Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

Husband driving a stranger around??

66 replies

Fleur786 · 28/04/2022 10:11

I don't know why this just isn't sitting right with me.
Husband went out in the night for late night prayers at mosque and relayed the story next morning when I saw him.
Basically he had parked up in Morissons carpark where a womans car was not starting, and she had no battery on her phone. She had just bought the car and had made the journey here from Middlesbrough.
So he tried to start her car, no luck so he let her sit in our car to charge her phone. Once charged she claimed she had no one to contact and that had a sister on the other side of town.

So for some reason he drove her around, whilst on their drive she finally got a phone call from the guy she bought the car from and then they made their way back.
Now I have no problem with him helping her charge her phone, try to start her car etc.
What doesn't sit right with me is him taking her in our car to her sisters home. Could she or him not just ordered an Uber??? Or could not find someone else to jump start the car?? Or direct her to the mosque where she could have charged her phone and find somewhere safe to wait till the mechanic came???

He thinks I'm being silly and over reacting, but I don't know why I just don't like the fact he had a random woman in the car driving around at night.
She was incredibly stupid to get in the car in the first place (your in a different city, in the night in a carpark, no phone, like come on your asking for trouble)

Am I being unreasonable??
It just isn't sitting right with me...

OP posts:

Bigtruth · 28/04/2022 10:13

Yes, you're being incredibly unreasonable. Your husband is a good man who has done a good thing.

CloudPop · 28/04/2022 10:17

You know your husband. Does it seem very out of character to do something like this?

TrivialSoul · 28/04/2022 10:18

I would be cross if my husband didn't help someone who was in this predicament! He ensured that a person who was alone at night with no transport got to a safe place. I can't see the issue.

ivfbabymomma1 · 28/04/2022 10:18

Yep sorry OP I think your husband did the right thing what a wonderful husband you have

Snoopfroggyfrogg · 28/04/2022 10:21

I get why her story sounds a bit odd, she took his time charging her phone and only then said she had nobody to contact (unless she meant her sister wasn't answering).

But unless you've got other concerns about your husband then it sounds like he was just trying to do someone a good turn.

Thehundredthnamechange · 28/04/2022 10:23

So he shouldn't help someone in need in case you get irrationally jealous?

heartofgoldcoins · 28/04/2022 10:27

Well, perhaps your husband saw it as doing a good deed. Especially during Ramadan time, I can imagine he felt that was the right thing to do.

Either that or he is laying the foundations because he got spotted with his mistress in the car.

Which is more likely, knowing your husband?
I would hope during this special month it's the first option

SunburstsOrMarbleHalls · 28/04/2022 10:27

YABU, she may have had no money for an Uber and her sister may not have answered her phone. There are lots of potential scenarios here and nothing seems off to me. She may have been panicking at being stranded late at night too. Clearly at some point the woman used her phone to contact the person who she bought the car off and needed to keep her phone charged as she knew he was ringing her back (as he did)

Your husband was incredibly kind and helped a woman in a vulnerable position when she was alone late at night. He is a good person and the world needs more people like him.

Stoppedsmokingnowgrumpy · 28/04/2022 10:32

That’s a level of jealousy op that’s concerning. I can’t believe you’d prefer him to do this than help a woman alone at night. I’d be very proud if my husband did this.

is there a back story, does he cheat on you? Did someone else? Are you having problems in your marriage? Do you suffer from irrational jealousy or insecurity?

KrisAkabusi · 28/04/2022 11:01

Thehundredthnamechange · 28/04/2022 10:23

So he shouldn't help someone in need in case you get irrationally jealous?

Absolutely this! He was being helpful.

HorribleHerstory · 28/04/2022 11:07

What trouble was she asking for, OP?

What do you think should have happened to her?

Popopopo · 28/04/2022 11:11

She's lucky she bumped into a nice man and not a nutter. I would be proud of my DP helping a lone woman at night personally, many people would have just ignored her.

Hijabimama · 28/04/2022 11:47

Im a Muslim woman too but I would have seen it as an opportunity arising for my husband to do a good deed, especially in Ramadan. Sometimes god puts you in certain situations to see what you’d do.
I certainly wouldn’t have been annoyed. He has looked out for a woman who would have potentially been in danger otherwise.

Sniffypete · 28/04/2022 11:50

Yes, she was stupid to get in a car with a complete stranger, but your husband did an incredibly kind thing. He was helping a vulnerable woman.

TreatTrimTame · 28/04/2022 11:53

You should be proud of your husband for helping her. I wouldnt like to get an uber in the early hours. however i think shes incredibly stupid getting into the car with your husband and would have charged my phone while standing outside it if i were her.

Bornslippery · 28/04/2022 11:55

How kind of him. You should be proud of him.

Hoppinggreen · 28/04/2022 11:56

heartofgoldcoins · 28/04/2022 10:27

Well, perhaps your husband saw it as doing a good deed. Especially during Ramadan time, I can imagine he felt that was the right thing to do.

Either that or he is laying the foundations because he got spotted with his mistress in the car.

Which is more likely, knowing your husband?
I would hope during this special month it's the first option

Sounds like hes setting up a back story as he was spotted by someone he knows

angieloumc · 28/04/2022 12:05

Hoppinggreen how ridiculously suspicious.
OP it seems like your H did a kind thing in helping someone; would you have the same complaint if he was helping a man?

Bluerose77 · 28/04/2022 12:10

The woman was not being very careful for her own safety that she'd get in a stranger's car late at night. That is the thing I find odd

JoeGoldberg · 28/04/2022 12:40

Sounds like a kind deed, the kind of thing my dad used to do.

girlmom21 · 28/04/2022 12:43

I don't think it's strange that he took her to her sisters but I think it's strange she didn't just wait for a recovery service once she had enough charge to call one.

Rubyroseyposey · 28/04/2022 12:45

I would be annoyed if she was left to get on with it! Her safety etc. Think her being in his car over a taxi is a non issue and yes you are overreacting.

Rubyroseyposey · 28/04/2022 12:47

Hoppinggreen · 28/04/2022 11:56

Sounds like hes setting up a back story as he was spotted by someone he knows

Show quote history

Yes that's entirely likely too, tbf.

Xpologog · 28/04/2022 12:52

If it happened exactly as he said then yes he was kind and protective towards the woman ( not leaving her to be picked up by a pervert/ rapist/murderer) but he was naive to drive her around in the car. She could have accused him of anything, her word against his. She was stupid to get in the car with a random man. Hopefully it is what he says it is and no one came to any harm.

Hoppinggreen · 28/04/2022 12:52

angieloumc · 28/04/2022 12:05

Hoppinggreen how ridiculously suspicious.
OP it seems like your H did a kind thing in helping someone; would you have the same complaint if he was helping a man?

If he was likely to be having an affair and/or paying a man for sex then probably

Flip

1 2 3

Swipe left for the next trending thread