laughed at and might be being a bit "PFB" here... but here goes.

DC is 13 months old. Never stayed overnight away from DP and I before. A relative has offered to have DC overnight in couple of weeks time so DP and I can have a much needed date night and a "night off" for my birthday.

I was going to say yes ... but... relative has just got a new puppy (German Shepherd), 8 weeks old. DC has never been around dogs before. Puppy has never been around babies / toddlers before. This, on top of it being DC's first night away from us, is making me worry that it's not a good idea. DP doesn't think it's anything to worry about.

Would you be happy with this?

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Pickabearanybear · 07/05/2022 23:41

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FairyLightPups · 07/05/2022 23:49

If it wasn't for the dog it'd be fine but there is no way I would let a small toddler go to a house with a very young puppy, especially if the owner is a first time puppy owner

thaegumathteth · 07/05/2022 23:54

No but I wouldn't leave my 13 month old overnight so I'm not the best judge.

Do you trust the relative not to leave the baby and dog alone? If so then, if you're otherwise happy I don't see an issue.

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lancsgirl85 · 08/05/2022 07:16

Do you trust the relative not to leave the baby and dog alone?*

Yes.

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lancsgirl85 · 08/05/2022 07:19

But at 8 weeks old a German shepherd pup isn't bigger than a toddler!

She's only just turned 1, she's not a big toddler, closer to a baby tbh. I said toddler because she's recently started to walk a bit. The puppy honestly looks huge in the pics I've been sent!

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ilovemyboys3 · 08/05/2022 07:26

I wouldn't be happy with the dog being there unless your family member could assure me that they will be kept completely separate. A lot of puppies are kept in crates overnight and kept out of living room spaces. Depends what her/his thoughts were on this

KylieCharlene · 08/05/2022 07:32

No, I'd not enjoy the date night anyway. I'd be too busy driving myself crazy ruminating about something bad happening to my child.
It's not worth it.

luckylavender · 08/05/2022 07:38

It's a no from me

nancynoname · 08/05/2022 08:21

Without the dog - yes, definitely.
With the dog - not a chance in hell (regardless of breed).

nancynoname · 08/05/2022 08:23

I wouldn't let your baby stay over with anyone else as he's your son therefore should be with you. I'm afraid that parenting isn't part time.

I've seen some shit written on here in my time, but this one really tops the lot. I sincerely hope you are trolling, because if not, then get some help.

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lancsgirl85 · 08/05/2022 08:37

nancynoname · 08/05/2022 08:23

I wouldn't let your baby stay over with anyone else as he's your son therefore should be with you. I'm afraid that parenting isn't part time.

I've seen some shit written on here in my time, but this one really tops the lot. I sincerely hope you are trolling, because if not, then get some help.

Oh god I missed this 😂

Do people really think like this?!

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Gizacluethen · 08/05/2022 08:40

lancsgirl85 · 07/05/2022 20:46

Yes first dog.

Then it'd be a no from me. A German shepherd is not an appropriate first dog tbh. They need confident capable owners. They're lovely dogs and a pup isn't going to be very dangerous. But I wouldn't trust the owners to manage them both properly. If they'd had dogs before and been responsible owners then I'd have no issue.

DS is having his first night away from us in a few weeks at 13mo too. My mum is coming to my house to look after him because I think sleeping in a strange place as well as without me is too much in one go. So I don't think you're being PFB.

FabulousKilljoys · 08/05/2022 10:01

lancsgirl85 · 08/05/2022 07:16

Do you trust the relative not to leave the baby and dog alone?*

Yes.

Then I honestly can't see an issue. And an 8 week old GS pup is like a fluffy teddy, definitely not bigger than a 1yo, even a smallish 1yo. So if it looks huge then maybe it's older than 8 weeks?

Giraffe888 · 08/05/2022 10:21

I wouldn’t either

Indoctro · 08/05/2022 17:15

FabulousKilljoys · 07/05/2022 23:07

Obviously your baby, your call. But we got our first German shepherd puppy when my DD1 was a about 6 months old, so granted I probably view things differently to you.

But at 8 weeks old a German shepherd pup isn't bigger than a toddler!

Do you not trust your DF to keep them separate?

I know someone with a nasty scar on his face from being bitten by a 8 week puppy and he was a fully grown man

Don't be mistaken that a puppy can't do damage especially to a small child or baby.

Puppy's bite and even at that age can cause damage. They don't mean it but still not great if toddler has lip hanging off.

LuaDipa · 08/05/2022 17:24

Crimesean · 07/05/2022 20:47

Absolutely not - new to dog owning, first sleepover... wouldn't be happening on my watch. Too much scope for something to go wrong.

All of this.

LuaDipa · 08/05/2022 17:30

User3568975431146 · 07/05/2022 21:03

German shepherds are fantastic family dogs so you do have the wrong end of the stick there I'm afraid. That said, I wouldn't let your baby stay over with anyone else as he's your son therefore should be with you. I'm afraid that parenting isn't part time.

A night away = part time parenting. I’ve heard it all now.😂

Bluepolkadots42 · 08/05/2022 17:49

Definitely not. We've recently heard the most heart wrenching mauling incident from our friend that happened to his friends child. Life changing injuries. I would be lying if I said hearing about it and seeing pics hadn't made me incredibly anxious now any time a dog in a park bounds up to my 2 DC.

InChocolateWeTrust · 08/05/2022 17:51

100% not with a young puppy.

The puppy won't know how to react etc, it's not fair on either baby or puppy.

mackthepony · 08/05/2022 17:52

Nope. Puppy will be twice the size of your DS, twice the strength too

It's a no from me

InChocolateWeTrust · 08/05/2022 17:54

I wouldn't let your baby stay over with anyone else as he's your son therefore should be with you. I'm afraid that parenting isn't part time.

At 13 months?! One night with a loving relative is not part time parenting. That has proper made me laugh!

doggiescats · 08/05/2022 17:55

I was ready to think PFP and I am a very laid back parent but I would say no .
Puppies are hard work and am guessing your baby moves around.
Think pup and baby would find it stressful.

Stevie6 · 08/05/2022 18:01

mackthepony · 08/05/2022 17:52

Nope. Puppy will be twice the size of your DS, twice the strength too

It's a no from me

An 8 week old GSD is NOT twice the size of a 13 month old ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

FabulousKilljoys · 08/05/2022 18:03

mackthepony · 08/05/2022 17:52

Nope. Puppy will be twice the size of your DS, twice the strength too

It's a no from me

No, it absolutely won't be anywhere near the size of a 13 months old child let alone twice!! Christ.

IRunbecauseILikeCake · 08/05/2022 18:12

Sorry if I've missed this but are they first time dog owners?