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AIBU to ask you to convince me I’m being stupid?

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Morechunkthanfunk · 28/04/2022 12:49

So without going on too much, I gained 2 stone in lockdown (like many I suppose) but now I’m faced with the prospect of losing 4 stone. Even pre covid I was never happy with my weight and always fluctuating between 10-12 stone. I feel really galvanised to lose the weight but I turned 29 this year and can’t shake the feeling that losing weight is pointless because the best years are behind me. I know realistically I’m being stupid and my face/body isn’t going to just collapse when I turn 30 but I love an excuse to self sabotage and just keep telling myself it’s a waste of time…

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Randomname85 · 28/04/2022 12:50

Wow I’m 37 and I hope the best years aren’t behind me! You’re likely to live a lot longer OP so don’t do yourself the disservice of believing it’s all over before 30.

AryaStarkWolf · 28/04/2022 12:52

Oi! I'm in my early 40's and haven't thrown in the towel just yet!

DogsAndGin · 28/04/2022 12:52

You’re so young! It strikes me you’re connecting weight loss to your looks and beauty. Which don’t get me wrong - is nice to maintain at any age! But, you also need to consider the benefit of weight loss on your health. Plus, shake it off now, and keep it off - as it’ll be a lot harder to do so in your fifties - especially if you continue to gain weight until then. I’d say, absolutely get it under control now whilst you’re still young

Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2022 12:53

I feel really galvanised to lose the weight but I turned 29 this year and can’t shake the feeling that losing weight is pointless because the best years are behind me.

FFS. Honestly, get a grip.

brookstar · 28/04/2022 12:56

I'm 40 and living my best life.
Life is what you make it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ithinkwemightgetaholiday · 28/04/2022 12:59

I'm 45 next month and always want to look my best. How depressing to think it's not worth it? You've got most of your life still to go. It probably feels like an impossible task at the moment, and you're using that thought about the best years being gone as an excuse.

RenegadeMrs · 28/04/2022 13:00

Assuming you are in the UK and in good health you are likely to live another 50 years. If you want to give up now, then you'll probably have a miserable 50 years ahead of you.

ILikeCrapTelly · 28/04/2022 13:02

Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2022 12:53

I feel really galvanised to lose the weight but I turned 29 this year and can’t shake the feeling that losing weight is pointless because the best years are behind me.

FFS. Honestly, get a grip.

I was going to say something similar.

WhenDovesFly · 28/04/2022 13:03

I'm 58 and need to lose a few stone. Believe me, you really don't want to be carrying too much excess weight when you get to my age because it's putting additional pressure on my knees, which are already weak.

It would be much easier to get moving about and try to lose the excess pounds at the age you are now. Once you're older and through menopause it seems so much harder.

Indicatrice · 28/04/2022 13:06

I’m 40 and I look a lot better and younger than a lot of people in their 20s 🤷🏻‍♀️

No booze, lots of sleep and water.

hellcatspanglelalala · 28/04/2022 13:10

Tbh I was at my best in my late 30's!

Iamanunsafebuilding · 28/04/2022 13:13

I'm 52, fitter and stronger than I've ever been! Lose the weight or don't but lose the excuses

hihellohihello · 28/04/2022 13:14

You're not even middle aged yet! That's potentially at lot of your life spent being unhappy about your weight! It's not just how you look but fitness and mobility too - which is more noticeable as you age.

hihellohihello · 28/04/2022 13:15

And I'm nearly 50 and run 10K everyday. It's made a huge difference to the way I look and feel!

OooohAhhhh · 28/04/2022 13:16

Why are your best years behind you? What are you going off to say that?
Being 30 does not mean life suddenly starts going downhill!
So yes, I'm here to convince you you're being silly!

hihellohihello · 28/04/2022 13:16

And regards comparisons, try comparing yourself to your peers not people massively younger.

PrincessPaws · 28/04/2022 13:28

Bloody hell, if you think the best years are behind you at 29 you must think you are going to have a really miserable next 40/50 years! If you want to lose weight then lose it, if you don't then don't

Daenerys77 · 28/04/2022 13:38

Statistically, you probably have another fifty years ahead of you, and your health and quality of life will be better if you are not carrying excess weight.

kateandme · 28/04/2022 14:38

Stop equating weight to health.or look to health.these are bullshit diet culture walk beliefs.
God our society has normalised such bullshit.
By all means start health promoting behaviour but stop depending your life or looks on your weight or equating that to your health.

hihellohihello · 28/04/2022 14:42

Stop equating weight to health.or look to health.these are bullshit diet culture walk beliefs.

No they are not. There is a very definite correlation between weight and health. Weight affects fitness, joints, mobility, bodily processes and risk of metabolic diseases!

MissusMaisel · 28/04/2022 14:45

kateandme · 28/04/2022 14:38

Stop equating weight to health.or look to health.these are bullshit diet culture walk beliefs.
God our society has normalised such bullshit.
By all means start health promoting behaviour but stop depending your life or looks on your weight or equating that to your health.

Ignore this nonsense. We ALL know that weight and health are very strongly correlated.

kateandme · 28/04/2022 14:47

hihellohihello · 28/04/2022 14:42

Stop equating weight to health.or look to health.these are bullshit diet culture walk beliefs.

No they are not. There is a very definite correlation between weight and health. Weight affects fitness, joints, mobility, bodily processes and risk of metabolic diseases!

Is that weight or the health behaviours of the person.not so clear cut as the diet industry has led folk to believe

Mollyplop999 · 28/04/2022 14:48

Wow I'm nearly 58 and ride ponies every day and I'm very active. I'm scared of getting old but I'm determined to make the most of every day. Try and enjoy your life.

kateandme · 28/04/2022 14:48

MissusMaisel · 28/04/2022 14:45

Ignore this nonsense. We ALL know that weight and health are very strongly correlated.

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It's not nonsense.you cannot tell someone's health by their weight.its said tirelessly by doctors trying to change this myth.

SeedyBloomer · 28/04/2022 14:51

I’m 44 and look better than I did in my 20s and 30s by a mile. I weight train 3x a week. Previously, I did bugger all and had cellulite and a muffin top.