AIBU fed up of my business being repeated constantly by friend!

[FGSnotagain22]

I have a friend who is known to gossip about everyone.
I'm very very careful in what I say to her as she has no filter and just repeats everyone's business I'm not sure if it's just to have something to talk about or if it's done on purpose. Who knows.

I told her something not overly personal regarding my DD and expected her not to repeat as it was about my DD and she's only gone and told other people and potentially causing me and my DD problems in the future. I'm not saying what it is as its outing.

AIBU to be fed up of this behaviour? I can handle my business being repeated but my DDs business isn't fair game to gossip about. how do you deal with these type of people? Should I just give her a wide birth from now on?

If you know she's like and will keep doing it then eventually it's your fault for confiding in her.

Do a Colleen Rooney. Make up ridiculous stories and see how far it travels........

The gossip started with you not her.

😂 I may just do this.

I told her something not overly personal regarding my DD and expected her not to repeat as it was about my DD and she's only gone and told other people and potentially causing me and my DD problems in the future. I'm not saying what it is as its outing.

Why do you expect her to do something that you obviously cannot? You couldn't resist telling her about your DDs private business, but you blame her for spreading it? That is just hypocrisy.

That's not a friend. Don't hang out with with gormless thickos. People like this should be avoided, not befriended. You knew she'd blab and you told her anyway.

"I told a known gossip personal stuff about my DD and she told people. Aibu to be surprised?"

Yes.

Stop telling her stuff.

I'd be pissed with YOU if I was DD. This is entirely of your own doing.

I am the type of person to make up fake gossip to see if she spreads it.

@Bananalanacake OP already knows it's this 'friend' that's done it, anyway, as OP doesn't mention having said it to anyone else.

Have you even read my updates? Didn't think so.

These days you can’t say anything to anyone anymore. Social media and gossip is rife.
I don’t tell anyone any of business now

You have accepted her as a friend knowing that she gossips. Why did you tell her your business?

Some people find it very hard to keep stuff to themselves. I have friends like that, and I'm careful what I share with them, or I'll tell them who else knows something so that if they want to discuss it they can, but with specific people.

In this case though, your updates do suggest that this 'friend' is a shit stirrer or, at best, unable to judge what's appropriate to talk about. So yeah, tell her straight if you can. She doesn't sound like much of a mate, but that's for you to gauge.

Have you even read my updates? Didn't think so.

Yeah, read your drip feed, ta.

A gossip and a shit stirrer, is she my SIL, does her name begin with R?

Seriously my SIL repeats anything and everything that falls on her ears, and takes great delight in stealing peoples thunder. She has such little else going on in her life that I think she gets some kind of kick out of having some news to impart.

We now make sure she is the last to know anything, and if it’s something private or sensitive she doesn’t get told at all.

Unfortunately she’s family so we are stuck with her, if this was a friend I’d end the friendship. It’s quite tiresome having to constantly watch what you say around her.

I feel like some people literally can't help it. I love my mother but I'm very careful what I tell her as it is essentially like taking out an ad in the local paper. Health, finances, etc, I'm very circumspect with the information. She really doesn't seem to understand why some people (most people!) would not like this sort of information spread around the entire village. I don't think its malicious in most cases.

I don’t think any of your updates actually contradicts that PP

You said not “overly personal”

indicating personal to some extent. About your daughter

Your OP didn’t properly outline the issue: your follow up makes clear that your friend was interfering / shit stirring.

If you don't want the seagulls to poo on you, don't feed them to start with. You get my drift.

If she asks in future my answer will just be "I don't know" and play stupid

Or just say "I'd rather not tell you as I don't want it to be repeated"

How do you know that she went to the other parent to complain on your behalf? And can you choose the same route to let the other mother know that you had no part in this, and your DD couldn't go anyway?

Are you serious?

This is not a friend.

This is someone who is trying to fxxk with your daughter's friendships.

Why would you have someone like that near you.

She is poison.

If she’s managed to make something dramatic/salacious about nothing, then it sounds like she’s not only a gossip, but a fabricator who has so little going on in her life that she gossips about children. Yuck. Wide, WIDE berth.

Be polite but then quickly make excuses and bolt.

what a depressing way to live

my closest friends and family would never ever spread gossip. I trust them implicitly.

But you knew that she would repeat it to others, so why did you tell her?
You cant complain really cant you.? Stop telling her stuff, your an idiot if you do.