To find it strange how my friend just dropped this into casual conversation?

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My friend phoned me this morning. She is married with two kids. We were speaking about what we got up to last night and she said, 'oh I didn't do much, we had a few drinks, watched a film then went up to bed and had sex'.

I was like oh right found it very strange that she just put that in there. It made me cringe as it was as if she was proud of the fact or bragging or something. Was really weird. Would anyone else cringe or find it strange at your friend saying this?

I'm loving the quickie in the garage story.

This wouldn’t bother me and I am totally comfortable talking about sex with my girlfriends. But the delivery in a sort of list of mundane tasks is odd.

It does imply to me that they are having problems or sleep together very rarely.

If you are good friends then not strange at all. You said you would tell her if you met someone and had sex. It is like you are saying since you are married you lose your sexuality and become boring. Don't really get what you are saying, she is hardly boasting.

It seems just not British to say it as your friend did- an 'early night' would be what I would have expected to be said.

I talk like this with some of my close friends. One friend tells me virtually every time they do and another not quite so often, but sometimes and in a light hearted, "had a quick hump/afternoon delight, then jumped in the shower and went out for tea", sort of way. I've never thought it to be strange.

My SIL telling me intimate details of her sex life with my brother, however, is a very different story!

Think I'd rather tell someone I'd had a poo than had sex. So British

Maybe she mentioned it as it was a rare occurrence, therefore noteworthy

I had a friend like this. She called it 'having a cuddle'!

Should have asked her if it was good.

That’s nearly as rank as “making love”.

Your friend phoned you? Old skool!

I'd probably leave the sex bit out, but I'm a guilty lapsed Catholic. I've got friends who'd leave it in, and I wouldn't think it inappropriate. You asked what she'd done and she told you. She was just factual; she didn't give you any detail. Maybe it took up a big portion of her night. Why are you so bothered by it?

I think it varies a lot between people, a bit like toilet talk. I've known people who will tell you their sex life in graphic detail but would never admit to doing a number 2, and others who tell you all about their toilet troubles but act like an awkward teenager if you mention anything sexual. Most people are somewhere in the middle though. I find prudish people a bit ridiculous (the kind who call sex having a cuddle 😂 or call farts fairy puffs or refuse to acknowledge they do them) but also some people are properly TMI I swear they do it to shock people.

I dunno - depends on the tone of voice perhaps. Could be funny if it was said a matter of fact sort of way. For a dry sense of humour.

''We ate food, we watched a film and we had sex!''

and that was that, kind of thing 😀

Or it could be said in a

''We ate food, we watched a film, and then ... <dramatic pause> ... WE HAD SEX!

in which case i'd take it the sex was a big deal!

I don’t think it’s about whether you’d feel comfortable with being told but rather that it was completely needless? It’s as if she said it to be like, ‘’Look at me, I had sex!’’ It’s weird bring up in that context I suppose. ‘’We went to bed’’ would suffice, but then again I suppose it would depend on her tone as well.

I feel comfortable talking about sex with my friends but I think I’d find it strange if someone said that like that as well. 😂

This is like a drama class going on in my head now - how many emotions can you portray with the 'food, film sex' sentence 😂

Maybe it took so much out of her that she was awfully tired and just hadn't engaged her brain...? 🤔

It would be totally normal with my girlfriends but we are a very open bunch, nothing is off limits
Maybe it's been a while & she just wanted to tell someone?. I met a friend for breakfast yesterday, she said I looked springy & glory. I said yep I got laid this morning ☺. Then we ordered coffee & moved on

Laiste

This is like a drama class going on in my head now - how many emotions can you portray with the 'food, film sex' sentence

"We ate food, we watched a film, and then... we had sex?" could convey a few different scenarios, perhaps.

Perhaps she was trying to make her evening sound a bit more interesting.

I understand your perspectives, but some don't always have a filter, and just say what's on their mind ect

DH and his male work cohort discuss sex and the quality/frequency/lack of it all the time apparently.

Monday morning's run down of the weekend goings on. And if one of them gets a bit of action in bed before work it's the first thing on the agenda at 8am after 'where's this wall going?'.

I used to feel a bit embarrassed to think of it if/when i ever had to meet these guys face to face - now i just block it out

Haha well you did ask. I like the way she preceded this information by saying ‘not much’. Having sex would be a major event for me! 🤣

Shock horror! One friend mentions the S word to another
YABU.