Will I regret not having another baby?

[Mydogsbetterthanyours]

I know no-one can really answer this for me, but I am sick to death of thinking about this decision! I have a 4.5 y/o and I feel like I've missed the boat slightly, in terms of them being close and playing together. My partner says its up to me ultimately, but he would probably rather not. However, he says he would adore them regardless.

I am terrified I won't cope with going back to sleepless nights and that my daughter will hate/resent me for disrupting her life. I also didn't LOVE the early days, although really started enjoying it from 6 months+.

I know people say we regret the things we don't do not the things we do. I just don't know what to do. I thought I had recently made my peace with "one and done" then this morning I saw a lady who used to take her daughter to the same class as mine went to and she (who had been undecided too!) had had a new baby. When I saw her I felt like I'd been punched in the gut with envy, jealousy, fear (that I'm making the wrong decision to stick at one) - not proud of these emotions - and now I'm back at square 1!!

Help!!!!

Hi Op, I wish I could have more age gap between my children. It would be a lot easier. Don’t worry about the age gap too much. Also you are still very young to decide. All the best 💐

I have a DD who is 5 and just had my second baby who is 16weeks old. Yes it’s fucking hard work going back to those sleepless nights and the loneliness, isolation, boring drudgery of babyhood. We had just got our lives on track with a nice routine and then a baby arrives and it’s tits up.

but do I regret it? No, not at all. The age gap is perfect for us - oldest child is independent, doting on her baby brother, totally understands mummy can’t do X right now and joy of joys - she’s at school.

you need to think about what you want your future to look like. You aren’t having another baby, you’re having another CHILD. In ten years, do you want a busy dining table? A holiday for four? Christmas with presents for two children? Two sets of grandchildren? When you think of it like that, those brutal baby days seem insignificant, don’t they?