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junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:12

dd2 has been up all night with sickness & diarrehea(sp?)

She can't keep anything down atm. Seems a bit of a coincindence that we were at the gp's yesterday for dd1 2nd mmr and now dd1 is ill.

I have no one else to take dd1 to school and plus I don't want dd1 to pass any germs she may have picked up from dd2 round her class/school.

Rang the school office to let them know I wouldn't be bringing dd1(age 5) in to school and got told I should have taken her.

But I disagree, our local hopital has 3 wards closed because of the virus, I don't want to spread it round the school.

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Alambil · 10/01/2008 09:14

I think you did good. The germs will be rife in your house - it is only a matter of time until you all come down with it.

Seems the most sensible option and she is only 5 - not like she's missing vital SATS work!


bunnyhunny · 10/01/2008 09:14

how irresponsible for the school office to say she should be in when there have actually been guidelines issued for kids to stay off for 48hrs (it may be more now)!
you are doing the right thing


talktothebees · 10/01/2008 09:16

send her into the school office and make sure she gives everyone who works in there a big sloppy kiss. Then sit back and wait for montezuma to wreak his revenge


belgo · 10/01/2008 09:17

you did the right thing in not taking her to school.

I'm a bit confused as to your comment about the MMR - do you think the MMR is causing the vomiting bug? Or do you mean that's she's picked up the bug from another patient at the GP's surgery(that seems more likely to me).


Hecate · 10/01/2008 09:17

You did what you thought best. If you have nobody to take dd1 to school, were you supposed to take dd2 with you, vomiting and pooping all the way?

Ok, yes, if she was not ill, there was no reason for her not to go to school - you can't guard everyone against germs, they are brought in from each home daily anyway! probably loads of folks have sickness in their houses atm.

But if the reality is that there is no way for her to get to school, then there's really nothing you could have done, is there?

Don't worry about it.


junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:18

thanks feel better now, was rather taken aback by the school.

What are the chances of me going to center parcs on Monday tho??????

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nametaken · 10/01/2008 09:18

YABU, if your DD1 is not ill then she should be at school. You need to make friends with another one of the mums to share the school run and help out with situations such as these.

You do need to find some backup for these circumstances, like everyone else does.

Hope your DD2 feels better soon - I understand it's a 24 hour thing.


pagwatch · 10/01/2008 09:18


the school may well be wrong in this case ( personally not sure) but they are NOT irresponsible.
guidelines are for children who have been vomitting - not, as in this case the apparently healthy sibling of a child who has been vomitting.


junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:19

No I think she picked it up while waiting in the surgery. It was exceptionally busy!

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Hecate · 10/01/2008 09:19

You can go, but you'll probably spend the entire time in their loos!


nametaken · 10/01/2008 09:19

And she'll be off school to go to CenterParcs too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:20

I am friends with other mums but not many drive and I live a few miles from the school, where no one else in her class lives.

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blisteringbarnacles · 10/01/2008 09:22

I think you're so wrong! at this age it doesn't matter at all if she's at school. The only reason the school's worried is for their absentee records.


junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:22

School is fine about holiday as they allow 1 holiday a year during school time and this is it...

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blisteringbarnacles · 10/01/2008 09:22

so what if they go to centerparks


Clarinet60 · 10/01/2008 09:23

I'm on your side. You did the right thing in shielding others as dd1 will almost certainly be carrying the bug. Where I would have differed is that I'd have been less honest and said that dd1 looks pale and wobbly too and you're keeping her off in case she voms on the teacher's feet. The way this bug goes, that will probably come true soon anyway. You'd think teachers would be grateful at not having more sick to clean up, wouldn't you?


junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:24

Her teacher will totally understand, we just have 1 dragonesque secretary at the school, the other 2 are lovely.
Think I was unlucky to have the dragon answer the phone.

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yorkishbirdy · 10/01/2008 09:28

Well I think it is perfectly reasonable, if dd2 has it then in all likelyhood dd1 will hae it tomorrow, which means she has the germs now to pass on, the fact that other people send hildren in carrying the germs is not your fault, you are doing your bit to contain the virus.

Personaly I am considering taking my children out of school as soon as I hear of the first case in our school and sending them back when it is over, I feel strongly that, with something as virilent as this they are bound to get it if it hits the school and therefore miss school time, why shouldn't I have them at home healthy (and keep them that way) rather than have them at home poorly and miserable! (Ok, I probably won't, I will give in to the contraints of society, be a "good" mummy and leave them to get ill along with the rest)


Notquitegrownup · 10/01/2008 09:29

I'm on your side too, but I guess the school office have to follow the guidelines which is that healthy children should be in school.

If you kept your dd at home ever time her sister was ill you would be wrong, but in this case, I think you behaved sensibly and responsibly towards both of your children.


bunnyhunny · 10/01/2008 09:31

oh sorry i misread it - I thought dd1 had been vomiting.
so sorry for saying the school was irresponsible!


junkinmytrunk · 10/01/2008 09:33

On other occasions when dd2 has been ill, i.e. coughs colds, I wrap her up snug in the pushcair and take dd1 to school but I think this is different

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cornsilk · 10/01/2008 09:35

I think you are being sensible and if you can't get her in anyway, then what can you do? Secretary sounds like a silly cow.


harman · 10/01/2008 09:37

Message withdrawn


yorkishbirdy · 10/01/2008 09:41

for the record, I do not keep my children off in this way normally, it is just the strength of this one that has me scared!

Harmen, you are right when you are careing for a sick child the last thing you want is two or three healthy children bouncing off the walls


charliecat · 10/01/2008 09:41

msn harman

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