To think I now don't have to see them.

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Had our baby last week, DH has been asking when the in laws can come and visit which iv not been ready for but agreed they could come today, they've now cancelled last minute without a reason.

AIBU to tell DH they are no longer welcome until I am ready for them to come this time!?

YUBVU unless there’s history and they are horrible people.

Maybe they realised it was a bit too soon for you to have visitors.. When I had 1,2,3 and 4 dc my ils still never crossed our door! They lived 3 streets away.
If the relationship is currently shite having another dc won't morph them into decent dgps. Accept that. Leave any relationship management to your dh from now on.

Because all of that background info makes a big difference to the advice you are given!!

Lovely caring in laws = petty bitch not letting them meet the baby.

Uncaring and shit in-laws with a history of being crap = actually YANBU

Do you see the difference???

Why does your DH needs your permission for his parents to come and visit? How bizarre. If you don't want to see them then stay in the bedroom out the way for an hour

I think you are being totally unreasonable and hugely petty. They are his family as well.

I also think it's a bit odd that your mum came round, did chores and barely spent any time with her new grandchild tbh 🫤

Yes, and this.
Why shouldn't he let his parents meet their new grandchild?

Also agree with this.

His parents and he can invite them.

You seem like hard work, OP.

Don’t be a shitty MIL, ignore your grandchildren, make plans and cancel at the last minute and you’ll probably be golden.

I don't think you are unreasonable (and are still early in the post-natal stage x); do you think they are playing mind games or on a power trip, and cancelled at the last minute because you - understandably - delayed the first visit (as is your right)?

Congratulations as well 💕

Jesus they cancelled they didn't shit on your baby
What a weird response. This is your baby's family

Had a couple of those myself. I'm not sure I've ever even considered her doing my chores. Those early visits were for her to get to know her grandchildren.

If you weren't up to doing stuff yourself (i appreciate that some people are, some aren't 4d after a c section) wasn't baby's dad still on paternity leave...

Anyway, a side point, I just think you've got some odd expectations/views on grandparents.

she came to make sure I was ok and not over doing things not to visit the baby

I call bullshit. Yes, she made herself useful and, yes, she would have been looking out for you, but as if she didn't go over there to visit the baby 🤣

Well in our home we like to let each other know before visitors come round

We do in our home too but my husband certainly doesn't need my permission to have his parents visit

I bet you didn't ask your DH's permission before having your mum round. Yabvu and unkind.

I also had a c section, I made sure my mother fussed over my baby, not me. And rightly so, given she was excited to meet my grandchild. I also had to manage alone most of my recovery in an upstairs flat without her fussing over either of us, because she had to work.

I also had many visitors starting from the day I got home, family or otherwise and was happy to let them in without trying to start my child's life on a sour note due to my own bitterness with her grandparents.

Maybe they don't try and bother with the other 2 because of situations like this?

I don't understand dils in MN who are quite happy to exclude their in laws and then complain their inlaws take a step back

I was about to say the same! I have a DS and pray to God I don't end up with a DIL like some of them on here.

No you're not being unreasonable, OP.

I don't know why some people are being so weird tonight.

YABU just leave your dh to organise to see his parents whenever. You have already had visitors anyway so don't nut pick just becauseit's not your direct family. Of course you are more comfortable with your parents.