To be utterly sick of sport

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DH will literally watch it all on the TV

By the time we have taken the kids to all their weekend sports (they are 12 and 10) there are not many hours left at the weekend. Then it’s football, snooker of whatever on the TV. DH just happy to sit and watch this.

unfortunately we don’t have much disposable income at the moment so not really got much cash to go anywhere. We don’t have any access to babysitters.

so given we can’t go anywhere Aibu to feel absolutely sick of sport being in the TV - but knowing there isn’t anything else we can do anyhow?

YABU.

You say you work 45 hours a week, and that you are at the dcs' sports things altogether until 1pm at weekends, I'd have thought that the afternoon would be a great time to either just relax or to catch up with bits and bobs you don't have time for in the week.
Where exactly is it you want to be heading out to in the afternoon ?
Don't you think the dc might enjoy some 'downtime'.
You've said at least twice that money is tight and you couldn't afford many places anyway.
If you want to relax, do any of the free things you can do on your own, or, in the unlikely event the dc want to after getting up early and doing their sports at the weekend, then do something with them.

I am not sure why your idea of enjoyment on a Saturday afternoon ought to trump his. No-one is stopping you doing what you want to, so why do you think it is okay to stop him doing his way of relaxing ?

The one that I really cannot ever understand is men who like to listen to cricket on the radio - will often prefer to listen to it, even if they're right next to an available (turned off) telly that's showing the same match with pictures! That really is just listening to people saying random numbers, with the occasional thwock sound in the background.

You should try and listen to it. It is FAR more than people saying numbers. It is up there in 'National Treasure' status, and the absolute sound of Summer for me. Wonderful humour and interesting facts.

How controlling.

I agree. My father used to watch cricket with the TV sound off while listening to the radio commentary.

Wonderful humour and interesting facts.

Are they facts about cricket, though?! I'm not criticising those who enjoy it or saying they're wrong or stupid to do so - just that I personally can't understand it.

I feel the same about Eastenders - millions of people tune in several times a week just to hear aggressive people shouting at each other; it's obviously very popular, but not for me, thanks.

I'm fully aware that millions of people are going to be similarly open-mouthed this coming week at how anybody (like me!) could possibly want to watch such 'trash' [sic] as Eurovision

Are they facts about cricket, though?!

Often, obviously, and when you have Andy Zaltzman for a statistician even the bare numbers (which cricket features by the bucketload) become interesting. But one of the many brilliant things about TMS is that it can be entertaining and informative about the non-cricket running themes of the day turn, and nobody knows beforehand what they will turn out to be. Listener contribution is vital to this. Sometimes it's nearly as much I'm Sorry, I Haven't A Clue as it is serious sports coverage and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I switch off not interested it’s been horse racing this week now it’s a bloody Australian football thing simply don’t care I play on iPad watch other things.

God poor you. I am really glad my dh isn’t into sport at all. It is deathly dull to have sports on the tv all day. Depressing even. Whether it’s football, motor racing or snooker…it makes me catatonic.

I’d feel same as you.

The one that I really cannot ever understand is men who like to listen to cricket on the radio - will often prefer to listen to it, even if they're right next to an available (turned off) telly that's showing the same match with pictures! That really is just listening to people saying random numbers, with the occasional thwock sound in the background.

How about women who like to listen to crion the radio? I love it! I also like to watch it sometimes, but TMS is the best! Jovial presentesrs, gently entertaining anecdotes, the sound of leather on willow, plus some actual cricket commentary. It's the radio equivalent of a perfect cup of tea . Not quite the same since Blowers left though.

My late husband fooled me, we met in our 40s and having been married before, I asked him if he watched football, he said he didn't, so he passed my husband criteria. He didn't mention that he listened to cricket endlessly on the radio😂

Agreed.
I can't think of a more perfect day than lying on a beach in some warm sunshine with TMS on the radio

Are they facts about cricket, though?!
Not always.
Some of the best bits are about chocolate cake.

Hmmmmm, I'm starting to wonder now if cricket on the radio is some kind of deeply-held secret akin to MN - i.e. the outsiders assume it must be nothing but a load of self-absorbed boring mummies raving proudly about little Clarissa's very first solid poo and sharing tips about how to stop toddlers from throwing yoghurt everywhere and they do not know the half of it....

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll
Would not surprise me one little bit if there are people out there who with no previous interest in cricket, or even sport in general, developed a liking for it due to (involuntary) exposure to TMS. The BBC cricket correspondent and TMS commentary mainstay Jonathan Agnew is simultaneously one of the most passionate, knowledgeable (ex-player), intelligent, humorous, articulate, inclusive and enthusiastic sports journalists there is. And he's not alone.

What I don’t get is why is that, in the scenario of there only being on TV on the house and everyone at home Saturday afternoon,!why does sport take priority?
what if OP would like to spend her afternoon watching reruns of top gear on Dave? Or 3 episodes of escape to the sun? Why shouldn’t the person not in to sport not get to veg out on the sofa for a few hours after a full working week and a morning of ferrying children around?
so many responses saying ‘go for a walk’, go and browse in second hand shops. Why doesn’t the dh go for a walk so she gets to stretch out on the sofa and be fully immersed in a programme, switching everyone else off ?

so unfair that because sport has a certain status it trumps other peoples need to relax how they choose.
Never mind the wasteful ridiculous sums of money that swish around in football, and the horrible racist and violent problems with football supporters.
really really annoys me

Well, sports events happen in real time and reruns of programmes don't.

Free time also happens in real time. If someone works all week, then spends Saturday morning ferrying children around, their only available time to chill out and watch telly might also be at the same time as sport on Saturday afternoon. Except they always have to be the ones to find an alternative occupation. Sorry but it goes back to previous generations when men got to sit around Saturday afternoon while working mums caught up on housework. Of course not many people will reasonably kick someone off the sofa to watch a film they could easily watch another time, but the concept remains, and ‘another time’ never seems to come

Sorry but it goes back to previous generations when men got to sit around Saturday afternoon while working mums caught up on housework.

Which times are these?

Not my experience (I'm in my 50s).
Not what my parents did (they would be in their 90s)
Not what my Grandparents did (would be around 125)...... didn't have TV to begin with of course

There's been a blackout on 3pm matches since the 60s @Justdiscovered and prior to that in the 50s, most households didn't own a television

I hear you. My DH is the same. Currently can't go into our bedroom because he's been watching a bloody Grand Prix on his iPad on the bed ... the noise drives my bonkers!!!!! GAH ............ 😡

@pizzaand @Kite22

not looking to split hairs or get into the particulars or even have a go at anyone!
All I know is my experience, growing up , if weekend downtime coincided with a sport event, then the men would be glued to it and the women would just work around it or find something else to do. Just my personal experience. Sometimes men would bring portable radios to weddings / christening / family parties - and no not just for World Cup semifinals. All the women would be socialising in the kitchen while taking kids to the toilet and bringing older people a drink.
maybe I was unlucky and many other families had dads taking kids to the park while mum read a book on the sofa. I only know what I knew so I’m joining in with op’s frustration.

I pay no attention and have no idea when matches are on. All I know is that there seems to be an awful lot on and I’m grateful my oh has cut way down from when we first met, when he would happily sit all day on a Saturday following all the various seasonal sorts plus football. It’s all one and the same to me, just shouty sports commentary.
i don’t think I could bear it if I had to negotiate that every weekend with children in the house.

there needs to be compromise and take a wider view over a longer period - how often does each half get to do what they want? Too easy to just say well, sport is always live so always takes priority.

Short answer, OP, is that YANBU.

Sport is beyond boring. I wouldn't have been attracted to a man who was interested in sport. WTF is the point of sport?

@Kite22 - the 80s/90s is my time!

WTF is the point of sport?

WTF is the point of Eastenders?

I grew up in a house where sport ruled then the bitch ruled the tv at night so as an adult I’ve always said “I’d never be bored stiff again” if I don’t want to watch something I don’t care what it is I won’t. Husband loved sins nagged me “oh watch it with me” I did to shut him up moaning bored me rigid he watches rugby racing cricket netball I won’t.

Pardon?