Odd door behaviour. AIBU to be a bit frightened?

[GrumpyLovegood]

Firstly I am absolutely not suggesting anything woo is going on. I am very very not woo-minded.
A couple of nights ago I went upstairs to check on dd7, who had gone to sleep in our bed. As I passed her bedroom door I heard a thud from inside. The door was closed tight and I thought the cat might be closed in there. But I had my hands full so went on into our room to drop off the clothes I was carrying. Dd was fast asleep and the cat was snoring peacefully next to her. I went back onto the landing intending to go into her room to investigate and found her bedroom door wide open and the light on. I went in and saw nothing out of the ordinary but was a bit freaked out. Decided something must’ve fallen off her bed for some reason although the room was completely still, no open window or anything. DH was downstairs.
Last night something woke DH at 3am. He got up for a wee, passing dd’s closed bedroom door on his way to the toilet. When he came out of the bathroom, dd’s door was wide open. He spent the rest of the night in her bed as he felt unsettled by it.
Cat was asleep on our bedroom floor.

So what is going into?
it’s not a draughty house though it is old. No other pets and cat is old and doesn’t bring home critters any more.

@ChuckMater - you could buy an indoor camera and set it up -

could your daughter have gone to her room to get a toy or something and then back to yours but left the light on? Could she have started sleep walking? One of my friends children did this for no apparent reason, and my recollection is it started about that age but not 100% sure on that.

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Oooh... a spirit spreadsheet, now that sounds interesting... can I have one please? 👻

Our cellar door opens when you walk past a particular spot on the floor above. It didn't do this for at least first 5 years we lived here. First couple of times it gave me a fright.

Perhaps its something like this but your DD had already left the light on.

I was sleeping in one morning, everyone else was downstairs and the bedroom door was shut so the cat couldn't get in, and I was just waking up when I heard the sound of creaking floorboard in my room, just like if someone was walking there. Would just ignore it but DS had just told me the day before that his imaginary friend, who has no skin (!), likes to sleep in mine and OH's room - gave me the shivers!

Maybe your daughter is sleep walking. Could explain the tiredness as well. My brother used to turn his bedroom lights on and off in his sleep when he was young.

This is so fucking creepy! ☠💀☠

@Pyloneu thankfully he's stopped talking about his imaginary friend and I haven't heard creepy creaking floorboards since

When I moved into my house, it was a bit decrepit. If you walked across the living room, the table lamps would flicker. The wiring was shot and the wobbly floor boards were causing some issue pressing against wires. You house could be having similar issues.

''Natsku · DS had just told me the day before that his imaginary friend, who has no skin (!), likes to sleep in mine and OH's room - gave me the shivers!''

Oh sweet baby jesus 😵

I find kids having imaginary friends really unsettling.

Very thankful than none of my 4 ever had one.

Always remember a post on here years ago by a poster who's son had an IF which used to lurk in the hall when adults were in the living room. The DS had told his mum the IF ''didn't like'' her. Often suggested he BITE her! After a while DS said he didn't really like the IF any more. OP told him to tell IF to go away.

Next day DS playing happily in living room. OP asks about IF. DS says ''oh IF not here''. OP relieved. DS says: ''but he's standing out now and he's watching us'', and points to living room window ....

😳😳😳

Imaginary friends are rather disturbing, even when they are supposedly nice friends.

Op, based on what you said about DDs birth father, are you going to look in the loft just incase? Also, is she old enough to be able to tell you if she saw someone/something in her room? I feel like you are in the Conjuring right now!

We have a door that appears shut but the catch isn't working and hinges aren't great so often opens on its own with wind or any vibrations in the house (like one door slams, it opens this one) Could it be something like that?

could your dd be getting up to open her door when she beats you or your husband? Then running back into bed and pretending to be back to sleep? I couldn't sleep with door shut when I was a kid, if someone shut it, I'd get up and open it.

sleep walking?

saying that, I would probably be freaked out too but the total skeptic in me (also scaredy cat) would say there must be a perfectly normal reason for this. 😅 I've never really believed in ghosts, but when my grandad died there was a few odd things going on but til this day I still think my mind was in over drive and I was just taking more notice to things!

Burn some sage. Yeah you'll be wandering around your house waving some smoking leaves, but if it is a woo thing (and woo things happen) maybe it needs a woo solution.

Advice from twitter - have windows open when you do it, or you'll end up with pissed off spirits ricocheting off the walls with no escape route.

Also pop your head up in the loft to check everything looks OK.

Is it possible that your DD is sleepwalking?

If it wasn't for the birth-dad issue I just grit my teeth and pour some wine.
But ... he exists. I might consider a quiet discussion at local police station and ask then to take a look at his history, any recent release, probation reports etc.

For peace of mind you could let DD camp out on your bedroom floor for a while and meanwhile put one of those hidden security pet/nanny cams in the room and leave a light on .

My whiny attention-seeking sister had an imaginary friend.
My mother made the enormous mistake of going along with it at first until it stopped being amusing and his demands ruled our lives.
Even 70 years later his imaginary name is burned on my brain .

"Say sorry/goodnight to X"
"X wants to play".
"X wants to sit in the front seat.It's his turn"
"DON'T SIT ON THAT CHAIR/ TOILET. X is on it."
"Bazooka forgot to set a place at the table for X"
"X won't eat his dinner. He hates it".

They can nibble on electrical cables and cause them to malfunction.

We live in a surveillance age with cameras every where yet there has never been one verifiable image or recording of a ghost. The dead can't harm you, it's the living that you need to worry about.

More importantly, is that 3 am BST? Are they more or less frisky at 3am winter time?

I hate them too. Really freaky. I am v glad my DC didn't have one, I'd have been so spooked.

@Mandodari

"We live in a surveillance age with cameras every where yet there has never been one verifiable image or recording of a ghost."

Yes that's my DH argument too. I don't think it works though. Ghosts aren't necessarily physical entities that can be photographed. They are a historical "memory" of a past emotion / strength / life.

So to me that argument is a bit like saying you don't have any bones because you can't see them in a normal photo. Or air doesn't exist because you can't photograph it.

Not everyone can see ghosts / paranormal entities / forces but those that do are probably "seeing" something that isn't physically there.

I'm very much "juries out" on what I personally believe - but I do think modern (wo)man is too ready to think they have all the answers - and to just dismiss things they cannot instantly see / understand. To their detriment.

A more concrete example - although a bit tangential - acupuncture has been mainly dismissed by Western medicine until fairly recently, but now it is contained in some NICE guidelines as beneficial .

"Or air doesn't exist because you can't photograph it."

I can't photograph air but I can prove it exists by blowing out a candle. I'm not mocking you in anyway but I think it a pointless exercise to imagine that your house is haunted when there will be a logical solution. Have a read of this article, it might help you worry less about the paranormal

www.independent.co.uk/tech/ghosts-brian-cox-large-hadron-collider-cern-real-truth-standard-model-physics-a7598026.html

@Mandodari - it doesn't worry me, but it does interest me.

I can't read the full article without registering- but it still strikes me it is falling into the same trap of saying "because we can't make sense of it with our current understanding of modern science, it can't exist/ must be wrong."

It just seems very short sighted to think we now know everything to be known and there's nothing left to be discovered because current science cannot fathom its depths.

Bit poetic way to put it it you know what I mean.

Mankind used to think the world was flat and the sun revolved around the Earth...

@Aussiegirl123456 I want to hear more about the weird goings on in your old house!!