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To think I now don't have to see them.

95 replies

namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 09:19

Had our baby last week, DH has been asking when the in laws can come and visit which iv not been ready for but agreed they could come today, they've now cancelled last minute without a reason.

AIBU to tell DH they are no longer welcome until I am ready for them to come this time!?

OP posts:
MissNothing1991 · 26/04/2022 09:34

Think you've a bit of growing up to do. It's not about your interests anymore, it is about your child's. I'd give anything for my daughters paternal grandparents to be in her life. Sadly, one is dead and the other simply has no interest, just like her dad. Maybe be more fucking grateful for people caring and the support shown.

AnotherForumUser · 26/04/2022 09:35

YABU and petty

PacificState · 26/04/2022 09:35

Lol at all the repeated posts (including mine)

SpaghettiNotCourgetti · 26/04/2022 09:35

What if they've got a cold or something? Do you want them bringing manky germs to your newborn? If you weren't ready for them anyway, why not just breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy the extra space?

I'm awaiting either a MASSIVE drip feed about how cunty they are OR a deletion message because OP doesn't want to be told how unreasonable and petty she's being.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:36

You are hard work. Your poor bloke, can't even show off his own baby to his parents. But no doubt you'll complain in a few years that they don't bother with your kid.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:37

You are hard work. Your poor bloke, can't even show off his own baby to his parents. But no doubt you'll complain in a few years that they don't bother with your kid.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:37

You are hard work. Your poor bloke, can't even show off his own baby to his parents. But no doubt you'll complain in a few years that they don't bother with your kid.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:38

You are hard work. Your poor bloke, can't even show off his own baby to his parents. But no doubt you'll complain in a few years that they don't bother with your kid.

Ducksinthebath · 26/04/2022 09:38

It's not like they didn't turn up. Who knows why they cancelled? They might have a very good but ultimately private reason.

You've posted just after 9am about a visit taking place today. Unless a massive drip feed is coming and they were due at 8am you're being very unreasonable. Enjoy your baby, get on with your life and when they can come round, greet them warmly as they could be a massive source of support to you and your new baby.

AnotherForumUser · 26/04/2022 09:38

YABU. And petty.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:38

You are hard work. Your poor bloke, can't even show off his own baby to his parents. But no doubt you'll complain in a few years that they don't bother with your kid.

Ducksinthebath · 26/04/2022 09:38

It's not like they didn't turn up. Who knows why they cancelled? They might have a very good but ultimately private reason.

You've posted just after 9am about a visit taking place today. Unless a massive drip feed is coming and they were due at 8am you're being very unreasonable. Enjoy your baby, get on with your life and when they can come round, greet them warmly as they could be a massive source of support to you and your new baby.

Ducksinthebath · 26/04/2022 09:38

It's not like they didn't turn up. Who knows why they cancelled? They might have a very good but ultimately private reason.

You've posted just after 9am about a visit taking place today. Unless a massive drip feed is coming and they were due at 8am you're being very unreasonable. Enjoy your baby, get on with your life and when they can come round, greet them warmly as they could be a massive source of support to you and your new baby.

Alightjacket · 26/04/2022 09:38

I'm all for women advocating when they want to allow visitors after birth but unless there is massive backstory, you're being pathetic here.

Ducksinthebath · 26/04/2022 09:38

It's not like they didn't turn up. Who knows why they cancelled? They might have a very good but ultimately private reason.

You've posted just after 9am about a visit taking place today. Unless a massive drip feed is coming and they were due at 8am you're being very unreasonable. Enjoy your baby, get on with your life and when they can come round, greet them warmly as they could be a massive source of support to you and your new baby.

watcherintherye · 26/04/2022 09:42

I have to apologise for my multiple posts. The thread wasn’t updating for me, and I kept getting a message about the server not working properly Angry

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:42

Bloody hell, soz

watcherintherye · 26/04/2022 09:52

I’m assuming that the multiple multiple posts are because others are also getting the twee ‘our server is having a moment’ message, and thinking they haven’t posted?

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 26/04/2022 09:56

Hugely petty and very precious. I bet your parents have already been to visit. You gave birth a week ago... not last bloody night!

Don't kickstart a grandparent-grandchild relationship in this way. It's only going to get worse.

Unless there is some massive back story going on then YABVU

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:56

Yep. Servers having some strong coffee and being a dick. Now we know

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:57

Yep, servers having a strong coffee and being a dick.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:57

Yep, servers having a strong coffee and being a dick.

gamerchick · 26/04/2022 09:58

Angry maybe give it a minute

Blossomtoes · 26/04/2022 10:00

Absolutely pathetic. Are you old enough to have a baby?

purpleboy · 26/04/2022 10:01

Sorry op but you're being unreasonable and very petty, as others have said unless there is a huge backstory about to come, then why on earth are you trying to sabotage your child's relationship with their grandparents before it's even begun?