To find it strange how my friend just dropped this into casual conversation?

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My friend phoned me this morning. She is married with two kids. We were speaking about what we got up to last night and she said, 'oh I didn't do much, we had a few drinks, watched a film then went up to bed and had sex'.

I was like oh right found it very strange that she just put that in there. It made me cringe as it was as if she was proud of the fact or bragging or something. Was really weird. Would anyone else cringe or find it strange at your friend saying this?

I've not had sex in several years 🤣 and even then was a once a year event so certainly not 'always' going on about my sex life

No not at all!

Hmm - I'd say it must be infrequent or she wouldn't have felt the need to mention it.

That would make sense then, she wanted to open a conversation about whatever problems they've been having but didn't know how so blurted it out awkwardly. That would be my guess anyway

Me and my friends talk like this. One of my best mates had a quickie in their garage not long ago and they've been together 10 years.

I have other friends where sex wouldn't get mentioned, but not a lot. I like the over sharers of the world.

Bit strange. I'd say thanks for the over share

Maybe just speaking without engaging her brain properly? Put the bins out, did the laundry, had a poo, picked up the kids...

I mean - it wouldn’t bother me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Same.

Totally depends on how the relationship is between you and her and if you normally talk about things like this

Not normal in my world. I'd laugh and say TMI

Maybe she thought you asked too many intrusive questions about her domestic life, and wanted you to BACK OFF?

Bit sort of 'cheeky' / open but not that weird imo.
I remember being at work once when I was very young, someone asked another woman what she did last night. "Not much, went to bed, couldn't sleep, had a shag"

Does she think you fancy her DH and she’s letting you know they are still “active”

The only time I’ve had this with a close friend the context was that they didn’t have sex much (it was heavily implied) so it was newsworthy that they’d initiated spontaneous non-baby-making sex. Still, “Last night Clive and I <whisper> had sex “ was more information than I needed or wanted.

I'd say she was on autopilot going through the evening, I do this sometimes and forget I'm.acrually having a conversation so share way more detail than I probably should.

What? 😂

I hate talking about sex with my friends, I'm not prudish at all I just find it a bit weird thinking about my friends having sex. I have one friend who just tells me everything anyway, she recently told me how a new fella she is seeing had her bend over her dressing table doing her up the bum. I nearly lost my lunch.

This wouldn't bother me. I talk intimate details with my 2 closest friends, menopausal dryness etc.

Well it sounds to me like she was just being matter of fact. I mean she didn’t go into detail about it did she? If she did, then that’s a bit different.

it wouldn’t bother me.

I do have one married friend/colleague who will come in to work and announce that she’s had sex last night but that’s because her and her husband hardly ever have sex.
But it’s said in a funny way and we all make a joke out of it.

I would find this very weird.
If it was the first time then I’d definitely tell my friend.
Surely if you’re in a relationship you have sex most days.

Sounds like it was a rare event.

But surely the quickie in the garage is notable, and something you might share with a close friend because it might make a funny story. The way OP described it it's almost cringe as it's a bit of a non-event unless it was something out of the ordinary for her. So I can only assume that it WAS out of the ordinary and therefore inviting you to comment?

Or, OR...she thinks you fancy her husband or vice versa, and she wants you to know very clearly that they still fancy and shag each other!!!

That's understandable, though, because it's a sexual difficulty that you might want to discuss with another woman to see if they experience the same, or have some advice to offer. If everything is just fine and dandy and it was a shag and then off to sleep, that's so bloody boring to anyone else, surely? As others have said it's just like saying "then I went up to bed and had a dump before brushing my teeth". No-one wants or needs to know those details.

I've got one friend where I would mention that I've had sex. Because they once revealed they don't believe married people do that after 5 years. So, for anecdotal evidence to the contrary I've started saying. Not to be outdone on the oversharing, she said "but was it good?" So I'll often give an idea of fantastic/ great/ average/ not bad. In return I listen to stories about her complicated romantic life and don't judge.

Do you think she was trying to make you feel bad about the difference between your lives?