to not send dd1 to school because

[junkinmytrunk]

dd2 has been up all night with sickness & diarrehea(sp?)

She can't keep anything down atm. Seems a bit of a coincindence that we were at the gp's yesterday for dd1 2nd mmr and now dd1 is ill.

I have no one else to take dd1 to school and plus I don't want dd1 to pass any germs she may have picked up from dd2 round her class/school.

Rang the school office to let them know I wouldn't be bringing dd1(age 5) in to school and got told I should have taken her.

But I disagree, our local hopital has 3 wards closed because of the virus, I don't want to spread it round the school.

[VictorianSqualor]

Just ebfore xmas I didn't take DD to school for 3 days, because first the whole house (Except her) came down with D&V and there was no way I was sending her to school to give it to everyone just before christmas, plus the last two days of term I fet like absolute shit and knew I would probably faint if I had to travel across town to pick her up.
Thankfully the teacher was cool with it, she must ahve been a b it mroe sensible!

[blisteringbarnacles]

what is she going to miss at school? some colouring in?
read with her at home and do a few sums and she'll probably learn more in an hour than she would the whole day at school

[Fireflyfairy2]

I wouldn't keep dd off school if ds was ill. If every parent at the school kept a child at home every time a sibling was ill, the school would have a very low attendance!

If dd herself is ill then that's a different story.

Just before Christmas ds was up ill all night. He cried the whole night & I got no sleep. When the alarm went off the next morning I slept in, even though dd (6) had got up & poured her own cereal!

When I woke I suggested to dd that maybe she didn't feel well/tired as ds had been up all night & I was concerned she had got it too.. she said "No mam I'm fine, take me to school". We were about half an hour later but I told dd to tell her teacher that ds had been ill & we had slept in & to apologise for being late.

That afternoon her teacher came over to me & asked how ds was, she said dd had said he was ill & we slept in, she said she thought dd was a little sleepy so give her a cushion & let her have a 10 minute "cuddle time" with the TA I thought that was so nice!

And dd never did get ill at all!

[Fireflyfairy2]

barbacles.. learn more in an hour than she would in a whole day at school.

Do you have school aged children?

[junkinmytrunk]

dd1 is currently upstairs listening to her toystory cd and following along in her book.

tbh the small amount that she does in reception, she already knows. The majority of the class are still learning the alphabet and numbers which she learnt in nursery.

I know thats not an excuse for not sending her but think that this is different. dd2 can't keep anything down and hasn't stopped vomitting yet, currently about every 10 mins.....

How could I take dd1 to school with dd2 vomitting all the way there?
I don't have access to a car, my mom is blind and won't use routes she doesn't know, which includes school run and my dad is in Derby working.

tis not physically possible with a vomitting 2yr old

[cornsilk]

junkinmytrunk - it's one day. When they're older they'll have more resistamce to germs and will be ill less often. Hope your dd feels better soon.

[cornsilk]

(resistance!)

[junkinmytrunk]

Too late.....

dd1 has just been sick all over her bed!

[cornsilk]

Shame it wasn't all over the secretary then!

[junkinmytrunk]

[mumeeee]

You did the right thing.

[junkinmytrunk]

are you for real????

i've just stripped her and the bed, put it in the machine and quickly typed on her before I redo the beds.....

are you always this tetchy in a morning?

[saadia]

I have similar problems with my dss. Ds1 is in YR1 and ds2 at nursery. If ds1 is ill I can keep ds2 home, but if ds2 is ill I do not feel justified in keeping ds1 home so I wrap ds2 up and take him with me. Have got a few people I could ask help from but hate asking as my house is further away from school than most people and does require a drive or a bus journey.

I would agree that we need a plan for these situations as one sibling can not be missing school because the other one is ill.

[citylover]

Not everyone lives in the sort of locality where they will know another mum who lives very close to them who can take the other kid to school. I know plenty of mums plus have two childminders for my DSs but they just don't live in the right place to come and get my children.

The oldest can now walk part of the way to school by himself so it is not so much of a problem. But I did have to leave the youngest in bed for 5 mins while I escorted older DS part of the way the other week.

However there was an episode a few years ago when I really wasn't very well, ex H was away and I kept DS1 off school. When I rang the secretary later that day she said she would have come and fetched him.

And recently when DS1 was sitting tests for secondary school, which involved getting up at the crack of dawn and travelling some distance, they expected them back in the afternoon. I felt he needed a rest after that (exams are draining) but I did send him back and the result was he was tired and grumpy for the rest of the week.

FWIW I really don't see that the odd day here and there matters. Of course habitual absence is a different matter.

Surely education is there to benefit DCs not to service some stats to suit the government's league tables. Not sure if that's worded very well but hope you know what I mean.

[SSSandy2]

I would have kept her home and not thought twice about it

[Peachy]

I'd have kept her home, Governmenta dvice atm is 48 hours after symptoms subside and isolation at home- and if 1 has this bug all will soon enough. it's not good to spread it- just a bug to most but who knows which children at school may be immuno suppressed for some reason, or their famillies? (needmorecoffee puts that far more eloquently than me- what is a sniffle to you might just be the killer for her child).

As for the effect of a day here or there- it depends on why the day. Illness in the family is very different to a day watching TV because you're tired. I have to take ds2 out of school sometimes to attend assessments with his brothers, there is no alternative to doing so and I don't consider that sending out the wrong message at all- we have to elave at 7.30am, there's no family close to take him to school, so he comes along and school are fine about that.

[mum2taylor]

junk....you totally did the right thing and do not let any1 tell you otherwise...."alternative arrangements" are not that easy to make for some people and at the end of the day, the welfare of your children (whether you have 1 or 10) is more important than 1 day off school!!! Everyone is aware of the seriousness of this sickness bug that is going around and also how contagious it is (especially schools and so you should have been praised for being so sensible and not knocked for it!!! RANT OVER!

[ChippyMinton]

You are being perfectly reasonable. Last xmas, DS1 had been vomiting, DD seemed fine so she went off to the pre-school's xmas party. Two hours later I had to go and pick her up because she had thrown up all over the party food table . So now i take no chances, one vomits, they all stay at home.

[blisteringbarnacles]

i do have school age children
therefore i know i'm right

[blisteringbarnacles]

for a start -- big chance the child does have the bug and it will result in a lot more children missing a lot more school

there's more to school than a bit of reading and sums -- that's why we send them. but one day off, for a pretty good reason, is not going to do any harm AT ALL if you do a bit of reading with them at home

everybody who says the op is being unreasonable is totally overreacting

[blisteringbarnacles]

so it's not unreasonable for the child to stay off

Q2. how does it put the school out if she doesn't go

answer: it upsets their records

so what.

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