I’ve always believed that men are just as capable as women to be loyal, and to my knowledge I’ve never been cheated on, but a conversation with a male friend has left me wondering.
He said that men are basically incapable of saying no to a woman offering them sex, and that this is driven by a primitive urge to spread their seed far and wide, so it’s partly out of their control. He said that one reason for this is that the situation is different for men; they very rarely get sex offered to them on a plate, in the same way that women do, so when that situation does occur it’s pretty much impossible to turn it down.
In a way I can see where he’s coming from there, as a female I have rejected the vast majority of offers of sex that I’ve had, and I think most women would have had similar experiences. But men don’t tend to walk into a pub and get hit on in the same way.
So I said ok, what about if you’re with someone you really love, and then someone else offers you sex? Without hesitation he said that made no difference - that it could be a friend of the woman he loves and he’d still shag her if she offered it to him. Even if he knew it would mean losing the person he loved, he still wouldn’t be able to overcome the primitive urge.
I told him he’s talking bollocks and of course men are capable of controlling themselves. But he was absolutely adamant that he is correct, and that all of his male friends are the same way, although obviously they would never admit this to their wives/girlfriends.
So AIBU to still think (hope?) he’s talking shit? Or is it really harder for men to be faithful?