To find it strange how my friend just dropped this into casual conversation?

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My friend phoned me this morning. She is married with two kids. We were speaking about what we got up to last night and she said, 'oh I didn't do much, we had a few drinks, watched a film then went up to bed and had sex'.

I was like oh right found it very strange that she just put that in there. It made me cringe as it was as if she was proud of the fact or bragging or something. Was really weird. Would anyone else cringe or find it strange at your friend saying this?

Yeah I'd find that weird and not sure how I'd even respond! "Oh ok, what position?" 🤣

I'm single and if I met someone and we had sex for the first time or if I could a one night stand I think I probably would tell my friend. But if I was married or in a relationship I don't know think there's any need as surely that is just presumed and also if you're having sex 3/4 times a week, do you then tell friend after every session? 🤣 so strange.

I think it depends on your friendship. Some of my friends would happily talk about this others wouldn't. Either way it wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't give it a 2nd thought.

I admit I wouldn't be totally comfortable with this turn in the conversation, but it depends on the person too. I've known people who are happy to mention their sex lives , but not in any great detail or anything. I tend to not engage in conversation like this myself, but I'd probably let it go on this occasion. I don't want to sound an ' old prude' by the way, but I suppose I'm not one to like discussing it either.

My ex best friend and I used to speak like this all the time. We were comfortable to tell each other stuff like this and it was just how we were.

It depends on you and your friends relationship, but I personally would find it really odd to mention. I'm married and certainly wouldn't mention it to any of my friends! Also- what sort of reaction/reply was she expecting???

Maybe it was particularly good, or things have been off the boil and she wanted to share her joy.

I wonder If it was such a rare event that it was worth mentioning, because a bit odd to do so.

I knew someone who liked to pry a bit ( with other people , not me) when she was with her ex because sex was becoming a huge problem for them at one point ( then they split up anyway)
Is she normally like this op? It was it a shock?

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest - I'd just laugh!

That's a bit odd, I can't imagine ever feeling the need to inform someone I'd have sex with my husband the night before, and wouldn't really want to know about if a friend had shagged her husband either, like I assume people have sex, just like I assume people go to the toilet, eat food etc.

This is normal for me and my friends what does being married have to do with it.

Do you inform your friends after every shag you and your husband have then? Or just specific ones?

Yeah, I'd think it was odd just to drop it randomly into conversation like that with no context.

When you're married with two young kids, having sex is an event.

YABVU.

😂

I'd find that very weird, why on earth would she think you wanted to know that? Getting it on with someone new for the first time could be considered news, shagging your husband isn't surely?

Well you should have said 'oh thats nice, I just read some books last night and then had a bowel movement and went to bed'

I have one friend that would definitely tell me this as it's such a rare event in their marriage. 😁

Depends on how close you are and if that's normal between you. I've got one friend I can talk to like this and others who I never would.

Ah, with your second post this now implies this was a passive aggressive intentional thing. If you're always telling her when you have sex, she's simply doing it back. Surely to suggest yours is fine and hers isn't because of relationship status, is hypocritical?

Did she cringe when you told her you were starting a thread on here about your conversation?

If it was exactly as you say, that seems very weird to me. Like saying: "quick half at the pub and then we went and got the car washed"!! Or "watched a film, cleared up, brushed my teeth". Almost like part of a shopping list.

If it was more "finally got our act together", or "obviously as it was his birthday ..." all said it a bit jokey, but probably referring to an earlier whinge etc.

Just listing it is odd to me, but obviously not others. Sounds weirdly non-sexual.

I didn't read it like that.

More like OP might share if it indicated a significant moment in a new relationship, eg: "finally slept together, it's getting more serious" , rather than a regular, every day event.

I would think they'd been having problems/a dry spell and for your friend it was 'an event' as a PP said. Maybe she was looking for an in to talk to you about the problems or just share the joy? Clumsy way to do it though, does she usually talk to you about intimate stuff or not?

This is the kind of reply I might give.. due to being neurodivergent though I think, and answering a question as it’s been asked. Is this your friends usual communication style, does she seem to share too much information in other ways too?!