A few weeks ago I bought my step son a personalised jacket to wear for his 8th birthday party that he's having at his mother's who he lives.
I found out yesterday that she didn't put it on him because apparently it wasn't spelt correctly so he wore something else.
AIBU to call her disrespectful by not putting it on him to wear? She didn't even let us know he wouldn't be wearing it or say thank you for us buying it for him or anything. She said she didn't ask us to buy it and because my step son already said thank you she doesn't think she needs to.
What annoyed me most is she didn't even give it back to us until I had to ASK for it back.
My OH thinks I'm overreacting but I can't help but feel so offended.
AIBU?
Who is in the wrong here????
WorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 09:46
Am I being unreasonable?
1686 votes. Final results.
POLLTestina · 27/04/2022 11:03
I’d object to that for crimes against:
- grammar
- taste
- the environment
No 8yo I know would be seen dead in anything more OTT than a badge.
It was rude of you to attempt to dictate what he wore.
It isn’t normal for the child’s parent to thank them other parent for a present (even one as shit as this) let alone the step parent.
Your / you’re attempt at stealing the limelight backfired!
Antarcticant · 27/04/2022 11:12
The whole situation is a real shame - you tried to do something nice, OP, and it all went wrong. I think some of the replies here are unfairly harsh.
In this scenario, if I were the recipient's parent I would have (kindly) said, 'Did you notice there's an error on this - perhaps you'd like to take it back to the shop for a refund.'
WorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 09:57
OK just to clarify some things:
The jacket has the words "NAME your 8 today!"
I'm not necessarily annoyed that he didn't wear it if HE chose not to wear it, it's more that she didn't bother to let us know there was a spelling mistake or that he wouldn't actually wear it for his party, and that she just kept it. He obviously isn't going to wear it at hers so why not just give it back?
mamabeeboo · 27/04/2022 11:15
It looks like the mother was being polite, by not telling you about the error and not giving it back/ not telling you he won't wear it.
It would be quite rude/disrespectful for someone to say "thanks for the gift, it's wrong, and I'm not wearing it, take it back". But it seems like that is what you expected? They just accepted the gift and probably put it away with all the other unused gifts. It's their gift to choose to do with it what they wish.
toomanytwinkies · 27/04/2022 11:20
What spelling could someone get wrong here? Oh no, it said YOU’RE 8 didn’t it 😬
WorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 09:57
OK just to clarify some things:
The jacket has the words "NAME your 8 today!"
I'm not necessarily annoyed that he didn't wear it if HE chose not to wear it, it's more that she didn't bother to let us know there was a spelling mistake or that he wouldn't actually wear it for his party, and that she just kept it. He obviously isn't going to wear it at hers so why not just give it back?
toomanytwinkies · 27/04/2022 11:20
What spelling could someone get wrong here? Oh no, it said YOU’RE 8 didn’t it 😬
WorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 09:57
OK just to clarify some things:
The jacket has the words "NAME your 8 today!"
I'm not necessarily annoyed that he didn't wear it if HE chose not to wear it, it's more that she didn't bother to let us know there was a spelling mistake or that he wouldn't actually wear it for his party, and that she just kept it. He obviously isn't going to wear it at hers so why not just give it back?
thewhatsit · 27/04/2022 11:22
No that’s the point?!
toomanytwinkies · 27/04/2022 11:20
What spelling could someone get wrong here? Oh no, it said YOU’RE 8 didn’t it 😬
WorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 09:57
OK just to clarify some things:
The jacket has the words "NAME your 8 today!"
I'm not necessarily annoyed that he didn't wear it if HE chose not to wear it, it's more that she didn't bother to let us know there was a spelling mistake or that he wouldn't actually wear it for his party, and that she just kept it. He obviously isn't going to wear it at hers so why not just give it back?
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purpleboy · 27/04/2022 11:17
Her excuse was she didn't want to "point score" by pointing out the error which I just don't buy tbh
Tbf I can see her point here, I get your upset but I think your making a big deal out of something that should be left, I'm sure your have bigger problems to worry about in the future, best to keep the relationship on good terms.
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