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namechangedforthis109 · 2022-04-26T08:19:20+00:00

Had our baby last week, DH has been asking when the in laws can come and visit which iv not been ready for but agreed they could come today, they've now cancelled last minute without a reason. AIBU to tell DH they are no longer welcome until I am ready for them to come this time!?

purpleboy · 26/04/2022 10:01

Sorry op but you're being unreasonable and very petty, as others have said unless there is a huge backstory about to come, then why on earth are you trying to sabotage your child's relationship with their grandparents before it's even begun?

TheChippendenSpook · 26/04/2022 10:01

There are lots of echos about today

billy1966 · 26/04/2022 10:31

Is there a reason you want to create such drama?

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:35

doingitforthegirls · 26/04/2022 09:31

First child OP?

Bet your parents have been round already 🤔

No its our 3rd actually and yes my mum came round yesterday did all of the washing put it away made us lunch and left she held the baby for 5 minutes whilst she was here, although she love's her new DGD she came to make sure I was ok and not over doing things not to visit the baby.

There is a back story they don't bother with our 2 existing children and I wasn't ready for visitors especially people that make me uncomfortable in my own home but as they kept on at DH to visit I agreed and now they have cancelled they don't work or go anywhere haven't said they are unwell so no reason to.

I never said they couldn't visit I asked if AIBU to make them wait now until I am ready for visitors, like I had originally wanted to.

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:35

doingitforthegirls · 26/04/2022 09:31

First child OP?

Bet your parents have been round already 🤔

No its our 3rd actually and yes my mum came round yesterday did all of the washing put it away made us lunch and left she held the baby for 5 minutes whilst she was here, although she love's her new DGD she came to make sure I was ok and not over doing things not to visit the baby.

There is a back story they don't bother with our 2 existing children and I wasn't ready for visitors especially people that make me uncomfortable in my own home but as they kept on at DH to visit I agreed and now they have cancelled they don't work or go anywhere haven't said they are unwell so no reason to.

I never said they couldn't visit I asked if AIBU to make them wait now until I am ready for visitors, like I had originally wanted to.

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:35

doingitforthegirls · 26/04/2022 09:31

First child OP?

Bet your parents have been round already 🤔

No its our 3rd actually and yes my mum came round yesterday did all of the washing put it away made us lunch and left she held the baby for 5 minutes whilst she was here, although she love's her new DGD she came to make sure I was ok and not over doing things not to visit the baby.

There is a back story they don't bother with our 2 existing children and I wasn't ready for visitors especially people that make me uncomfortable in my own home but as they kept on at DH to visit I agreed and now they have cancelled they don't work or go anywhere haven't said they are unwell so no reason to.

I never said they couldn't visit I asked if AIBU to make them wait now until I am ready for visitors, like I had originally wanted to.

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:35

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:35

doingitforthegirls · 26/04/2022 09:31

First child OP?

Bet your parents have been round already 🤔

No its our 3rd actually and yes my mum came round yesterday did all of the washing put it away made us lunch and left she held the baby for 5 minutes whilst she was here, although she love's her new DGD she came to make sure I was ok and not over doing things not to visit the baby.

There is a back story they don't bother with our 2 existing children and I wasn't ready for visitors especially people that make me uncomfortable in my own home but as they kept on at DH to visit I agreed and now they have cancelled they don't work or go anywhere haven't said they are unwell so no reason to.

I never said they couldn't visit I asked if AIBU to make them wait now until I am ready for visitors, like I had originally wanted to.

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:35

doingitforthegirls · 26/04/2022 09:31

First child OP?

Bet your parents have been round already 🤔

No its our 3rd actually and yes my mum came round yesterday did all of the washing put it away made us lunch and left she held the baby for 5 minutes whilst she was here, although she love's her new DGD she came to make sure I was ok and not over doing things not to visit the baby.

There is a back story they don't bother with our 2 existing children and I wasn't ready for visitors especially people that make me uncomfortable in my own home but as they kept on at DH to visit I agreed and now they have cancelled they don't work or go anywhere haven't said they are unwell so no reason to.

I never said they couldn't visit I asked if AIBU to make them wait now until I am ready for visitors, like I had originally wanted to.

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:36

Not sure why it has posted so many times

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 10:41

SpaghettiNotCourgetti · 26/04/2022 09:35

What if they've got a cold or something? Do you want them bringing manky germs to your newborn? If you weren't ready for them anyway, why not just breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy the extra space?

I'm awaiting either a MASSIVE drip feed about how cunty they are OR a deletion message because OP doesn't want to be told how unreasonable and petty she's being.

This made me laugh, they are cunty but iv never stopped them having a relationship with our children, I'm annoyed because I felt rushed and now they've cancelled anyway, DH is really annoyed at them as he also knows he has rushed me to have visitors.

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SpidersareTapdancing · 26/04/2022 10:54

No doubt your parents are different so they've been already but it's okay because 'it's different'

Don't let them come. Why would anyone want to ruin your perfect baby bubble?

Wait until the kid is 3 and you need a babysitter, they might be okay to coke then?

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 26/04/2022 11:04

Aaaaaand there's the backstory.

OP you would have had much more constructive replies if you had just told the whole story from the start. You have just wasted everyone's time.

NippyWoowoo · 26/04/2022 12:28

PacificState · 26/04/2022 09:35

Lol at all the repeated posts (including mine)

I know it's been happening to me too! Annoying glitch showing that the comment hasn't been posted

Justcallmebebes · 26/04/2022 12:40

YABVVU. Why would you do that?

NippyWoowoo · 26/04/2022 12:42

Justcallmebebes · 26/04/2022 12:40

YABVVU. Why would you do that?

OP, due to a glitch, explained this SIX times. RTFT FGS

Mariposista · 26/04/2022 12:43

No way. They are your partner's parents and your child's grandparents. It's not all about you. Sounds like you need to grow up a bit, or you there will be a lot o family tension that you will have caused.

MassiveSalad22 · 26/04/2022 12:44

Ffs @MNHQ this is hilarious 😂😂 wonder how many times my post will post…….

MissNothing1991 · 26/04/2022 13:47

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 26/04/2022 11:04

Aaaaaand there's the backstory.

OP you would have had much more constructive replies if you had just told the whole story from the start. You have just wasted everyone's time.

If the follow up is actually true and not because the post didn't go how she thought it would. Her mum came round to see and help her not to fuss over the newborn grandchild? Really? As for the inlaws, if they didn't bother with these other two supposed kids, I highly doubt they or indeed their son, would be keenly trying to make arrangements for this one. Doesn't add up to me tbh.

diddl · 26/04/2022 14:06

Well they don't have to give a reason for cancelling at the last minute.

If they have form I wouldn't be saying that they're not welcome, but I wouldn't be putting myself out to accommodate them either.

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 14:06

@TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo I don't understand this why do I need to write a back story?

my op was to say I didn't want visitors but agreed for DH sake as they keep texting him and now they have cancelled so AIBU to not see them now until I am ready to as I gave them the opportunity and they haven't taken it, Why does it matter if they are shitty in laws or not? This is about the fact I had a baby 4 days ago and didn't want visitors yet

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 14:14

@MissNothing1991 Yes after having a c-section my mum cares more about me than fussing over the baby ?

They haven't been for over 6 months to see our other DC, obviously they want to meet the baby whether or not they come again after that is up to them..

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namechangedforthis109 · 26/04/2022 14:15

@diddl they haven't even rang or text to rearrange so I guess I was asking for nothing

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BeeBeeBea · 26/04/2022 14:18

As the mother of 2 boys, this post makes me so sad. I'm hoping I have lovely warm DILs when the time comes

Jalepenojello · 26/04/2022 14:19

Surely you’ve got enough on your plate without using energy to be so petty? Let OH arrange and get over yourself